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Step Father Blog 42 Date :March 18,2022 Time :6:08pm Being a father doesn't need to be related by blood but how they act as a father. After I got married to Elmo. I didn't ask my daughter to call Elmo Papa, I just let her decide on her own base on what she felt. Eventually, she call Elmo Papa. I don't know what's her reason, maybe because she understands that Elmo is already my husband. I know that my daughter is longing for a father figure but from what I've observed Elmo is not a father figure to my daughter. After living together for more than 2 years, I notice how my daughter would interact with my husband. It seems that she doesn't feel like she has a father. Well! I can't blame my daughter. Elmo always gives me stress before, even until now but not that often anymore, as he will just leave without telling me where he goes. If my daughter will go somewhere she will only ask permission from me and Elmo notice it. He wonders why my daughter will not include him in asking permission.
My daughter is obedient, she will follow what I said. Before Elmo use to conclude without asking first and I honestly don't like it. My daughter always feels irritated if Elmo would conclude without asking. Ashee(my daughter) never talk back to me. She knows it is not good and I told her to respect not only me but to people older than her. But with Elmo sometimes she can't control her mouth. I was thinking why Ashee would react that way to Elmo? I never train her to be that way. Where did I go wrong? Then I realized it was because of what Elmo showed to Ashee. Elmo would do the household chores like cooking but he used to count what he have done. Just when he said "Oi ako pay Nagluto, then ako pud manghugas" (I'm the one who cooks and I will be the one to wash the dishes). I had to correct him, instead of saying that way, why not say it a nicer way, like okay since I am the one who cooks our food, can you do the favor to wash the dishes? **Elmo usually hurt or offended me by how he says things. It's not what you say but it's how you say it. I have been telling him to think first before he talks. But still, he doesn't learn.**
However, Elmo, with my unending advice and guidance, slowly learns his mistakes. He also learns to admit his mistakes. I know that he's been trying his best to be a father to Ashee. I understand how difficult for him to adjust not only to me but also to Ashee. ***Even if we've been living together for more than 2 years but for sure my daughter knows me better than my husband***. My daughter knows when I am not okay but my husband didn't know. It seems like Elmo is not sensitive enough to know what I really feel. My daughter knows how to comfort me if I'm sad. **Ending thoughts** Elmo might not be the biological father to Ashee but I know that He treats Ashee as his own daughter. It may take time for him to adjust but at least he is trying his best to change and be a good role model to our kids. `Thank you for your precious time.` Photos used in this article are all owned by yours truly unless it is stated. Lead Image edited using Text on Photo `To my sponsors old and new thank you for your unending support on my readcash journey. May God will shower you with all blessings in life.` Shout out to my ever generous sponsor sis @Bloghound thank you for renewing your sponsorship on me
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Yan ang maganda sis. Yung kahit hindi mo anak na totoo, maganda parin trato niya sa bata. May iba kasi sis na kapag hindi tunay na anak i-ignore lang at minsan sasaktan pa. Yun yung hindi maganda sis.
Ay Yun ang di ko papayagan sis. Mas Kaya Kong isacripisyo ang own happiness ko para sa safety ng anak ko.
Oo sis hindi talaga maganda yun sis. Very wrong talaga. Pwede ka makasuhan ang gagawa pag grabe na.
Buti nga Tama ang Napili ko at di yung taong sasaktan or aalililain Lang ang anak ko.
Oo sis. Nasa tamang tao ka sis. I'm happy for you sis. 🥰
Salamat sis
Mas nakakaramdam pa minsan yung mga bata sis compared to mga matanda, I really hope na habang nagdadalaga si bebegirl eh tuluyan na ding maayos ang pakitunguhan nila ng step father niya.
Sana nga maayos na sis kasi kahit anong mangyari eh iisang pamilya Lang kami
Glad to know sis na natutunan ni hubby mo maging father sa mga kids niyo, kahit na hindi talaga siya ang biological father ni Ashee. At masaya ako na kahit ano oang nangyari, di mo talaga sinukuan yung partner mo. Hinayaan mo siya na magbago kahit paunti-unti para sa pamilya niyo.
I do believe na lahat naman talaga ng Tao nagbabago kailangan Lang natin silang gabayan at paalalahanan palagi.
At least there is change and that's good to know :) Slow but sure and your patience in reminding him will work.
Yes at least he change slowly.
Pero in fairness sis bibihira ang ganyan lalaki na tayanggapin yung anak ng iba. Kaya siguro hirap pa din siya at nasa adjustment stage parin pero sure ko na magiging okay din ang lahat. Kasi mabait naman na bata ang ashee mo at matalino. Hindi siya mahirap mahalin kaya in the right time siguro sis magiging oakay at solid na kayo ng mister mo with ashee.,😊😉
Yes sis tanggap naman niya
Mabuti kung ganun kasi may ibang lalaki na hindi tanggap yung anak ngnpartnee nila sa iba. Magakaksundo din yan sila sis ng buong buo yun nga lang syempre keep distance lang din siguro si ashee kasi dalaga narin siya and maybe she realize na hindi naman niya kafugo si elmo so baka may napapanood din yan na mga nangyayari sa ganun you know. Kaya nagiingat lang maybe yung anak mo.
Yes sis I always remind her naman about it kasi nga my mga Tunay na ama nga na kayang baboyin ang sariling anak ano pa Kaya pag di kaano2x
i hope they'll get well eventually sis... i guess the reason why need talaga ng adjustment is because daku na si ashee and makasabot na sya sa situation...
Lagi sis. Saon was been trying to find the one man unta sa medyo gamay pas Ashee pero late man ghatag ni God si the one. Hehehe
ok ra na sis..for sure magkasinabot ra na sila in the long run
pohon2x sis.
Baka nag aadjust padin si Ashee sis but I am sure soon enough magkakasundo din sila.
Si hubby man gud sis is lahi ug dinad an ug Bata or teenager. Nadala niya ang iyang style sa ilaha which is dili pud Mao. Maninghag man gani na siya saona or mang accuse without asking first. Though hinay2x nawala na nah niya nga batasan ky ako man siya always correctionan.bisan pa ug dli gud example akong parents but even if I raise Ashee alone,Napadako man sad siya nako nga buotan ug dli matinumanon.
Slow but sure, sis. Timing is everything :)
Yes sis. Thank you
Both your daughter and your husband sis ay nasa stage pa ng adjustment. Hopefully they will have a good father and daughter relationship soon.
Yes sis Sana ay mgpaka father figure then si hubby