Maintaining marital happiness over time is not an easy task. The office, the accounts payable, keeping the house in order, social obligations, the stresses involved in leading a fresh and entertaining sex life and what for some is the main "problem" children: everything threatens the possibilities of eternal happiness of your marriage ... So, is this a mission impossible?
Children are not the main cause of conflict in the couple, as some people may think, according to most experts on family problems. Although they constitute a permanent source of concern and work, their presence and the love that derives from them is an integral part of the stability of most well-matched marriages.
Ignore your needs as a person and those of the couple if they are arguments seen by most experts as guilty of many marital failures. Marriage is much more than the formal union of two individuals, it is rather a "contract" made by love that requires continuous care and attention to survive. Just as you can't be too busy not to feed your baby, you can't let time go by without nurturing your relationship. When emotion and affection are lacking, the marriage starts to get boring and eventually runs out of reasons to survive.
To ensure that you arrive at your golden wedding anniversary with as much happiness as possible, follow these easy tips:
1. Steal moments from your day:
Find time to be alone with your husband: even if you have a dozen children, dedicate a little time each day to your relationship with your partner. Talk to him on the phone in the middle of the morning, send him a message, steal a moment to give him a caress while your children watch television and make him fall in love in privacy before the children get up in the morning or seek the help of someone who stays with him. them one night a week. Nurture your relationship with your partner to have the strength that allows you to face with joy the difficulties that inevitably appear.
2. Rediscover your sexuality:
Keep active physical contact with your partner as much as possible. Sex is not only practiced in bed and at night. Kiss and hug him with enthusiasm and desire rather than as a formality. Go to bed at the same time as him and try to make them fall asleep holding each other. When was the last time you showered with your husband or tickled him? Relax and relive your sexuality.
3. Revive the good times you had together:
Dust off those old photo albums, or now digital albums, and sit down for a drink with your husband to remember what they looked like when they were younger, they had no children and it seemed they had no commitments or worries either. They will relive many happy moments.
4. Don't be afraid of an argument:
Many times in a vain attempt to avoid conflict - and consequently prevent true intimacy - we avoid conversations about our differences, rages, fears, desires, needs, feelings and so many other things. Don't be afraid to touch sensitive matters, as communication is not just talking about the news, work, or problems around the house. To the extent that you can break down barriers in communication with your husband, both of you will be more free and capable of giving and receiving from the other.
5. Treat it with consideration:
Instead of complaining to him for forgetting to pick up the clothes at the dry cleaner on the way home, understand him and give him another chance. Think that something similar is what you would like to hear from him if your lunch burns. Complaining all the time does not lead to anything good, it only alienates your partner, while recognizing the other's values is reassuring for both of you. We all like to be praised for our virtues.
6. Ask him out:
Although sometimes it is complicated, it is essential that they leave home periodically. They don't have to spend too much: sometimes a stroll through a mall or sitting in a trendy cafe to try a dessert is enough to make both of you feel like you are dating again.
7. Patience:
Especially when the baby has just been born in the family, dad and mom will need a lot of patience. You will be permanently tired, you will have much less time to spend with your husband, you will become monothematic and there will be much less sex. Remember that this is temporary and any sign of affection between the two of you will make this period more bearable.
8. Take care:
When you can take a nap (even for 10 minutes), do not spend the whole day without cleaning claiming that it is to care for the baby, but you have another way to exercise get out of the house with your little one by car and walk at a good pace for 30 minutes. Do not stop fixing your hair, since feeling beautiful and cared for is important, especially for your partner, who will not like to see you constantly neglected.
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