Mom's look 👀 (English)

A series of immovable and immutable rules forever marked my childhood and adolescence.

In those days, mothers only needed a stern look for the children of the house, who were probably exhibiting bad behavior at that time, to stay rigid in the place or (wisely) they decided to sit down and wait for another look, already more indulgent, I gave him the go-ahead to go play again. I was one of those "girls of the house" marked by the fearsome influence of an authoritative look.

I remember that I had to wear the clothes that my mother chose for me without question, that when we arrived at the house of my grandmother or some other less close relative or friend of the house, I could not think of asking for a glass of water (although I could accept it if they offered it to me) and even less say "I'm hungry" or "I'm thirsty", because that was one of the worst insults for my mother: "daughter one must respect and never go overboard. Visitors feel in the living rooms of the houses and from there they do not move, just to go to the bathroom, until it is time to say goodbye".

It was a problem if it occurred to me to give my opinion in the middle of an adult chat or ask the lady of the house "How old are you?"... Once again I felt the cold sweat run through my body when it hit me account of that look... Followed many times by the phrase "at home we talk". The truth is that I had a severe mother but at the same time sweet.

She managed to buy me barbie dolls for my birthday, she taught me to read and from time to time she would take me for a walk to the park and eat delicious ice cream in a famous ice cream parlor that no longer exists today. In her little free time she shared with me and we watched television together. Because of these things, perhaps, her gaze never generated any confusion or trauma: she could exercise her authority with her right hand while with her left she gave me all her love.

Today it is not easy to exercise authority over children. Most parents are only at home for two or three hours at the most and they want to be with their children, please them, pamper them, buy things for them.

I don't think there is a child today who will stiffen while his mother looks at him. If this happened, I would surely ask: "Why are you looking at me like that?"

I even less believe that any little one refrains from expressing their gastronomic desires at anyone's home. Today children show their independence and display their opinions at any time and in any place and that is why authority is exercised in another way, perhaps with punishments or conciliatory conversations.

I am not sure if the past was better or not, but what I do know is that my mother, although she filled my house with rules that were truly enforced and few times I dared to ignore, gave me a lot of love and today, like all Previous days, he still worries about my well-being on a daily basis: that is the key for me, and that is why my advice is that parents should show love to our children in all moments of their lives.

A caress, a kind phrase, a congratulation for their achievements, an unexpected kiss, are the best gifts you can give your child. These arguments are more than enough for your child to learn to respect your authority.

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P.S.: The lead image was taken from the website desmotivaciones.es