Abuse

We could list them all day long. The more we want to control someone and the more we want to stop them from growing and taking charge of their lives, the more we will abuse that person. I recently read an article about the abusive nature of toxic parents. In case you don't know, a parent who is trying to control every aspect of their child's life by never letting them have any sense of personal power is referred to as a toxic parent.

The main source of this parenting style comes from a notion that life will be safer for the child if they are under their parents' careful supervision, so they cling to them and smother them with love, they do everything they can to keep their child under their thumb. But it's not love when you smother someone; it's abuse.

The same idea applies to love and marriage. And then it becomes even more intense when two toxic people get together, each one hoping to control the other by throwing their weight around as much as possible. The result is that you have two people constantly wanting to get back at each other for "the injustices" that have been committed against them and pointing blame at the other person for everything that goes wrong in the relationship.

'It's all your fault!' is a classic line that toxic people use against the person they've labeled as the bad guy, which happens to be their own reflection in the mirror.

The cause of the problem that leads to Abuse, living under a mask i.e  To act and behave differently from what we really are. But this, as they say, is where the wolf catches sheep. Cause of abuse is in our heads and has long been there. We are all different in temperament, personality and character. Some people are shy and vulnerable, others are confident and aggressive. Some people's temper is fragile, others - even in a good mood can easily fly into a rage.

Just like the main causes of abuse, I can't pinpoint to one specific cause for it. They all have their different reasons for it.

There are 3 major causes for abuse.

1.       financial and monetary. The spouse might be suffering from financial issues and this is why he or she is abusing the other spouse.

2.       emotional. The abuser might be emotionally hurt from something that the spouse did to him or her and this is why they want to harm the other spouse. 

3.       power and control. This is where the abuser knows that he or she has the power and control over the other spouse and they want to keep on abusing them just because they are controlling them.

There are several ways to prevent abuse, but there is no perfect solution.

The most important thing to do is to communicate well with your clients. Be clear on your expectations, and the responsibilities of the client. This will help reduce any misunderstandings. Clearly state what you expect from your clients, and be prepared to explain why certain requirements are needed.

The best way to address abusive situations is to remain calm, understanding and reasonable; even when things get heated.

You should keep a written or electronic history of all communications and violations, so you can later refer back if necessary.

Also, be sure that you understand the laws of your jurisdiction (such as copyright law or trademark law) and that you have help in applying them to the situation at hand; for example, if someone has infringed on your copyright, you probably want to refer the person first to a trusted attorney specializing in the field.

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