How Am I Breathing?

Communication is the breathing of the relationship. The more we communicate our wants, needs, and concerns -- the better and deeper our breathing becomes. When we treat others with short responses, no responses (aka bottling it up)-- our breathing becomes short or held/restrained causing unnecessary stress, when all we have to do is start taking deeper breaths. In other words, the deeper our breath the more open we are, and the more we communicate clearly and appropriately with our partner, friend, or family member.

The same way we have different forms of breathing which can put our bodies into certain emotional/mental states is the same way we have different forms of communication that can put our relationships into certain emotional/mental states.

There are 4 manners of communication in human relationships. 

•      Passive - Meh 😶

•              Aggressive - 🗣️🤬

•              Passive Aggressive - 🐍

•              Assertive - 😃💯

• (source) https://hellodivorce.com/style-communication-getting-way-relationships/#:~:text=Communication%20styles%20fall%20into%20four,into%20contact%20with%20each%20other.
  

Passive communication may sound exquisite and peaceful, but at what costs? When we are in passive communication mode -- we tend to hush up about our needs, wants, and/or plans to avoid having to speak up for ourselves because we are scared AF. At the end of the day, we fear we are going to be told to shut up because it might be what we were used to and if that's happening then we need to see that we deserve better.

Aggressive communication is being that one "woke" person. We finally found our voice or know that we have a voice and ain't shit anyone can do to shut us up. It can be ridiculously comical at times.

Passive-aggressive communication is a slithery snake mode. We become cancerous assholes when we subtly beat around the damn bush. We hint at the issue with passive-aggressive behaviors such as unnecessary commentary.

Assertive communication is the creme de la crop. It's the utopic art of conveying one's message clear, concise, respectfully, and wholly. We are clearly communicating our message to the other person in the relationship.

How do you feel you are communicating in your relationships?

How are others communicating with you?

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