Comparisons suck

I have always hate comparison,,As a kid and as a teen... I was compared, with my cousins and my mother,with a kids of colleagues of my mother....with friends by my other friends and with my boyfriend,girlfriend and Best friend. With all this going on I was strong to hold on to my true identity to my pure self,or I wonder, was I really able to to hold onto my self evet? Am I the same me I was five year ago and here is where I fumble and fail to lead all of my thoughts to a single focal point but I know all I want is to be appreciated for who I really am....