Zika Dating Service, Chapter 1
Finding the right person is close to impossible.
Ending up with the one is a dream that many never see and experience. I would place friendship at the top of my list before looking at other features and sex at the bottom of the list because a friend will be there with or without romance or money. Yes, we date for the spice of life such as kisses and hugs but life requires a commitment to navigate through all the challenges. Having someone by your side is what I believe love suppose to be.
Comparing lovers to what?
What do want from someone you just met or started a serious relationship with. Why? you compare them to your ex or your imagination of what the perfect person should be in your life and are disappointed at the results and now you want to end it because the person is nothing as you expected while being slow in changing. Searching for the right love of your life should start with a clean slate and match up to the important aspects you looking for now, not what someone else has for the moment.
Love is having butterflies in the stomach, constantly smiling thinking about your lover. Love shows so much depth of feeling that surprises you. Imagine waking up next to the person who constantly motivates you to be a better person, a person that has the best interest for you at heart, waking up next to your not only lover but a best friend. Wouldn't you want to show them your greatest affection unconditionally to stand beside them through their bad times? Well, that is love and it is beautiful.
Unfortunately, the only thing that counts into days' age of dating is.
1. Looks, firstly the appearance and thought of how cute you will look together.
2. Sexual satisfaction and romance with constant flirting as though you'll never pass this phase.
After this point, the relationship goes sideways because they are not compatible or seem to get along and grow apart.
3. Money standpoint, wait here's the new thing, too rich is a problem for independent pursues and not rich enough, is well, still the standard expectancy.
4. Family and that's an all-round issue for many people from the in-laws to the kids and especially the friends that grew into a family.
My list wont be like yours but the fundamental ingredient is.
Friendship
Before we dive into the passion of the heart in the next chapter I would like to hover over this topic. After many years of living as a couple married or not, an outburst of anger has been building up, and suddenly love becomes hate and they don't understand each other anymore. Your choice at that moment after the fight is to a be a friend or the problem, now both sides have to work on fixing things but, in my opinion, friends will find a solution and stay friends whereas lovers solution towards pain is to never see each other again.
My suggestion not solution is to find the friend in your soul mate before looking for the other requirements in your search. My non-professional opinion is to find happiness that lasts throughout fights and hardship because hardship in financial problems and emotional turmoil can destroy your inner self. Having a supportive friend is key to recovery and having that friend as a lover and companion for life to the greatest gift of all.
Love has a sweet feeling that's warm and fuzzy, it motivates you to do the impossible for what you love. Thinking all day and dreaming all night about it and wishing it never stops. With so much into it, you are ready to die for it until it hurts you so bad you are a changed person so life.
What wisdom would you apply? thinking about the good versus the bad and deciding based on love and wisdom because staying in a toxic relationship is not good but that's a topic for another day. I would like to leave you with this question.
If sex was removed from your relationship, would you still be committed and romantic?
Thank you for reading and I hope to see you now now.
