Things to do when a friend is spreading rumors about you.

Take a moment to calm down.

Even though learning that a buddy has been spreading lies about you is extremely upsetting, it's critical to maintain your composure. Don't get into a fight with your friend, and don't get into a fight with yourself. During the initial shock, it's tempting to lose control, but this will only make things worse.

Talk to a friend you haven't seen in a while.

When you've calmed down a bit, it's appropriate to bring up the subject with your friend. Don't be afraid to say what you mean. Be honest with your friend about how the rumors have affected you personally. Explain the purpose of the meeting and how you are feeling before you meet."

Do not allow yourself to get depressed by the circumstances.

When a friend is spreading stories about you, you may feel exposed, ashamed, and even humiliated. It's important to keep in touch with those who care about you, even if you feel like no one cares.

Keep in mind that the gossip isn't about you.

A lot of the time, the person who is being gossiped about is saying more about themselves than they are saying anything at all. Remind yourself that you can only manage your own ideas, actions, and beliefs about yourself.

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Think back to the conversation and the relationship you had with the person you were speaking with.

You may have a lot on your mind after speaking with your friend. This inquiry may help you contemplate;

Consider how your friend's response made you feel (e.g. seen, understood, annoyed, bewildered, etc.). Do I trust my friend to follow their word and value our connection in the future?

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It's time to part ways.

It's time to cut the cord if your friend displays indifference to the matter or keeps spreading stories about you after you've spoken to them about it. Staying in a toxic habit isn't healthy for your mental health, so be willing to pull back from the friendship if it's affecting your mental health.