Is there any point in your life that you did something that you hate, because of guilt? You do favors because you can't say no? You can't say say no, because that someone asking you favor had helped you before? Because you owe them, you are obliged to do all their favors even you hated it. This is what you call giving respect to the one who have helped you but sometimes this is already toxic when that someone always showing to you that you are indepted to them, that he/she wanted you to feel guilt and conscience in order for you to follow their orders.
Have you ever exerperience that you don't want to do something but you can't say no because that someone have helped you a lot? One time in my life, I have this someone who are lazy in reviewing his lessons. He can't even know how to open his book and take down notes the important details when the teacher discuss something. When the exam came he failed because he didn't make an effort to review. One time he approach and asking me answers I can't say no because that someone had helped me financially and he is my cousin. I wanted to say no, because I know in myself that I am not helping him to learn. I am helping him to be indolent and being dependent to other people. Thats why one time I talked to him thats the last time that I will give him aswers and I'm glad that he understood me. I am also afraid that somoene caught us cheating.
Thats story is just simple but other people story about owing someone can't defend theirself because they already felt inferior and forever indepted. This is not bad but if it is already asking you to do favors that beyond human right its bad already. Some people helped you because they knew that they can use you in the future. Thats what I'm always observing in every drama's I've watched. I know that's the thrill of every story. They are using money or their power to pamper someone until that someone can't pay it anymore and feeling owe to them big time. When its time to ask you favors, you can't say no for you knew that someone have helped you a lot. Even its bad you do it because you owe them a lot. And if you complain they are playing the victim and bringingback the things that they've done to you. You can can only feel guilty when that orders affects your family,friends and relatives. Thats the only time that you take courage to fight and stop being slave to someone you indepted.
They say, that helping should not be expecting something in return for its naturally comes from your heart and let God bless you more. Many times I've heard in my neighborhood that "you should help someone you know who have potential, someday that someone will also help you in time". Is there any wrong with that? Well yes, because there is discrimation and wrong mindset. Discrmination in a sense that they only help those people who they knew that they can use it in the future. There is also a wrong mindset because they helped with hidden interest. The worst part is that you're not aware of their plan and they claim it the way they wanted.
Some people now a days helped someone not because they are being kind and generous but because they are planning things how they can owe them and collect all those favors in time. This is dangerous because your expecting that it is a big help to you but the thing is, its a trap. They are proposing a deal without you knowing it.
Lets all be guided that not all people showing kindness and generosity are true because some people are fake. They doing you favor not because they wanted to help you and its their principles to help but they do you favor because they want something from you.
