Truly in the society we find our self, sexual violence is an unseen terrorist that’s been rampaging all around and happy to hear or know that the society is deploying every tactics she knows in fighting it. But the society seems like to be fighting this war with a tactics that’s more favorable to one gender over the other not because its intentional but because the society seems to look towards one gender as the victim and the other as the perpetrator.
Anytime sexual violence is been reported, 95% if not 99% of the populace believes the female to be the victim and of course the male the perpetrator, why? Well, this may be as a result of different reasons which we as an individual can think within ourselves but some of the reasons why the society has always seen the females as the victims is because the society we found our self has imbedded this ideology into us all that the female are the only species that suffers such violence, why? Because we are all taught that the males are always in control when it comes to any sexually related activity. Also I also think that the fact that the females always speak out whenever they fall victims, has also strengthen the believe of what the society has imbedded in us all.
Due to the above, the society has in one way or the other turn a deaf ear or blind eye to this same terrorism fighting the men/boys. Robert Blum a physician with over 40yrs of studying adolescents and also one of Johns Hopkins scholars, in one of his words said “our data suggest that, the myth that boys are advantaged and girls are disadvantaged simply isn’t true”. Even more troubling Blum said, the research he and his team carried out showed that boys suffers even higher levels of physical violence, neglect and sexual abuse than girls. As we all know, the movement for gender equality is focused on empowering the girls. But to Blum, acquiring gender equality also requires attention for boys. Those findings I think should ring a bit. We can’t solve the problem of sexual violence against girls and women without also addressing violence against men and boys. For the more a boy is victimized, the more likely he would do just that to others.
Statistics showed that 10 out of every sixty boys/men that is, 1:6 has been sexually victimized. And in 2015, a survey by Centers for Disease Controls and Preventions found out that, about 4million men (5.6million women) had been sexually victimized just the previous year. As I said earlier, any case of sexual assault that arise is been seen by everyone as boys being the perpetrator and the girls the victims, but that is a damaging ideology built on the stereotype that males are invulnerable. And this has canceled the truth that boys get hurt and men need help. We just found our self in a society that makes it hard for men to admit to this truth.
To fight this terror of sexual violence in our society, attention shouldn’t be one sided, but all sided. For it’s a battle fighting from every sides and we need to counter from every side.
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Hi everyone I’m Michael by name and a member of this great platform for months now. As you might have noticed, this is the first post from me for the past two to three months now. I wasn’t able to publish any post not because I was sick nor is read.cash rejecting my post. The problem is, I was robbed of all my gadgets (laptop and phones) which I use for work (3D) and also write articles which I post here. I am currently handicapped, because I can’t take new jobs as a freelancer since what I use for work has been stolen. My post of today was from a friend. The total amount I need to get another laptop is $200 and I promise to use the funds for the sole purpose. No amount is too little