I remember when I was still playing active football, a guy came to our training pitch and challenged all of us that no one could run as fast as him and he was willing to stake 10k, he also have a hypeman who confirmed that he's very fast and that he'd gap any one of us, It became so embarrassing and my coach at the time (Coach mick) called me forward to take him on and staked 10k. I saw the confidence he had in me and I was so motivated, his only pep talk was "go and show him".We started the race and I gapped the werey and he was so ashamed.
The point here is that, it's good to believe in yourself but having people that believes in you gives you more strength. If you have people like that, they are your super powers, hold them dearly. It take someone a whole before they can believe in you. For people to believe in you and have confidence in you,you must have given them many reasons to believe in you. Your way of life,your character, your way of thinking and reasoning, your talking,the way you relate to people,all these are some criteria that shows yes I can confined in someone. My coach didn't see me as a girl before sending me forward on the challenge, he saw the passion in me and knows I can so even when I was scared but the way he singled me out of the other male players which I'm the only female gave me the strength to go on with the challenge.
When I was in the University I studied education,during my teaching practice I do woke up too early to get to my school of practice. When the class teacher of the class saw that I do came before everyone,she gave me the key to the class. When I was sick to my surprise teachers from the school came to check on me. They all know me in the school because I lead the assembly even on Friday that is Muslim prayer,I learn so fast in how they do things and I abide by everything. When my practice was over they all told me not to leave that they still want me around to teach. It is what I laid down that make them feel like retaining me. Give the chance for people to be able to believe in you.
Its so interesting to know you live football. Its amazing to see ladies play the game of soccer.