I saw an article on noise.cash and I was surprised with what the writer wrote. I will be quoting @Kenechukwu from noise.cash
"Are parents ready to punish their kids for commiting an offence? When a kid commits offence at home, school or other public gathering, their parents often prefers to set their kids free without giving them the privilege to pay for their misdeeds. In fact, one of the childhood memories l have about parent child relationship is the fact that alot of parents - not mine - can overlook and cover up the sin of their kids all in the name of parental love. They go as far as exchanging abusive words or blows with anyone that dares to discipline their kids for doing the wrong thing. Funny enough, teachers are also not exempted from their attack. Up till date, l still see parents that turn blind eye on the misbehavior of their kids and choose to cover up their mess all in the name of parental love. They go as far as covering up their crimes and doing anything possible to make sure that they would escape being punished for their actions"
After reading the article it took my memory back to when I was growing,I can virtually say most things I'm been punished for isn't my fault. My dad is a military officer,he do treat me like offenders,he beat me like I'm the most annoying child in the world. I have other four siblings but I can say I'm the only one he do beat. Sometimes I do feel like maybe he's not my dad or something or maybe he hates me so much that he can't murder me so he should beat me endlessly. Smiles,the last beating I received from my dad was funny and deadly.
On that faithful afternoon,my dad was on a night duty so he will resume work by 4pm. He ask me to cook his lunch which will also serve as his dinner. I prepared solid food but can't remember which one,after he ate part he ask me to come and take the remaining,I took it to the room for my junior ones to eat,oh yes I also have my little cousins around and they all ate the food. One of my cousins used the plate I used to serve soup to eat and it mistakenly fell,haaaa at that moment I know I'm done for,even before my dad get to the room I was already crying,he entered the room already prepared holding his military netal belt,he ask everyone in the room to get out then I know here comes my death. My own so called dad locked the door and beat me till I started bleeding from my head. I was having a low cut hair so it was so easy for my head to 😢 tear, our co-tenants were at the door shouting out at him to open the door but my dad's beating hormones are just getting stronger the more people knock. He beat me till his satisfaction then open the door,our co-tenants came in to see me laying on the floor crying,they took me outside and to their surprise blood was all-over my face on top wetin I no do,our co-tenants had to look for razor to cut off my hair so they can see my scarp.
Till today I still remember that day and be like no I will never lay my hands on any child,my child or not mine I will never beat any child. I'm a teacher but I fear to teacher because of my anger part so I won't end up beating a child to stupor. Nobody can tell me parents don't punish their kids they should ask me I will tell you the story of my life. As for me I fear African parents o. It so bad to beat children to stupor, I don't support beating and st same time I don't support spoiling the child.
There are ways you can punish a child when he/she sid wrong without using harmful objects.Show and tell. Teach children right from wrong with calm words and actions. ...
Set limits. ...
Give consequences. ...
Hear them out. ...
Give them your attention. ...
Catch them being good. ...
Know when not to respond. ...
Be prepared for trouble.
Instead of punishing them why not go by the above listed to do,don't take decipline for punishment.Discipline may feel as though you’re punishing your kids. However, discipline is more of a means of actively engaging with kids to help mold their moral character — a way to teach them right from wrong. And this is a skill that is vital to functioning in society especially in African world.“With discipline, we’re teaching our children self-control and restraint,” explains Dr. Gaydos. “Punishment is a direct, pointed penalty or a loss of privilege that serves as retribution.”While discipline is far more effective than punishment, know that it does require a little more work. Just remember that it’s a process. Understand your youngsters and by that you know what best to train them right.
@Princessbusayo thanks for the upvote on my previous post