The Impossible Task Of Figuring Out Your Life
Strange metaphors aside, one of the things that I have learned, and have relearned, is that life is all about understanding things, and yet, you will never completely understand them. To an outsider, an impossibility challenge is something that should be easy, yet someone suffering from depression just cannot get on with the task at hand.
The impossible task is something that should be simple, but you cannot bring yourself to do it, so you begin beating yourself up because you cannot do something so simple.
Sometimes, the impossible task is something the person really wants to do but cannot seem to motivate themselves to do. Sometimes impossible tasks are things they can't bring themselves to do because they'd rather not do them in the first place but were able to motivate themselves to do them before.
Examples of impossible tasks might include having a desperate need to have a clean room but feeling like you cannot even make a bed, or waiting for mail to come in but having to go to the mailbox afterwards feeling way too time-consuming. Sometimes, even the most simple tasks seem hard to get through.
A task can only feel impossible because you are stuck in your view of it. An impossible task may even be changing, according to Backes, who writes that it can suddenly become something completely different someday, like not being able to make a meal. The sooner you accept that you are going to figure out a way to accomplish the task, the better. When it comes to finding energy and motivation to get things done, oftentimes the solution is making an impossible task look like it's possible.
Once it seems possible, you can figure out ways to break it down so that it is easier to stomach and accomplish. For comfort, it can be useful to first try it with something small, then test it out with an impossible task. You will want to seek proper assistance to prevent your mind from constantly creating new impossible tasks for you to try. If you have a mental health disorder that makes it difficult to complete certain tasks, simply doing those tasks is not actually solving the problem.
The idea of doing something will then trigger you with such anxiety that you will never feel like you will manage to do it. At the same time, someone suffering from depression might beat themselves up mentally over not being able to accomplish a simple task. The impossible task does not only disappoint a person experiencing depression; it may also cause their loved ones to feel anxious, as their lack of action is perceived as laziness or procrastination.
You can spread your smaller tasks out, making it a little less daunting to accomplish the entire thing. If you can remove tasks or obligations that are not necessary from your normal schedule, then do it.