People always has to say.

I am trying to keep my cool because I know when I speak, I can hurt someone.

Why do people find it so hard to just understand the situation and just shut up? Can't they mind their own business and never meddle especially when they are not involved? The more people has to say something, the more things gets complicated.

Speak when you are ask. Listen when you are told. You can have your own opinion but you have to choose if you will say it bluntly or just keep it with yourself. You'll know when your words are needed and when it's not. Learn to observe the happenings before you open your mouth.

I know that we are different when it comes to being a friend or a family. But if your friend shares something about his/her life or maybe about their frustrations in the family, all I could say is please be on her side even though by listening to her/him you'll know that he/she is wrong. Your friends knows that what she did is never right, all she need is someone who understand why she had to do it. But at the end of your conversation, let her know the possible consequences for the left & right way.

People's reaction when they know that we get a house unit with my partner.

• Positive Side - To those people that understand our ground why we prioritize having our own house than marrying first, thank you very much. We have the same mindset. In our planning stage of having our family, we really decided to not live with our parents because we wanted to survive on our own. And if we rent a space for how many months or years, we feel like the money we pay for rental became a lost because the space will never be ours. That is why, we risk to purchase a house unit that will be name on us even though we have to pay it for many years. Right after we secure the house, our next project is to plan our marriage :') And I am a strong believer of if you want to pursue marriage in your relationship, you have to live together first and observe your individual character in being together under one roof. This will help you decide to continue with the relationship or not.

• Negative Side - A lot of people says that we should be get married first before we continue our plan (buying a house) so that we are legal by law and by the eyes of our Lord. But I say, the Lord knows our intentions and I believe He will understand as long as no pre-marital sex happen. Many also mention that what if we broke up, what will happen to the house? We don't want to complicate things, if we happen to be not for each other (hopefully not, please Lord) then I guess we have to give way for the ownership. Less complications and less drama. We understand and knows the situations very well.

At the end of the day, what people says should never bother you because your future depends on yourself and not them. They will always have a word regardless of what you've done. So atleast, be at your happiest in whatever you are now and that is our main goal. Be happy and let them envy you.

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Thank you :))