Every home is not designed to be broken,it is to stay together for the rest of their lives.Suddenly there's a point in love that they stopped to loved each other.This was the most painful thing to happened in a family life.Well,it will destroy not only for husband and wife ,most of all with the kids.
Broken relationship touched every part of life,emotional,financial,and spiritual.
Let me tell you a short true story;
There was a woman who suffer from being a single mother.It was a very painful changed.When she broke up with her husband,his son was about two years old,and she is pregnant with their second baby.She was having a difficulty in their living,she lost her job and she struggle that her baby was born without a father,and the shame,order of worth.But she said she don't want to be labelled as a 'broken family',she don't want to defined her life with the relationship she leave,but she defined herself with the relationship they live right now.That's what happen to a woman.
How about the kids,sincerely i almost cry when i heard a girl who narrate her struggles and emotional baggage because of being a broken family.She said,she doesn't understand why her parents choice to stopped loving each other.Everyday she always dreamed that one day her family will be together again,but it is imposible to happen,she said.She said its so hard to see her parents that they come to an end relationship.She wonder how happy it was that a family is complete .The children doesn't really want to have a broken family ,no,not.
Other things resulting to a broken relationship
Full of anger- as the kids grew up,they bear anger with their hearts ,it creates hatred toward their parents.Often think,'they don't loved us anymore.
Childhood upbringing-it affects in the aspect of view point in life,being bully and not desirable behavior.
Kids suffer in their studies-Study show that most children with broken relationship getting hard academically,and also in terms of financial like tuition fees.
Their having an identity crisis-they can't defined themselves,feeling of emptiness was establised,rejected,insecurity.
Struggle with security-security about the future on how to survive in living without a father's image.
Often they are misunderstand with their friends or other family members because of changes in behavior
Feeling unloved
This scenario was very sad,but it should not be hopeless at all.Life must go on.
For the children,
1.Try to talk your parents separately.Listen with both sides of their story why is this happening to the both of them.
2.Try to stop blaming both parent and changed your point of view in life.If the situation was ireversible there's a need of acceptance and continuing .
3.Try to maintain you relationship right with parent even in separate way.
Every broken pieces can be mended
Start with forgiveness.-It is the keyword to every problem inside the home,forgiving will set you free,when you give forgiveness you will earn happiness in your heart.Because it was too heavy to bear when the heart is full of hate.
Look for the nice things with your spouse.Highlight all positive things that both of you experienced.
Identify the problem.This is to make things clear ,and to avoid different assumptions for everyone.When the cause was identified,then find solutions.
Used kind words .This is to prevent of having an argument.Pay attention with other side explanation.No yelling and nagging.
Give time.This is the best way to express your love for him.
A family who is having a fight ,or trouble doesn't mean that it needs to come to an end.Here is a tip from a counselor,don't decide immediately,especially when you are angry.Just cool down first and decide when your both in right mind.
Sometimes when you surpass to a relationship problem it makes both sides became stronger.We don't need to judged this broken family because all things happened for a reason.There's always a cause for everything,and everyone has its own choice.Nobody's perfect I'll say,everyone commit mistakes,encounter failures.We need to avoid prejudism to anyone,especially those people who encounter this kind of life situation.Its not easy though.
According to an statistics 2.7million kids live alone with their mother and 3.8 million children live with only one biological parent,this survey was 2019,how about now in year 2020,I don't want to give an assumptions.All i can say that ,may God intervened with this situation.
What can we do
Pray for all broken family-personally this was not found in my prayer list,I'm totally reminded!.Pray for God's healing to each family.
For the broken
Put your hope in the Lord-Zephaniah 3:17- We are broken but God still takes"great delight"in us.He rejoices over us with singing ."God loves us so" much despite all junks we have in our lives.There is nothing we can do,or that anyone can do to us,that will separate us from God.
Life must go on-whatever situation maybe,if you can't changed the past ,you can changed the present,and make things better to set a new life chapter.
Improve yourself-take a new step once at a time to make yourself productive
Honor them-the respect for parents will always be,whatever happens they are still your parents.
Recognize the pain-it means ,its okey to cry,pour out your heart away to find released
Marriage life,family life will not always like a fairytale story that will always be a happy ending.Its full of flats and curves through the way.
So let's cherish each day being together.Find hapiness inside the home,mostly we seek happiness outside the house like leisures but family is happiness .
Desire a happy home that aim togetherness.
When life get's broken its never late to start all over again.
Thanks for reading!
God bless everyone!
