Is this me? Or is it you? Or him, or her?Nagger, what does this word means?When I search for this word it says, "naninising lage"'and someone who annoys people by constantly finding fault (especially women).
Is it true?.Maybe yes, or maybe no. How do we find this attitude? How do we use this? How should we react when she nag?
Nagging can be more than just irritating, it may indicate a more crucial underlying problem, they nag because they don't feel that they were heard. But this word is always been referred to as a nagging wife or a mother.
Well, growing up I always heard my mother doing so. Especially when her children refuse to obey her, or if she is saying something but no one wants to hear. Most mothers nag their kids while most kids always complain that their mom was nagging.
Parents nag because they care for their children they wish to be a part of our lives, and they want to understand us. They want to have a good connection with us but at the same time, they want to conserve the function of being a parent.
How come that nagging will destroy a relationship?
Most men complain of a nagging wife. Nagging can destroy a relationship or can cause a divorce. Why should we not to nag our man?
1. They will acknowledge that you're a mother to him.
This can direct to anger or discomfort. If you always nag with him, you know it will cause trouble. And you don't want your husband or partner to become irritable. And he will always connect to the fact that you seem like a mother to him when you are not.
2. You'll realize that nobodies want to hear
This is done when your repeating your statement more times from top to bottom, from bottom to top. Nobody wants to hear a nagging voice, within 10 people are there a 5or 2 who will welcome a nagging voice? Maybe yes, or no. It depends on how that person will accept the reality of his wife.
Women are more apt to nag mostly because they are mended to think more accountable for supervising family life. If nagging exists compelling your man to listen, try several strategies.
3.Nagging will become the topic rather than the real problem
If you want to settle something focus on the issue and not to nag. Instead of talking about a relationship, and other topics, nagging will become the highlights.
4.It will kill happiness
You'll nag more often, the more the people will not want to be with you and to think that they were stressed from you. Communicate with each other.
5.It can cause doubt to both parties, and question about the relationship
Mostly when the woman is a nagger it is very unpleasant for men, keep on repeating faults in the past. Until the other one will get discouraged with his/her partner.
Nagging can harm a relationship, maybe yes, and maybe no. It depends upon the reasons why women are nagger. Sometimes it's because the kids failed to answer their homework, the husband failed to pick up the clothes in the bathroom, or throwing garbage anywhere. Sometimes it helps for the sake of discipline but not to nag all the time or every time will also cause rebellion with the kids. Kids get enough nags from their mom that's why they don't want to go home and go somewhere else. Also for husbands who often hear his wife nags come home late to avoid the nags of the wife.
Nagging is one of the ways that most mother's do, but as for me I nag when I feel that no one wants to hear me, and when I was offended with my kids and my husband.The truth is after I talk a lot,I feel so tired and exhausted,it's a waste of energy.But you know what, there are certain people who really need to talk of what they feel, those who have an underlying heart condition and its not good for them to just keep their feelings and nothing to talk about for them to feel better and release after they talk a lot.So be aware to check out the reasons behind a nagging woman.
Nagger wife
Proverbs 21:9 says It is better to live in a desert land than with a quarrelsome and fretful wife.
Husband plays an important role when the wife is a nagger. But it is not a reason to give up on our loved ones. Because one day, you will miss those nagging times of your mother or your wife. What can we do?
This will test the vows that both persons declare during the wedding ceremony. That to love forever till death do us part. But it's not easy though, it will trigger our anger. But when he truly loved her he should accept and talk to her about it.
Don't talk back
Just let her talk and talk and talk. Until such time that the emotion slow down.The more you talk back the more she talks and makes things worst.
Talk about
Set a time to settle and find the main reason why the wife always nag. For example, if it is because of the littering of the kids or the clothes which are not put in the right place, make things get organized and fixed.
Let love overflows
I despite the nagging wife or mother, always remember who she is, and not what she does. Because things will get change after time passes by. Love will cover all the flaws that each of us shows.
Develop a good conversation
Make a conversation, and decide on how to correct each family member without nagging. I've learned from a person who gives a correct response to the failure committed by a house helper. She told her to cook pansit guisado but when she tastes it, it lacks salt and not good but what she said" It's cooked then but next time its better to add a little bit of salt", then she smiles at her. The house helper was glad and feel relax when she heard it because she thought that her boss will get angry at her. So from then on, she always makes sure that she doing her job right. Therefore, nothing can't be solved through the right conversation in the right way.
Nagging is just an implication that human has it's own innate flaws and differences but all we need to do is to understand and fix things as soon as possible. Before it comes to the point of breakup and divorce is the worst.
A mother/wife is the house manager so therefore everyone is responsible to heed their voice, well in a constructive way of giving instructions and not the offensive one that hurt your loved ones.
This quote enlighten me,
She's not nagging, she's trying to tell you something. The only reason she's persistent is that she cares. When she stops nagging as you call it, you should be worried because at that point she no longer cares.😂😂😂
Daghang Salamat!
This is so true! My mother used to nag at me every time mostly when I did something wrong in school, my friends, and my classmates, She nags at me when I did that and yes it's because she cares for me.
Before we have a really long fight where I have a girlfriend that I really love, I fight my mom because she always says that my Girlfriend is a slut and a non-educated person, I been fighting to protect my girl for a month, and then later after a long fight I saw my girl talking to someone else with a sweet message, It really hurts me, the fact that I choose her rather than choosing my own mother is the biggest mistake I did in my entire life.
And after that happening, I always believe that mother knows the best, and yeah we are ok now. Thank you for this article, It reminds me a lot from my mom.