In every day of our life, we face different types of battle, and when we evaluate it is tons of battle in our life. But how can we go against every battle we face? For example, you are riding your car and someone cut you, would you choose to fight back? Or how about when someone accidentally stamps your foot which has ingrown, oh it's very painful. Would you choose to fight against him?
There are different kinds of battle, home front battle, job front, traffic, road, or in a line in which you pay your order. Why do we need to choose our battle?
We need to ask ourselves do we need to attend every battle that we encounter. Or is it worth fighting for? Maybe right now you have different battles in your life to the point that it drained our energy. For example, there a man who's riding a bus when someone bumps up his shoulder, and the man was yelling at him and shout at his face, and then he wants to stop the bus and call the driver who didn't stop. After that, he feels stressed and tired walking down the bus.
Is it important to prove ourselves to anyone that you are right and he is wrong, and justify ourselves against them?
To choose our battle is a wise decision, it is in the issue of giving our energy into it and putting our attention to something.
Home front battle
As a mother, I have a lot of battle to face each day, there are my kids fighting, and most of the time I waste my energy by shouting with them, yelling with them. Still, it's nonsense because I take it so seriously to the point I almost hurt them. After a while, they are friends again without any argument. But for me it was a serious matter already, that's why to choose battle is to save our energy into something important.
Every day we face a lot of situations in our home that we need to face, against our husband, our kids, financial crisis, budgeting, and a lot more issues inside the house. But one thing we need to remember that the person we live together is not our enemy, and they are family. That's why we need to think about it how are we gonna face this battle. This battle in life is worth fighting for when it is related to our future and family reasons. There is a face-off with this, but we should remember which one deserves battling and which one is a waste of time and energy.
Job front
A lot of people are facing this kind of battle, when they lost their job because of the pandemic, it is a battle for family provision. You don't need to prove yourself to your workmate that he is wrong and you are right when it is not worth it to tell. Fighting every person that looked at you and yelling at them is not a good idea.
Battle of the heart
Battle of the heart is a crucial one, which may cause someone to give up and become desperate.
Some men fight because of a woman, and women fight because of a man. And maybe other people are heartbroken, because of a broken relationship. There's a question is that man/woman is worth fighting for.
Physical battles
You may be experiencing pain, illness with a covid19, physical health, and some physical issues that we didn't expect. How do we handle this battle?
Some have the battle of temptation
Battles of depression, fear, worry
Trusting and believing
Financial battles
There are certain things to consider when choosing our battle
If it affects our future, family, relationship, and life
Is it not just a waste of time and energy
Is that what you are focusing on
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There are times when we need to let go or to release, if it is not beneficial for you, or it is not for you to resolve.
There are times which the circumstances are already beyond our capacity, if there's a need to submit it to the authority, or in the head of the family then put that down and relaxed. Sometimes we need to;
1.Step back
The adversity will sometimes smash our emotions and underestimate us and tell us something that hurt our feelings and manipulate us. We need to step back, and tell ourselves, "that's it, it's enough". It is not our responsibility to please people around us because whatever we do and say, everybody has something to tell about us. Sometimes it's not bad to retreat from a battle, it's not mean to surrender but to gain strength to fight better.
2.Have compassion
I know maybe it sounds stupid. To be compassionate to someone who offends you and hurts you. But did you know that sometimes the person who sounds foolish is the one who needs help, that's why he acts like that because there is something that he is going through? So when the opponent is on fire, pour with water, because if you fight with him, he will drag you at the corner of the ring. It may sound cowardly but it's a wise move.
3.Talk it out
Express your feelings when feel you are loaded with your battle, talk to a friend, or even with your dog, or cat, as long as you can say it, and pour out your feelings to something that you encounter. This is to avoid you from having a breakdown within your emotions.
One thing I would like to share with you this year's end. Traditionally we have a new year's resolution, how about If we establish our mission and vision in life. This is to enable us to set our goals and focus on life in the coming year 2020. And one of our mission is to learn to choose our battles in life this coming year.
In this battlefield of life, we exercise the sense of reacting, on how we react to something that happened to us and how we deal with it so that we will not waste our time and energy for a certain reason. Investing our energy in something vital in our growth, and learnings and to make us a better person is very admirable. Know your opponent, and make sure that your energy is not being sapped with it.
We don't need to fear this battle, because someone is willing to fight for us, it's God. He is the one who leads us to keep on fighting.
(Quotes from Pinterest)
Choose your battle wisely.
I've come to comprehend that life is neither a battle nor a game to be won, it is a game nonetheless to be played.
Sometimes the best for you can do is just stay silent because no words can say the battle that going in your heart and mind.
Learn to decide on your battle. Battles not fought are not lost, simply battles not worth fighting for.
Thank you!
It true we face different battle every day