@Winx1988 2 March 2022 edited more from that month

Don't talk at their backs Warning:Read at your own risk. Sorry for writing this topic,actually I already read some posts here that discuss about this ,but his one is my rants for the day,which makes me sometimes emotional. Have you heard a couple of ladies,instead of calling them Marites,I called them "weak people". Why do I say so?Instead of condemning them,I can must say that they need help.I have learned that people who often see the weakness of others have find themselves feeling low.It affects mental health according to a psychologist that I have heard from the news on tv.People hurting people,friends against their friends ,relatives against relatives.As we have observed ,they are not perfect humans ,but as they do gossip with others the more they showed up that they are weak.And honestly,I admit that I am not strong enough,and deny that I am not a gossip person,it happens to me also.And it helps me to be aware to keep my mind healthy. How do I know that these people are talking back with their friend?When they talk like in a very small voice,like jerry (the mouse),and their eyes were looking side by side.They are doing this early in the morning or at noon.Why don't they just cooked food in their respective houses,instead of having a breakfast ,which I think gossipers really find gossip a very sweet and tasty food because they really loved it. Talking back with a friend for me is a kind of betrayal,it means it's like showing a pretentious attitude in front of your friend.How do you know when your friends are not true to you?Observed when they are talking and looking with each other,their eyes speaks lies and sarcastic,it's dangerous like a snake. The mouth of the gossip is compared with an open tomb,the way it smells and they just like burying a living,with their own words full of critics ,and negativity towards other people. What kind of topics do they like to talk with? They are fan of talking their friends failures and and flaws,and sometimes they compare their friends with themselves to show that they are far better than them.Their conversations are getting higher and higher,but in the end ,all they like to show up are themselves. How do they react when they get caught? They will roar like a lion and bark like a dog,that they are not doing wrong,and they didn't say anything.Is there a thief who will say,in front of the people,that "I am a thief",nothing,they will deny to the bones and try to make themselves not guilty for talking such things. For real,it's a great blessing and treasure to have at least a true friend in your whole life,that are trusted and honest whether your present or not.But of course,fake friends do exist in this whole wide world.Sometimes we can't avoid,or we didn't know that they are with us. A few days ago,I pass by with a set of girls in my neighborhood ,but when I am near with them,they just keep on silent just like an angel ,hehe.Here I come,had a fake smile on my face just to show them that I'm alright. Honestly,I always have reservation for myself,to get closed with other people,I didn't opened up everything that happens to my life.Especially when it's related to my private life and issues. Why did people talk at the back of their friend? This fact maybe painful but just like the saying"the truth will set you free.First of all,it's a sign of low self-esteem,they see other people that is doing better than them ,that's why they tried to drag them down to at least raise themselves one step at a time. Secondly,because of insecurity,or they felt like jealous,and they see what they are lack of,while their friends have it,their defensive technique is to find the negative side of other people. Some ways in dealing with these kind of people? Make a conversation short We can't fully avoid or disregard this kind of friends ,in my case what I do is talking less when I'm in front of them,a simple talk and greetings is enough for me when talking with them.Its not healthy to allow ourselves to be exposed to much with these kinds of talks.Its not helping our well-being and affects our emotions too much. Don't share your secrets This is very relevant watch out in sharing secrets with them,they can't keep it for a moment,but it will spread and contagious like a virus. It's so sad reality that it starts with a very young age,where a person can have this kind of character.In this new generation,maybe it's a very rampant thing and there are people who really make it a habit.The social media has the factor that affects the people,when they can share in just one click even a private happenings of others life.Have you observed lately that people are having fun stalking people's life ,through social media platforms.Secret is not a word anymore,because one day we will be surprised that it's already posted on social media,other users can make money from doing it. What should we do? As a part of our society,we should protect ourselves especially our mental health.Because all of these destructive words and actions of others can affects the way we think and able to fight this life battle,it can make a person to quit ,and surrender. Know who your friends are,and what kind of people that surounds you each day,are they good for you or not,if they are helping your life,then keep them,but if they just destroying your humanity,then it's better to limit or else avoid such people if needed. No man is an island,right?But make sure to spend time and loved the people who are called ,"best true friends ".The one who will loved and accept your weaknesses and never despise you when you can show your flaws ,but they will raise you up when you feel down and weary. Lastly,it's very important that we will not copy with what they are doing,but if we're doing so,it's for a change,we can make ourselves better by doing what is right,loving with honesty and sincerity towards the people. For me,it's easy to write all of these things that I say,but it's hard to apply in real life sometimes,but what matters is that,we keep on trying day by day,to live in peace.The world already full of uncertain things ,but it's beyond our control,while these matter is within our control,we can choose and decide what's best for us.We can't change people,but we can deal with them in a right way,and show them how to become a real friend instead of a fake one. Until here guys,I already poured out my feelings here,and I thank you all. Lead image from unsplashhttps://unsplash.com/photos/s1ihVBg5tbI