Lessons from my Ninang

This article is a continuation with my visit with my Ninang'S house, she is one of our closest adviser and a wife of our mentor who died 10 years ago. She has three children who are all girls, she raised them alone.

That's why I was like an interviewee to her, I was just curious with how did she raised her children well, being a single parent, and her kids are already professionals.How did she guide them, and what type of discipline did she applied.

First of all:

She didn't allow her children to talk back against her like (murmuring on the other side when she's talking).

She taught her kids on how to respect elders especially to their parents. That is why she comes to the point of spanking them when they were just a kids because her kids talk a lot in her face while she's talking too. She said that it's not appropriate that children will disrespect her, and even other people. Kids can talk but in a nice way but when they shout or yell it's a big big no to her as a mother.

Second lesson

Always be mindful with sleeping hours

They have a curfew at home, at 9 pm, where the lights are off, gadgets are placed outside the room, and sleep tightly, except when they have an important work like assignments. Since their kids were young, they already learned to watch over the sleeping hour.

Third lesson :Always be honest

Because her children were all girls, they are taught to be honest with their mom, I everything, like in their phones, they knew every password of their siblings and their mother as well. They need to ask permission whatever they do, outside the school. Like going out with friends, or having a boyfriend,and what do they feel, if someone courted them. Or wants them to become a girlfriend. That's why when there's someone who will court her young ladies, they need to asked her first, she often told the young men who wants her daughter to be girlfriend that until they reached the appropriate age which is 21, they can come back.and court her daughter.

Fourth lesson :The exact age that a girl should have a boyfriend or girlfriend, is 21.

During the time, that her three girls became are already in highschool, she doesn't allow them to enter into a relationship. She's very firm on that matter, nobody can defend against her stand. She said that highschool days are the critical stage of racing them, because of the vulnerability of their feelings.And they all finished highschool without a boyfriend.

Fifth lesson :She managed her kids financial assets.

She's the one who process everything, like transactions with their savings. Her children are working so she wants them to have savings while they worked abroad, that is why she's the one assigned to process financially.

Sixth lesson:

She's constant in her discipline, and words.

She's stand with what she's talking about, and firmly implement it to her children.

Seven lesson:

She's not shouting or yelling them, instead she talk to her children. She talk with her kids heart to heart, and she talked to them sincerely, in reality and honesty. She said that it's not effective for her to used physical kind of discipline, it's tiring.

Eight lesson:

She respects her children's choice of clothes, course and their passion and she's always there to support us. She respects her children privacy with their phone messages and chats on messenger, she will never opened it not unless they told her. She wants them to be honest all the time, and that's why she trust them.

Lastly, she teaches what she learned from her parents in her growing up stage, the kind of discipline that she experienced while she's young was applied to her kids.

How we live and the way our parents raised us, will be brought and can be applied by the time that we have our own family. It's very important that a child has a strong foundation in values and discipline while growing up so that they will become a responsible parent too in the future.

All of the lessons that I've shared here from my Ninang may or may not be applicable in your family right now. But, personally, I've learned from it, because I can see her children become matured and responsible people today.

Thanks for reading I appreciate everyone's visit in this post.

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