Is criticism can help others?

Do we expect everyone to be flawless?As far as we know that nobody's perfect.But why people criticize people?Is criticism can help or not?The fact is;those who always criticize others have the attitude of being perfectionist?Is it true?But,some say that they used criticism just to defend themselves.Criticisms can also be a sign of envious,with someone's life and everything that they have.

Two kinds of criticism ;

1.Constructive criticism

When we say constructive criticism it's giving comment in a proper way , to prevent a friend or anyone to feel ashamed.For example,you can start in a positive side then continue with the negative aspect which needed improvement ."This is good,but I think you need to highlight the specific subject"."Your beautiful,but I think you need to watch out your words"."It's delicious but it think next time you should minimize putting salt".

2.Destructive criticism

This kind of criticism can kill someone's confidence and the willingness to pursue something.Especially when its done in public.With my bare eyes ,I have witnessed last day with a wife who embarrassed her husband in front of her relatives.By telling him"Your a fool,you should pay your debts",and a lot more words which is not good to hear.Her husband just smile,that seems sarcastic, because we're in the middle of our talk.

Destructive in a form that is personal,and attacking a person's privacy and rights.Which may result to anger and conflict between both parties.

On the other hand ,sometimes we can't avoid that there are moments that we can receive criticisms from the people around us.How should we deal with it?

If it is constructive,we can accept it,learned from it and make it as a tool to improve ourselves,so that we can do better next time.Not all criticisms can destroy us,it can also helped us if it is given constructive,out of concern,sympathy and love.

If criticisms are negative or destructive;

• Don't respond right away.

• If possible you can keep silent as much as possible .

• Bear in mind that you know yourself better.

• As much as possible,avoid talking back,don't go down to that kind of level.

Sometimes people who always criticize is just hiding their own insecurities with themselves by making others embarrassed.They are afraid that people will know that they are also weak.

If we will point fingers on others,that they are" like this,like that,"always remember that only one fingers is pointing on others and your four fingers is pointing to yourself .Which means ,before we criticize or embarrassed others be sure that we are perfect and flawless also.

Conclusion

There are plenty of critics around us,believe it or not.Their sharp eyes are always looking with our flaws,and waiting to throw it into us.

One thing I will tell you,"always guard your heart,don't let criticisms to get inside your heart.Once it will get in,it can kill self-confidence,and makes a you to have a low self-esteem.

It's better to watch out with giving critics ,it can make or break a relationship.Always be sensitive and mindful.Just spread love.We should not let our hearts becomes numb with others feelings.

Salamat

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