Children have lost their Social Intelligence
Social intelligence is the capacity of a person to become effective in terms of relating to other people and the environment, the ability to manage complex social change. To act wisely in human relations refers to attitude and behavior.
Benjamin Franklin was a successful author, publisher, diplomat, scientist, inventor and he is a well-known model of intelligence by his ability to deal with people. But he was not like that when he is a kid. When he is only a teenager he was working as a printer in Philadelphia. He was encouraged by a government official of Pennsylvania, William Keith to start his printing shop. The governor promised to lend him and allow him to buy his supplies for printing. He quit his job and left for London to purchase the supplies but to his surprised, he didn't receive a letter of credit letter from William, he found out that he was schemed by the governor. So in that place, it was his first time that he was alone with no contacts. He learned from his experienced and become vigilant with people who manipulate.
Finally, he got his work but someone was sabotaging his work with some mistakes because his colleagues ask him to contribute money to buy a drink after work. But Franklin didn't like to drink while working. So, he suspected his colleagues sabotaging his work,m he started to prove his suspicion by contributing money for the beer fund. So he noticed that the mistakes in his work disappear.
We learned from Benjamin Franklin how important the so-called, Social intelligence of a person so that we were able to deal with people around us, whether in work, business, and interpersonal relationships in whatever field we have every day.
Social intelligence can be learned by a person from their parents and the environment where they grew up. Social intelligence is important to become a successful businessman, entrepreneur, personal relationship since it is relating to dealing with people whether in dialogue, conversations, socialization, and adjusting behavior towards people.
The main concern for this issue at this present time is the children. A Psychologist once said that children nowadays have lost their social intelligence because of too much exposure to gadgets and online games. They have spent too much time on this matter and they have missed playing outside and hang out with their friends. According to a study, a person should spend at least 6 hours a day socializing people person who often socializes with people who have a good mood, can establish good communication, a better relationship, live in happiness.
We should be aware with our children of this matter. A person who lost a social intelligence shows the following;
Cannot be able to handle defeats in life
They don't want to accept failures, they are not able to adjust during a hard time situation. In reality, life is a win or lose, sometimes we can succeed but there is always defeat in life even we like it or not. It was a danger that it can lead to depression and anxiety and the worst suicide.
There was a joke of a commentator that some politicians may don't have a social life when they were young since they can't accept their defeat, that these people don't have a social life like playing outside with friends.
The social intelligence of a child can be developed at home through a conversation with their parents. And having a good environment. A stressful home has a great impact that a child can lose the capacity to relate to other people.
It is very alarming to all the parents if we want to produce a successful people on the next generation we should communicate with our children to help them developed a social life. To teach them to deal with people. And what's the most rewarding it helps a person to have a long life.
But, is it okay if a person has no social life and all they want to be alone, they just want to spend time on their own.
How do we know if a person has low social skills?
No eye contact
Having difficulty with conversation
Unable to respond emotionally
Anyone can be socially intelligent it can be learned.
But usually, a person who has a low social intelligence was an outcast or misunderstood by their friends.
It's not bad to not socialize. It's just normal, it is a person's freedom of choice to be on his way. But since it is a part of life to be with people it is good if you slowly learned how to deal with people.
And since our children learned from us, we have the responsibility to help them developed their social intelligence.
How to develop a social intelligence at him?
A good conversation between parents and children
Creating simple activities
Meeting with other family member and friends
Let them children talk while the parents should listen
Do this with love
"Socializing is more positive than being alone."
Thanks for reading.
Have a good day.
