Reviewing My Friend List

With the year coming to a close, it could be the right time to evaluate your friends, take a closer review of those close to you, who calls their self friends, with home you spend a lot of time with. For most of us, we can't deny the fact that friends affects and influences us a lot, and I mean a whole lot. So if those we spend most of our time and energy with aren't producing the right energy and motivation we need, then we could see to do something about that. Growth isn't just a needed process, it's an intentional process too. Show me your friend and I'll tell you who you are, this statement is correct. That statement still holds a lot of truth till date, birds of same feathers they say flocks together, to a great extent our friends are a representation of what people should expect from us whenever they get to finally meet us. For instance if the person who you say you are always around is one who is always at the bar drinking, automatically I feel I would find you in a bar too drinking, moreover if he's mostly at the bar and both of you hang out frequently, then common mathematics should tell that you both are frequently visiting the bar together. Similarly if your friend is always singing or dancing, I automatic feel you have a great deal for singing or dancing. Our lives are full of habit we pick along the way in our journey of life, you have seen it in another person and you like it and so slowly it creeps into your very own lifestyle, more reason why we are often careful with our choice of who we are spending time with. Everyone has something to offer, not talking about material possession now or money, but there's something in you that creates a unique pattern that only you can exhibit, as you begin to showcase people begin to copy, that's my we do somethings and someone say "you have start behaving like this person, or this is what he would have done" you never know you're influential until your friends comes to complain that you've corrupted them with something, maybe its your slang, maybe its your style of dressing, maybe its your talent they are learning from, humans are embodiment of creativity, there is enough of oneself he or she can share to the world. Now we begin to see why the choice of we picking out who we call a friend is very crucial, its an important area to decide upon. Iron sharpens iron, so does a man sharpen the countenance of his friend. You can be very determined and hardworking, very self motivated and at that you feel you can't be influenced, well don't take that risk. Do you know how bodies are prone to succumb to those little excitement, we just want to relax and be lazy, and we can't speak and talk ourselves into doing the needful, if this is the case when we are surrounding ourself with friends who are lazy. Slowly you begin to see reasons to also test the waters of laziness, just this once you'll say, so it doesn't seem like I'm the only one different, let me just make them happy, yes that's the start and you just won't tell how you've began to deteriorate from your initial speed. We all are affected by the energy we receive from others, it can either get us to grow or make us deteriorate in our growth rate. More reason why people seek to mingle among others that have gone ahead of them, it more like a sure way to progress. A great man knows better than to surround himself with more people who aren't great themselves, he could have them around but surely he is not influenced by them, rather he is the one helping most of the time. Now take a quick run through his history and background we would see how clearly its show his friends and mentors, the people he surrounds himself with and that is key. Even when he see to help others, yet he ensures he's still actively in touch and connecting to the great friends he has, this way he still grows. Maybe its the pressure to grow when you're around them, maybe it's more like a competition, maybe its just a brother help brother affairs, but that relationship is clearly profitable. Similarly while we were in school, and our performances were low, one of the ways we saw to improve was by joining ourselves to those who were performing better, at least by the session end there would be a noticeable change, a little at least, the change would be determined by our level of seriousness to wanting to improve for ourselves. Truly friends are a vital part of our lives. Your friends can very well decide how financially buoyant you can be, can they help you stand, your friends can influence your marital decision, how are they raising their own homes, you friends can help push your talents to your goal, but how true are they and selfless, making the right friends is a tough but needed decision, we can pray on it and be can ponder on it, like I said in the beginning of this write up, no one knows you more than yourself so you should choose who you call your friends, base on your goals, base on your lifestyle, base on your personality. Happy new year in advance everyone. Thanks For Reading.