Everyone would have experienced someday to be gloomier than others. You might wake up from your bed with a thought of having a great start of the day but then the clouds start to roll in. Sometimes it might just be a crappy black clouds and at the most it can drizzle on you with few tiny droplets. It may not even thunderstorm but a gloomy atmosphere formed inside your head that can throw you off course. I have experienced it many times and definitely it’s not a good feeling to start your day. Ultimately that crappy clouds and tiny droplets will turn into a storm destroying your day. And the ripple effect will continue for few days until the storm settles down in your mind. It will result in bad work relationship with your peers, negative impression on your sub ordinates and a big question mark by your supervisors on your ability to handle gloomy situations.
But all that “GYAN (Advice)” of having a positive mindset at work, turning negativity into positivity to succeed, boost your self-esteem to be a leader, etc. doesn’t really work. I believe the reality is being too much positive might do more harm than good. I tried to be very positive, looking at the brighter side. And concluded the situation to come back and bite myself. It’s just that you ignore the situation that’s in-front of you and deceive your mind in believing something that’s fictional. In simple words, by being positive every time you are just being untruthful to yourself.
In a workplace you will always find few negative attitude people who try to ruin your career by highlighting the mistakes committed by you. Sometimes in reality it may not be even a mistake. Communication, a very essential part of your leadership skills. The way you put across your words will definitely change depending on the grade of the person or the situation. You can not expect me to be calm and submissive when I am demanding something for the betterment of my process !! But few peers tend to take it as a mistake and they even try harder to pull you down or make you feel bad about it by convincingly highlighting it to your supervisors in a negative way. So what is the positive approach that I should be taking out of it ?
A positive approach by my end should definitely be to take things lightly, ignore it, correct myself and carry on with my work as usual as if nothing has happened. Let’s get to the reality, how can a person really stay calm when his peer is speaking ill about his work and his hard work is being questioned by his supervisors ! So a negative person should be treated negatively to make them realize that they are wrong. As I mentioned earlier, if your positive side wants you to believe that the person is your peer and at a workplace you need to build a rapport by ignoring the negativity will only make you an ignorant person who is trying to deceive his mind in believing something that’s fictional.
To end, you cannot take a bite of a spoilt food and continue consuming it by saying “Everything is fine! Tomorrow’s dinner will be better!” NO. You will most likely admit that it tastes awful and spit it out of your mouth. There will always be a reaction when you know something is not right and your reaction cannot be termed as negative instead.
Thank you for taking your time and reading my post. Have a Happy Weekend !!
Positivity is always your choice. So why not choose it all the time.