How to relate with people easily

Relating with people is one important skill everyone needs. It brings a lot of good things into our lives. The honest truth is that most of our struggle for loads of cash and fame is to enable us have good relationship with people and be respected, not necessarily to feed and have shelter. Money for feeding and shelter is not really the problem in most cases.

Some people naturally grow up to understand and have the ability of recognizing different kind of personalities and know how to deal with them. If you want to have a smooth relationship with people you must first learn to recognize and deal with each individual uniquely. Everyone has different needs and approach to life issues. Temperaments differ therefore approach to each differ.

In all of the different personalities and temperaments there’s one key feature that will help you both in identifying and relating with everyone. That feature is patience! Patience requires you to be in charge of your emotions and temper. Patience requires you to not be a judge.patience requires you to allow people be who they are.

If you are quick to judging people, you will end up getting the wrong ideas about them. Sometimes we need to exercise patience if we really wish to understand people. It takes patience to identify temperaments and personalities. Don’t try to change a Melancholic to a Choleric because it’s never going to happen.

Everybody comes to this world with a pair of ears and a mouth. Almost everyone seem to be interested in using their mouths more. Everyone wants to be heard. Whether you like it or not we all want to speak all those secretes that are bottled up inside us and not be judged. Now can you listen to people? If you have the patience to listen to people then you can relate with almost anyone.

Listening to people is not about not saying a word and just be there, it’s not about just hearing. It’s more like listening to understand and truly follow the speaker into their world in thoughts. It takes one with loads of patience to listen. Sometimes listening requires no words, I sometimes spend long hours hanging out with some friends without us even saying anything. Relating with people requires you to understand moods and try to respect the moods. If you pay close attention you will be able to know when the need to help change a mood will arise.

At first all these will be difficult and really stressful to practice, but as time goes by it becomes a part of you.

A key aspect of being able to relate with people is to not judge people but be clear about what you do and don’t do. Don’t try to change people because you can never change anyone. You can only influence a change in another. When people are ready to change nothing can stop them and also if they are not ready to change you can’t make it happen. It’s annoying though when people want to force change on you. Isn’t it?

One very important thing you need to know is that it’s okay for people not to like you. Respect the fact that certain people don’t like you. Don’t force friendships, let people chose who they want to be friends.

In conclusion, the key factor in relating with people is patience, and for you to be patient you need to learn not to judge. Hearing and listening is key to all of this. Listen with your ears and your mind. Pay attention to people and what they want to share. Use more of your two ears and less of your one mouth. Drop your ego and be simple.