Let us judge this to know who's wrong and who's right

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Good evening great platform users, I know your day has been very much fantastic amongst the daily struggles and hustling we are usually faced with?

It's good to be writing again and right now, I'm gonna tell you a true life story that happened in the locality where I live and it is about a woman in her early advanced age whose daughter recently gave birth to a bouncing baby boy in one of the most famous cities in the U.S called the New York city.

It happened that her daughter Folake who got married to one Mr Oladimeji, a very successful business man who deals in auto business and some light accessories to crown it all.

In addition to that, Mr Oladimeji as the case maybe, after having built a very strong wealth empire for himself, then decided that relocating to the U.S was the best he could offer the members of his family and without any delay, he was able to provide all the required documents for the procurement of him and his wife's Visa entry in the U.S which was granted him without much delay.

While that had been the case, it also happened that his wife Folake was already heavily pregnant for the birth of their first child that proved quite imminent and without much delay which in about a few months of their arrival in the U.S, his wife gave birth to a bouncing baby boy and as the news of such a baby welcome into the world by these happily married couple filtered the air, there was this need for a baby sitting that happened to be the next thing on the cards and just as tradition and customs would have it, it falls heavily on the shoulders of his wife's mother to come and fulfil such a traditional and custom demands and without much delay, a visa application was entered for such purpose which ended up in a huge success.

Meanwhile, Folake's mother who at this point would no longer hide her admiration and excitement about the prospect of a relocation to the U.S.A to meet with her daughter and of course to baby sit their very first child, would from time to time talk about the fact that she was indeed heading for the heavens which actually left everyone in a state of confusion over the meaning of her very expensive statement, though no one did pay a much attention on such loftiness of words as the excitement over a new lease of life could as well become everyone's den of uncontrolled happiness, joy and ecstasy.

The D-day then arrived in which she was seen off to the Murtala Mohammed Int'l Airport Lagos Nigeria in order to confirm her ticket and then take some rest pending the departure time.

Her luggage that includes some items like the locally made Nigerian food was well arranged to ensure nothing was forgotten and as the time of the departure almost became imminent, terms of joy and other mixed reactions and feelings became the order of the day especially from her husband and her children who have began feeling the absence of their mother and wife but the surprising thing was that she was not into any of such feelings as the rest other members of her family given her she from time to time happened to be jumping around any place within the airport that caught her eyes.

Eventually, the time for departure arrived while she would be aboard a Lufthansa airline that is U.S bound and she was all set to go for the long six months trip though custom and tradition demands that she does that baby sitting in a period of three months(3 months) of which time she's then expected back home to her husband and family members.

As she began to take a walk down to the channel left off only for the departing passengers, she then bid a final goodbye to her husband and her children and then repeated such words that "she was heading for the heavens".

The husband never found any uneasiness in her statement of heading for heavens though he was willing to wait and see how events unfolded.

As God would have it, the long awaited arrival of Folake's mom in the U. S did come of which they landed very safely at the airport in the USA while Folake's husband would send a call down to Nigeria in order to confirm the safe arrival of his mother in-law which then left the entire family members in an entire state of jubilation and happiness as everyone of them took turns to talk to her on phone.

The baby sitting period started off.

It was the right time for the baby sitting and she did all the necessary things that was expected of her to do which left her son- in-law in a happy state given how she did everything in such a way that there were no complains at all and as the case maybe, her son in-law- Mr Oladimeji had already started making plans for her going back home in Nigeria with some specially bought items with which she was to be thanked with for all her wonderfully and well appreciated efforts during the 3 months of her stay in the USA while baby but was met with a blockage as she had refused going back to Nigeria to continue her life where she had left it off and when her son in-law inquired to know her reasons for such a sudden change of mind which is also against the customs and traditional demands, she simply replied him and said; "I have come to heaven, so no going back to hell".

Such statement left a lot of surprise even in her daughter and when all efforts was made by her husband to ensure she's sent home after the expiration of the said 3 months baby sitting was over proved abortive while it happened that she had to frustrate all moves to bring her back home.

The situation became a sour one as her husband would ensure he reports the case to his community kinsmen who would also try reaching his son in-law on a phone to inquire from him on the reason why his mother in-law had refused leaving his apartment in the USA to come back home after fulfilling all the required traditional demands but his son's inlaw's response brought a lot of unwarranted speeches against the woman and he himself as his wife Folake's father's kinsmen did encourage him to take all manners of a legal action against him Mr Oladimeji.

Without much delay, the matter was reported to the OBA( a Paramount ruler or the king) in the community who also summoned Mr Oladimeji's parents over the refusal of their son to send his mother in-law (Folake's) mother back home in Nigeria after a successful baby sitting according to customs and traditional demands were over and they replied the OBA and said to him, that their son Oladimeji had told them of his mother in-law's refusal to go back home in Nigeria where she said was a place of eternal torment with fire after discovering America to mean heaven for herself.

And after all his efforts in ensuring she goes back home to her husband and family members in Nigeria had fallen on deaf ears, he then had to uncharacteristically give in to her decision to stay put over there in the USA.

Having heard the story from both sides of the family, the Paramount chief then decided that the matter be taken to a conventional court where the both families could get a fair hearing as regards that and with all the facts on ground.

At this point, though the matter was not taken to any conventional court as was advised by the Paramount ruler or king but the current situation now is that Mr Akeem, Folake's father had never ceased to stop talking about the incident while he on a daily basis keeps telling people of how Mr Oladimeji his son in-law has come down to steal his precious daughter Folake away from him in pretence of a marriage which he no longer recognizes and his own precious wife, Folake's mother whom he has also stolen away from him for the so called baby sitting which he also does not recognize as well. At this point we all can understand his frustration can't we?

Ever since then, his final threat has been to return all the bride prize that Mr Oladimeji his son in-law paid for his daughter's hand in marriage, and then also to send his own wife whom the whole ugly story is being centered on and who has ever remained more defiant than ever before to the yelling and plight of his husband for her return and such situation has continued to linger for a while now in what seems like there was not gonna be any form of a peaceful resolution so to say.

Now what is your judgement on this?

Do you think Mr Oladimeji his son in-law had done the right thing allowing his mother in-law to continue to stay with him when it was obvious her clarion duty call was already over and given he has the powers to send her back to Nigeria even against her own wish for he was the one who had brought her to the USA in the first place?

Or,

Do you think that Mr Oladimeji was not wrong at all given the fact that he was only acting on the grounds of mercy for a woman who feels she's found a better kind of life away from what she considered a death zone brimming with hell fire and then decided he offered her the opportunity of a better life?

Or,

Do you also think that his Father in-law was right calling him a thief and also by issuing a direct threat as regards returning the bride's prize that is still in his possession as much as ending his over forty years(40 years) of a successful marriage with his want away wife who went AWOL?

Pls do have your say in this discuss and probably, your feedbacks here might as well be a turning point in this ugly situations that is well poised at tearing the entire into shreds and leaving them in a mere shambles of and everlasting ruin.

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I don't think Folake's mother still have any right to remain in the USA, calling it The heaven she had entered, and Nigeria the hell she had left. Has she easily forgotten she has husband (Mr Akeem) and children in Nigeria she called hell? So, she wanted to enjoy heaven and leave her husband and children in hell. No way! Let her go back to Nigeria. Her husband will be missing her, 40years of marriage isn't beans!

Mr Oladimeji isn't at fault, he is just trying to respect and she show mercy on his mother in-law. She should also respect herself and go back to her husband and children in Nigeria. Period!!

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