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After yesterday's publication, an indignant cry fell into the nickname:

- And how else to bring the child to listen, if not from the position "the parent is always right"?

I thought about it. How to respond diplomatically? With diplomacy, I have, frankly, trouble. After all, I also grew up with conviction - as you become an adult, you will always be right. This is not our mentality, no. we have such a co-tsi-a-li-zi-i. Oh, without mistakes, I wrote a complicated word.

So that's what I'm all about...

Neither an adult nor a child can be compelled to respect or accept his point of view if transferred to him as a heavy breakthrough tank:

- I am always right, and point.

If your and the interlocutor's point of view (regardless of age) do not coincide, then this position will cause exclusively aggression - explicit or deaf - and (not or, but and) denial.

With a child, it seems to me, it is even more difficult.

After all, with an adult we may not find common points in the discussion of things that are completely left for us, but the child carries his feelings to his parents, and we also do not discuss the tendencies of world politics with him - that is, everything hurts for the living. And an adult and a child.

And here you need to be in the hundreds - what there are in the hundreds, in the thousands! - times more tactical than if we spoke to an absolutely stranger.

But in most cases it comes out strictly the opposite. Strangers are honored with courtesy in face-to-face communication, and their... How many times I watched - many people communicate with their relatives in the same boorish way. like on the Internet with strangers, but here are different reasons. on the Internet, such people feel unpunished because they are anonymous, for the most part, and with relatives - because they are confident:

- Where will these relatives go?

This confidence in communicating with a child is sometimes expressed very vividly.

A wife or husband can file for divorce, and where will the child go? So, an adult is always right with his fist on the table.

But why not go the other way?

Just put yourself in place as a child. All of us were first melusga, then - teenagers then - young men and girls. We all remember the conflicts that we had with our parents periodically. So let's fix the bugs.

Let's talk honestly with children not from a position of strength, but from the position of those who are trying to understand, go to a meeting. Do not devalue their problems, no matter how small they seem. Do not try to dismiss objections, motivating the position "ay, I know you better." It is argued that the arguments are reasonable, and not ephemeral "parent is always right." Listen to the child's answers. and even his objections, if any...

Is it so difficult?