I come again with another lovely piece on the difference between listening and hearing.
I was on a chit chat with some friends recently and they we're engaged in a discussion and I was busy typing on my phone writing some articles on read.cash, It got to some points were I was to contribute to the discussion and i couldn't , funny enough I was hearing all what they we're saying but wasn't listening. I heard the word but defiantly not the messaged passed across.
They felt I wasn't taking their statements seriously or seeing their point of view, I actually felt bad not being able to contribute.
Have you ever felt this way?
Listening and Hearing
The tendency to hear and not listen have caused a lot of communication glitch, which I'll like to state the difference between both.
Hearing
We may hear different sounds but listen to a few. Hearing is an automatic physical capacity involving the ears. No cognizant exertion is required. Hearing happens all the time and is the involuntary receiving of sound vibrations or waves through our ears.
Listening
Listening is a active process and utilizations of the faculties of hearing, seeing, or feeling of touch. It is an skill that requires releasing the sound go through your cerebrum, understanding what has been heard, and preparing its importance. As an audience, you pick what you need to hear and comprehend the data with both your brain and body. For tuning in to happen requires the audience's advantage, inclusion, the utilization of cognizant exertion, and it is one that must be learned and practiced.
Below are some resons why we often have the ability to hear than listen
1 . We pay little or no attention to what is been discussed, this happens when we are really not interested in the topic discussed.
2 . we are distracted doing other things, our thinking speed is greater than our listening speed, we really can't listen when we are multitasking it takes a very high knowledgeable person to have such abilities which is rare.
What to do to make Communication much effective.
When we do not listen messages are are not understood, listening is the bed rock to any effective communication. When not listening the speaker gets frustrated and might cut the discussion.
Below are some few tips to make communication effective.
1. Think and listen as you pay attention to what you hear, be involved with all your senses when a discussion is ongoing, drop all things making you distracted and stay focused.
2. Ask question when what discussed isn't understood. Asking questions demonstrates that you are listening and want to learn more.
You cannot listen without hearing, both are needed in effective communication.
When we listen the speaker feel fulfilled.
Tell me what you think in the comment section.
