Hey! If you carry a vision that needs to be actualized, it cannot or may not be actualized at time without the help of a woman likewise that of a woman. Don't misinterpret me, keep reading!

When I say it cannot be actualized, it means no matter how you try to rush your vision as a man or no matter how big the vision is, God understands that an help meet needs to be there to support it! Not just a woman, but a woman that understands her purpose.

There are some visions you can't actualize alone as a man. If the woman is not strong enough to carry your vision, then thus is purposeless. Every strong woman is a woman of purpose. When you come in contact with them, you'll see this readiness in their eyes to achieve anything even with the huddles of life.

Some visions cannot be helped thoroughly except by someone else, that is why who you marry determines how your vision would be carried and likewise a woman, the man determines the fulfilment of your purpose.

The reason why some women with purpose keep sitting at home is because they married a man who wasn't able to assist what they desired to become. I call it a mismatch of destinies. Any great man of vision would be ready to stand by you until you fulfill your purpose as a woman on earth, not just giving birth to children and having a family.

My spiritual father, will always say; don't envy a man you don't know. He always makes mention of his wife and how she assisted his vision of which no other woman could have. Do you know that, she determined the progress of the vision at some point? My dear, these things we are talking about here aren't for kids to understand! It takes grace to understand these things.

Do you know that Sinach, a popular Nigerian Singer who we all know became a global icon because the man she got married to allowed it? No! Don't tell me I don't know what an saying. The man had a vision for himself and supported the purpose why sinach was born! Now. She's going global, becoming a blessing to nations even with her years in ministry without a child. Not all men would allow that, some would say; you must not step out of this house for that ministration. Trust me, he'll keep reducing the value of your purpose as a woman. Who you marry determines how your vision or purpose would be carried.

The great revivalist, late babalola of C.A.C got married to a woman that almost ruined his ministry, there were times when she locked him in his room stopping him to move out for ministrations, but by the help of God, he could pass through the wall to step out. That wasn't an ordinary event, a woman can delay your visionary assignment as a man!

Young lady, ask yourself, will he make me become that great woman I desire to become? Checkmate him before you marry him. Do our destinies match?

Getting into marriage is not just all about having children and a family. I asked a lady sometime ago, what is your purpose, she said; I don't know, I just want to get married and have children. What! Young woman, it is beyond that.

It is so painful that we live in a generation where young minds don't desire to have the right knowledge before taking actions talk less more of applying it when they see it. They just want to act.

A popular quote by Emmie Crown says " Don't make moves when you're not ready to act " . Do you know that anyone could have picked up the stone and armor and moved towards Goliath? David was the only man ready to act!

Let us be very careful as God desires to give us help. We also have our parts to play as men and women of great destines.