Find Yourself Before Finding A Mentor

I know you want to get a mentor to make your journey easy and down to earth on what you need to do but you need to make your mentor's journey with you easy too.

If you do not find yourself before finding your mentor, you will stress your mentor, sap his time, and drain his energy.

I believe you know who and what a mentor is already.

A mentor guides you step by step on the path to growth and success in one area or the other.

He carries you along but you need to carry yourself along first so that your weight and burden will not be too much for him to bear.

Mentors are human beings and they have things to do too - a lot if I may say.

If you do not find yourself before finding a mentor, you may become a parasite to him.

Nobody has the luxury of just giving and giving. There's a limit and there's a call to stand on your own two feet.

You may be standing on toes but it's better than not standing at all.

You should indeed find yourself before finding a mentor.

So how do you find yourself or carry yourself along?

1. Embark on Personal Self discovery: I know you'll get materials, maybe attend a self discovery masterclass and that's necessary but they won't discover you for you. You are the one to use what you have learnt to discover yourself.

Look within yourself, discover your strengths, weaknesses, things you love doing, things you hate and your potentials.

Nobody is coming to help you, so become intentional.

Anyways, I am still here to help so you can personally reach out to me anytime. I know you know what I mean!

People may help but the ultimate result is dependent on your response.

2. Begin to utilize and make the most out of your discovery. Discovery becomes more delightful when it is being worked on. It doesn't have to be perfect first but make the right decisions and take necessary steps.

Your discovery should have a track record (showing that you have this, can do this and that, have done this or that before for some people) and should not be in a total raw state of rest if you know what I mean.

Do not bring zero to a mentor expecting him to make it 1.

Come with something greater than zero and expect him to help you to help yourself to replenish it.

Have something your mentor will need and can work with.

3. Build Closure: Before asking for mentorship, build closure before taking that step.

Don't just go and hit someone's inbox asking for mentorship.

I made this mistake one time and I don't want you to make the same mistake.

Before asking, ensure that you have not just been following him up from behind the scenes but have been engaging in his works not even by liking alone but also by commenting and/or sharing, attending some of his trainings (free or paid) and some other things you can think of.

Strategically make yourself a bit visible in a way that will speak to him and let him know that you are - to an extent - a follower or even an ardent follower of his works.

Don't just appear from nowhere and ask for mentorship because you want one.

It doesn't make perfect sense to me!

Biko!!!

4. Pray to God about it and ask him for direction too.

Finally, I advise you have a mentor you feel you can flow with. You will surely get the conviction as you follow him up even before asking for mentorship from him.

So, it is at this point, you can find a mentor and give him less stress.

This is my own opinion.

What do you think?

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