Say No To: Commitment Without Certainty

The phenomenon of commitment but no clarity or certainty is rife in society, especially among millennials. The phenomenon of relationship without status has become something that is very natural and normal in society.

Usually, the reason is because they are afraid to express love or are not ready to commit so that not a few people choose to live in a relationship without this status. Ironically, not a few people are trapped in this kind of relationship without realizing it. Well, are you in this situation?

Many people, especially women, are stuck with this condition. Beguiled by him whose hobbies are words, compliments, and sweet promises. But when asked, when is it going to a more serious level? Eh, he diverts the conversation subtly. Be careful, girls, if you are stuck in a relationship like this. It looks like he might be serious but it could be that all this time he just wanted to be close and mod.

Remember, sis, a serious relationship usually requires commitment from both parties. So, if your partner never even seems very anti-committal, you must question the clarity of your relationship.

Especially if every time you want to talk about it, he immediately answers with a magic sentence, "Well, just go ahead" that's a sign that he's lazy and needs to be asked for clarity about his relationship with you.

Generally, if he is serious, he will immediately understand where a relationship should take him. If your relationship is serious, it must have one definite goal as well. This is why the "go ahead" should be avoided, so you don't waste time either.

“But he always gives attention and makes you comfortable. The conversation is also connected, one hobby, one frequency.” Hi sis, let's try to think more realistically. He's a really fun person, connects when you talk to him, is really nice to talk to, but we never know if it turns out that he's really good at attracting hearts or maybe you're not the only one to be a discussion partner.

If he is serious and has a strong commitment to a relationship with you, he will definitely make it clear. At least he will give an explanation about where your relationship will take you later.

Don't let the atmosphere and romance lull you, so you can't think logically for the future. Not infrequently, right, you are confused for a long time because he has no news, when he is asked, the reason is he is busy and has a lot of business. Remember, sis, something that is considered important even if it is busy, must always be prioritized.

For those of you who are in a relationship like this, it's better to think about it again. Instead of you being in the mode and ghosting, it's better to end it. Because sometimes what is really being fought for is disappointing and even leaves without certainty. All of these things need certainty, whether it's to start, maintain, or let go.

What matters is not the promise, but the commitment. Not sweet words, but certainty. Not his property, but his responsibility. Not her style, but her personality. Not the title, but the knowledge. Not his age, but his maturity. May the person you want no longer come and go today. Because what else hurts more than being made comfortable without certainty.