Make sure you name your relationship with money

There are phrases that we are all familiar with since childhood. Some of these are about life and moral values, while others are beliefs and behavioral patterns about money. These beliefs, which seep into our adult lives without us realizing it, affect us and our future, from our prejudices about money to the way we spend it.

While some people earn money very easily, others have a hard time earning it and can't keep it no matter what they do. While it is generally accepted that this is due to a lack of effort and good decisions, the way we think and the way we approach money holds much of our financial reality in its hands.

If your parents used negative stereotypes such as "too expensive" or "unnecessary" when you were growing up, your approach to money will always be one of scarcity. No matter what you want, the first thought that will come to mind is that there is no money or that the expenditure is unnecessary.

Especially in families where there is a lack of love or families that do not know how to show love, the fact that money or gifts bought with money play a leading role as a symbol of love may mislead the meaning we attribute to money in our adult life in the future. A child who experiences love only through gifts and money in childhood may think that money is enough to be loved and to give meaning to life in adult life.

Perhaps our most important measure of money is our love for ourselves. Money comes easily to the life of a person who has a high level of self-love and acceptance. On the other hand, those who lack love at a subconscious level in their relationship with themselves believe that they do not deserve money. However, although money is seen as a tangible asset, it is an intangible asset in terms of energy. And it easily goes where it is loved.

If you have read this far and even one of these items reflects your situation, the good news is that you are now aware of the source of the problem and can take action to transform it and get professional support. You can replace the thoughts and prejudices that have been out of your control until now with new ones and wake up to a completely different mindset of abundance. 

I think the most fundamental and powerful way to connect with another human being is to listen, just listen. I think the most important thing we can give to each other is our attention, especially when it is sincere. When people are talking, you don't need anything else but to understand what they are saying. Just comprehend what is being said. Listen to what they are saying. Care about what they are saying. Often it is more important to pay attention to what the other person is saying than to understand what is being said.

Okay, then here is my favorite coaching question on this topic: What would you be happy to call your relationship with money? Have a prosperous week...