Some singles think, all their relationships must work, if it doesn't work, it is their fault. They blame themselves for not being smart, beautiful/handsome, generous, loving, caring, affectionate, nice, kind enough! They think they are bad, their partners are good and it is entirely their fault the relationship went into the dustbin!
There is nothing like that. If the relationship goes wrong, it is not entirely your fault, it is both of you fault. If you are in a relationship where your partner blames you for EVERYTHING that goes wrong, you are experiencing, abuse, not love!
Not all relationships will work! Not every dating/courtship will end in marriage. That is the painful truth! You may have picked the wrong person whom you honestly think is the best for you only to discover later they are absolutely wrong for you!
You may have fallen in love with someone who has no feelings for you.
I once loved a guy I thought was mine and did all in my power to win his love, it just didn't happen! He liked my brain, that was all! I wasn't bad, he wasn't bad, we were not just good for each other.
There were guys who loved me, I didn't know till I got married to my husband. They dropped all the hints, but I wasn't picking the signals. I just wasn't into them. No attraction, no chemistry, nothing! They are not bad, they are ladies' men, I just was not interested.
Stop condemning yourself over a relationship that didn't work! Stop focusing on your weaknesses and magnifying your partner's strengths.
The relationship went bad not because you are bad or they are bad but because you are not made for each other.
If you find yourself fighting over core beliefs, dressing, church doctrine and you find it difficult reaching agreement on major issues, you both have compatibility problem and the relationship should come to an end!
Marriage is not by force please. Amos 3:3 must be the yard stick for your courtship or your marriage will end up shattered and broken beyond repair. That is not your portion in Jesus' name.
Don't form the habit of breaking relationships though or you may end up not getting married. Work on your major weaknesses as they can push potential partners far away from you.
Pray, read, think, study your partner and get God's approval before you go into courtship. Once, it is God's will, all will be bliss and your marriage will be heaven on earth!
I wish you the best in your relationship.
Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!