Building a healthy relationship.

Through time we've read, seen and even experienced the feeling called LOVE. It will be wrong to say that nobody desires to feel the feeling however, as much as it is such a holy grail that everybody wants just a handful, understands how to properly manage and conduct a healthy romantic relationship.
Hence, in this very short article you'll learn
1. What true love really means
2. Three important reasons why good relationships fails and lastly
4. How to conduct and build a healthy relationship.

–WHAT IS TRUE
In a very simple term,true love is the act of not being selfish. It is a gift not a skill that can be learned. It is the ability of an individual to want and feel for others just as he/she would himself. True love is caring, it is forgiveness, patience, empathy and above all else sacrifice.
Now that we got a clue of what true love is, Next

–THREE REASONS WHY GOOD RELATIONSHIPS FAIL
Relationships fail for so many reason, hence in this section I'll give you three most important reason why good relationship fail

1. POOR COMMUNICATION
Take listening out of the equation and you have  couples who are just talking and care not if anyone of them is listening. When as a couple, your communication has been reduced to just talking about the kids, shared house chores etc without speaking to each other compassionately as a couple then it's a clear sign that both or either of the couple is avoiding to talk about the difficulty issues. Not talking about the difficulty issues ends compound the problem you would have dissected by simply communicating them with your partner.

A healthy relationship is one where you have arguements as a couple too, disagree to agree sometimes and owning your mistakes if truly you crossed a line you shouldn't have. Couples who rarely communicate their needs, ideas and problems with each seldom have a lasting and fruitful relationship.

2. POSSESSIVENESS
An individual sense of identity in a romantic relationship is as important as the relationship itself. It allows you to not loose track of who you are on a personal level and in the relationship but when this is taken aware, either one of the partner begins to feel empty then eventually start over compensating.
This trait is common with individual whose sense of identity is tired to their partner and the relationship. Individuals who are victim of a possessive partner usually don't get much time with their friends or as little as going to the theatre to see a movie alone sometimes without getting a million calls from their partner. It is easy to liken this behaviour to being jealous however, a little jealousy is healthy in a relationship but in excess it becomes possessiveness.

3. DIFFERENT PRIORITIES
In the cause of furthering the growth of your relationship you discover that your partner has a different relationship goal/desire or perhaps their relationship goal changed, this will potentially put the growth of the relationship to steady decline till it crashes.

HOW TO CONDUCT AND BUILD A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
1. TOLERANCE
Being tolerant is beautiful yet useful when developed before or during the cause of the relationship. Nobody is perfect, this includes your romantic partner. It is a fact they'll tick all your boxes however when you realize that everybody have their shortcomings and struggles, you'll learn to cut them some slacks and not take everything personal. The ability of understanding that as human, they are bound to do otherwise sometimes impulsively and unintentionally however, you'd be in a better position to see things for what they are, pull through it at that moment and find a calm moment to air your views on the situation.

2. SACRIFICE
A healthy relationship is one where both partners relentlessly make sacrifices for each other ultimately for the growth of the Union. As an individual in a relationship, you must have the interest of your partner at heart always and be ever ready to make sacrifice to further the growth of your relationship with them. Sacrifice in this sense must be from the individuals involved.
When only one partner gives and make all the sacrifices over a long period of time with no reciprocation from the other, they'll grow to resent you hence RECIPROCITY in a relationship should never be over emphasized

3. COMMUNICATION
Communication is an essential part of any type of relationship there is, it creates room for better understanding between partners. Most partners talk to each other rather than communicate and express their desires, likes hurts or challenges.
When their is a decline in communication the relationship suffers as partners begin to assume what is or what is not. Hence, creating doubts and dots to be filled in by the individuals in the relationship. Being able to communicate in relationship simple is being free to express your concern, view and ideas knowing your significant other is listening and understanding how you feel through things you say. It would also give foster conflict resolution without the involvement of third party which almost always creates a bigger scene in the long run.

These are a few basic tips on which a healthy relationship is built.