How to Control Your Anger?
Feeling angry, feeling annoyed, feeling irritated over some matters, or some people is just a part of us being human. No human are capable of not feeling this way. We got mad and for some reason everything around us had been affected of it with or without us knowing. At the end of it we're just going to regret what we had done in the first place. But what's the point of regretting it when you already inflict a pain around the people important to you.
Here's some of my own point of view on how to control our temper:
Take a Deep Breath
Calming oneself is one way of controlling the flooding emotion that we feel. Take a short deep breath, three times, four times, five times repeat it until you feel calm, until the raging emotions subside.
2. Cry it Out
There's no harm in crying when we're in pain, there's no harm to let your tear drops if it is one way to calm yourself, if it is one way to clear your mind and make you think appropriately. Emotions sometimes just rise up to a certain level that if we won't let it out, it may burst. Crying doesn't mean your weak or what, crying doesn't mean you're a coward, you're just letting it go, to ease the pain you're feeling.
3. Take a Detour
Sometimes instead of thinking things that will trigger your emotions, it is better to think of other things....it is better to divert your attention to other things. In that way you can avoid unnecessary action that you could possibly do when you're mad, or when you're angry.
4. Believe in Yourself
Sometimes the reason why we get mad, are because of certain issues people throw at you, some issues are just nonsense and some are above the belt, that may trigger your emotions. I hate to say that many people are just like that, talking behind your back, telling things about you that you even not aware of, people that thinks your life is a funny fairytale that is fun to share with their friends. I too hate people like that ..I hate how they talk about people's struggle like it was a very funny movie. Laughing at someone's mistake, at someone's struggle, was just sad. I don't even know how they manage to do this..I mean, are they guilt free or what?...But anyways one way to counter this is just to believe in yourself, believe what you do, what you can, and not what others think, cause you know, you know yourself better than they do.
5. Think Before You Act or Speak
When emotions floods our mind, our way of thinking are affected too...you may believe it or you may not... It's always happens to me.. whenever I'm mad, or I'm hurt...I choose just to remain silent... thinking what if I tell this and that..what if I decide to do this...what will happen?..who will be affected?...Am I going to be happy of my decision? Or am I'm just going to make it worst. I know it just so hard to think of the future, when you're feeling so mad at the moment, I know that when you're so angry at the moment you forgot everything, you just want to let that emotion get out of you, just to feel better.
I happen to read about the 90/10 Principle by Stephen Covey, he says that 10% of what happens to you is beyond your control, some things are just out of our reach, we don't want that to happen, but is out of our control anymore. Then the other 90% that happens to us is decided by how we react, a very big portion that depends on us. That means almost everything that happens to us is because we didn't think ahead of it before we react, before we act. We can control it, we can control how we react to things, be it bad or good, results will be different depending upon our reaction and with this reaction we choose, it may bring our life to worst or to it's highest peak.