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4 years ago

Good communication is a fundamental part of a healthy

relationship. When you experience a positive emotional

connection with your partner, you feel safe and happy.

When people stop communicating well, they stop relating

well, and times of change or stress can really bring out

the disconnect. It may sound simplistic, but as long as

you are communicating, you can usually work through

whatever problems you’re facing.

Tell your partner what you need, don’t

make them guess.

It’s not always easy to talk about what you need. For

one, many of us don’t spend enough time thinking about

what’s really important to us in a relationship. And even

if you do know what you need, talking about it can make

you feel vulnerable, embarrassed, or even ashamed. But

look at it from your partner’s point of view. Providing

comfort and understanding to someone you love is a

pleasure, not a burden.

If you’ve known each other for a while, you may assume

that your partner has a pretty good idea of what you are

thinking and what you need. However, your partner is

not a mind-reader. While your partner may have some

idea, it is much healthier to express your needs directly

to avoid any confusion. Your partner may sense

something, but it might not be what you need. What’s

more, people change, and what you needed and wanted

five years ago, for example, may be very different now.

So instead of letting resentment, misunderstanding, or

anger grow when your partner continually gets it wrong,

get in the habit of telling them exactly what you need.

Take note of your partner’s nonverbal cues

So much of our communication is transmitted by what

we don’t say. Nonverbal cues, which include eye contact,

tone of voice, posture, and gestures such as leaning

forward, crossing your arms, or touching someone’s

hand, communicate much more than words. When you

can pick up on your partner’s nonverbal cues or “body

language,” you’ll be able to tell how they really feel and

be able to respond accordingly. For a relationship to

work well, each person has to understand their own and

their partner’s nonverbal cues. Your partner’s responses

may be different from yours. For example, one person

might find a hug after a stressful day a loving mode of

communication—while another might just want to take a

walk together or sit and chat.

It’s also important to make sure that what you say

matches your body language. If you say “I’m fine,” but

you clench your teeth and look away, then your body is

clearly signaling you are anything but “fine.”

When you experience positive emotional cues from your

partner, you feel loved and happy, and when you send

positive emotional cues, your partner feels the same.

When you stop taking an interest in your own or your

partner’s emotions, you’ll damage the connection

between you and your ability to communicate will suffer,

especially during stressful times.

Be a good listener

While a great deal of emphasis in our society is put on

talking, if you can learn to listen in a way that makes

another person feel valued and understood, you can build

a deeper, stronger connection between you. There’s a

big difference between listening in this way and simply

hearing. When you really listen—when you’re engaged

with what’s being said—you’ll hear the subtle intonations

in your partner’s voice that tells you how they’re really

feeling and the emotions they’re trying to communicate.

Being a good listener doesn’t mean you have to agree

with your partner or change your mind. But it will help

you find common points of view that can help you to

resolve conflict.

Manage stress

When you ’ re stressed or emotionally

overwhelmed, you ’ re more likely to misread

your romantic partner , send confusing or off -

putting nonverbal signals , or lapse into

unhealthy knee- jerk patterns of behavior. How

often have you been stressed and flown off the

handle at your loved one and said or done

something you later regretted? If you can learn

to quickly manage stress and return to a calm

state , you’ ll not only avoid such regrets , but

you ’ ll also help to avoid conflict and

misunderstandings ——and even help to calm

your partner when tempers build .

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