People start new relationships everyday but it is important to look out for a few things in your new relationships to determine if that partner is good foryou. Relationships can be toxic and can take a toll on your mental health, you can be left with scars and wounds that can take a life time to heal.
Sometimes a bad relationships can make you to not want to be in any relationship anymore, even when someone genuine comes to give you love and affection you become defensive and build walls around you. You end up not able to tell the difference between what's fake or genuine anymore.
Here are some red flags to look out for when getting into a new relationships with your partner:
1. Controlling
At first you can think it is love or that's how your partner is showing you love by protecting you right? It can start as little as always wanting to have control over what you wear, where you eat, who you go to out with to big changes like forcing you to quite your job because apparently "He can take care of you because he's the man" by the time you release that all this was done so that they can control and manipulate you into depending on them for everything it will be too late.
2. Constantly jealous of your friends, colleagues or family.
It is normal for one to be jealous once in a while but it shouldn't be something that even leads into arguments and fights. Your partner constant jealousy of who you talk to they want to know why are you talking to them. This is not your normal jealousy, it is the kind of jealousy towards your friends or cousins or anyone around you, they end up wanting to limit who you see and talk to, when can you see or visits your loved ones, go out friends they basically end up wanting to a handbag they'll want to go with you everywhere you get and not give you any personal space.
3. Makes jokes about you to impress friends.
A partner that wants to put you in the spot light and make jokes, point out your imperfections, tells people about your secrets, makes fun of you in order to impress friends or colleagues of family doesn't love you.
4.Manipulative
They guilts trip you into doing what they want and feeling pity for them. They Manipulate you into thinking they are always right and your wrong you end apologizing just for peace.
5. Can't take accountability
They always blame shifting and making believe its always your fault even when they are wrong, you always end up being the one who apologizes. They never apologize they just constantly run away from their responsibilities, they can't see their wrongs.
6. Talks bad about his exes to you
Listen carefully that's exactly how they are going to tell the next partner about you. They usually say they were never wrong they want to come out as perfect in your eyes but that's not the truth every has their short comings.
There are many other red flags you can look out for but the main ones I want you to start with before it's too late are this ones.
