Life Changes 01: For things to change, you have to change

I've made considerable changes in my life more times than I can count. And whether I was changing my perspective, career, or the country I lived in, I learned one thing over and over again: To truly change my life I first needed to change myself.

How do we change our lives? We start with ourselves.

When we're ready to make changes, we'll find that things are easier when we stop looking at life through the lens of fear. Instead, we'll see it as an opportunity to create something new — a fresh start. So put down the book or screen, go outside, and take some deep breaths. Then ask yourself: What would I like my life to be like five years from now? Ten years from now? Twenty years from now?"

There are many different ways to create a positive future for yourself, especially when it comes to the healthiest of changes. Most often, there is an underlying cause behind the problem. For example, you may not like the way your body looks because of poor nutrition, or you might just feel unhappy and unfulfilled. If you don’t know why you are feeling a certain way, then it will be easy to assume that everything else must be wrong. However, once you understand the root cause of the issue, it becomes easier to solve your problems.

The first step is admitting there is something wrong. If you aren't willing to admit there is a problem, then you will never be able to fix it. If you see yourself as an average citizen, then the odds of you changing anything are pretty low. But if you think of yourself as exceptional, then you can get ahead of the crowd. You aren't just fighting against your peers, you're fighting against your own self doubt.

You need to figure out what you don’t want your life to become.

When I say “think about what you don’t want your life to become,” I mean focus on all the reasons why you don’t like the current situation you face right now. For example, you may not like feeling sad at certain times of the week or hating how you feel when you weigh too much. You may not want to feel bored in school because you wish you were in college studying something you really care about. Or maybe you just dislike how you act when you drink alcohol. There are always lots to choose from!

Once you know what caused your unhappiness or what needs to change in your life you can begin to fix it.

The next step is to set a goal, write it down, and keep working toward it until success comes. In order to set a goal, you need to assess what you want to accomplish. Think about why you want to commit to achieving your goal. Are you looking to lose weight? Do you want to feel more confident? Would you like to save money? Whatever it is that motivates you to commit to achieving your goals, use that as inspiration to go after them. Make sure that your goal is achievable. If it is not, adjust it. Then, set small steps that will bring you closer to your goal. You may want to start by making small changes in your daily routine. For example, instead of ordering pizza every night, try cooking dinner once a week. When you make small changes in your everyday routine you can see how good it feels to make progress towards your goal. Remember that commitment is everything. Be patient when you set your goals because it takes time to reach them. Life will only change when you became more committed to your dreams and ambitions than you are to your current lifestyle. You need to put in effort and show perseverance. Don't give up easy. Keep trying until you succeed.

Another option is to get help. There are different ways to get help from other people. Some people prefer talking about things that are bothering them or need help with in private. Others prefer talking about these things openly. If you don’t know what type of help will be helpful to you, you should talk to your friends or family members. Your parents or siblings might have lots of experience dealing with similar situations and could give you good advice. You could also talk to professionals. There are different types of professionals out there, including coaches, counselors, mentors, therapists, and life coaches.

Sometimes, getting help from others may feel uncomfortable or awkward, especially when we are very close to someone else. However, you should never hesitate to ask for help.

Asking for help doesn't mean you're weak or incapable. You are not alone!

Finally, you can also join groups or meetups that focus on helping people change for the better. Group members can share experiences, insights, and advice with each other. Some groups are focused on providing information about healthy living alternatives, while others might have a specific interest in a particular topic. You can create your own group if there isn't already one. Asking for help is not selfish. On the contrary, it is actually selfless, because you are giving your time, energy, and resources to someone else. It shows an ability to accept support and accountability, which is critical to changing for the better. You're showing a willingness to listen, understand, and even change yourself in order to accommodate another person. That is true humility. It takes courage to ask for help - especially if you know your own issues well enough to realize that you need assistance. But what's even more courageous is when you seek out help for others.

In Conclusion

It's never too late to change your life for the better. The key is to look at your own habits and ask yourself, "What are the things that are holding me back from achieving my goals?" Then, put those things on a list and target them one by one. The more you can do this, the easier it will become—and the more quickly your life will begin to transform.

First things first: you need a plan. It's easy to get overwhelmed by all of the options out there, but don't let that stop you! There are plenty of resources out there that can help you make sense of what's available, and it's always best to start small so that you don't feel overwhelmed or discouraged when it comes time to take action on something new.

Once you've identified what needs changing in your life, it's time to set up some goals and create an action plan around them. Think about what kind of life you want—a happy family life? A healthy body? A successful career? Make sure that whatever outcome you're aiming for is achievable as well as desirable—if something is too hard or far-fetched right now, it won't be worth doing later down the road when things get tougher

You're never going to be perfect, and there will always be challenges ahead. But if you keep trying to improve yourself, you're going to see positive changes in your life. You'll gain skills, knowledge, and experience. And you'll start seeing results in your relationships, health, career, finances, family, and friendships.

Have a lovely weekend.