Yeah it's true that, what we do wrong, remains fresh in the minds of people around us. Our actions speak louder than our words ever will when it comes to this particular subject. It's something with the way the human mind works, it has the ability and capability to always retain the ills, things that it finds unpleasant, things that it doesn't agree with, things that it sees as wrong, and that's just how it functions generally.

Now I've heard people say that, "we do 1 wrong deed and 99 right deeds but often than not, the wrong is prominent, and it has the capacity to cover the 99 that you've built overtime. Unfortunately, as it may seem, this has become a norm in our society, no matter how good of a person you are, once you make a mistake people will always remember you for that and some will even laugh at you.

Sad as it may be we can only correct this notion if we truly understand the meaning of this; "First we are humans."

NOBODY IS BORN WITH A TROPHY 🏆 OF PERFECTION

Yes, everybody wants to be the good guy that does no evil nor see any evil, but as we try to do the right things we must always remember that no one is perfect. "Have no fear of perfection - you'll never reach it." Salvador Dali . Nobody was born wearing the crown of perfection. We all came to this world, pure, undainted and scared. Please learn to breath.

This is just an illustration to pass this point across,, like a young child picking up two wrong footwear and bringing it to Mama, because he wants to try them on at the same time, gradually that child grows up to understand that you don't wear a sneakers and flip-flop on two different foot 👣. It is in our mistakes that we grow and also learn.

MISTAKES ARE PART OF OUR HUMAN EXISTENCE.

"To make no mistakes is not in the power of man; but from their errors and mistakes the wise and good learn wisdom for the future".

As long as we breath 🫁 we are bound to make mistakes. Many times, I've seen people who are extremely sad, they are bitter all the time and when I had the opportunity to sit down and have a conversation with one lady, I realized that most people are not contented.

The strive to get everything done at a particular time, in a particular fashion or style has driven many people to a point where they no longer feel happy with themselves, no matter what they do, they feel empty and that is no such way to live.

We need to be fearless because life can be messy, things will go wrong, take chances, make mistakes that's how you grow, that's how you evolve, that's how you find out who you're not, what you can not deal and what you can deal, what you cannot take and what you can. It's that simple.

DON'T DWELL ON YOUR PAST MISTAKES

Don't dwell on them, instead try to make amends by seeing how you can improve. This part is a little tricky, why? I'll tell you. Afer a mistake has been made, these things usually happens to about 70% of individuals, it starts from been filled with Remorse: Many people feel remorseful, they feel sorry for doing what they have done. They wish they could change it. Imagine a close friend betraying the other by sharing her secret, after all has been commited, the pepatriator may feel remorseful but she can't undo her actions can she? This may make her extremely sad and depressed.

Some will fall into a pit of Self-pity: It goes down to resentment of one's self. When this happens, try to distract yourself with things that will uplift your spirit.😊

Fix your way of thinking, by doing this you help your mental health get better.

Forgive yourself, and think kind thoughts about yourself. When you don't first forgive yourself you expect people to forgive you?

Remember you're still alive, so dwell on the present. You can spend a little time reflecting on your mistakes but never forget that you have a present life to plan and build on. If you ignore the present, I'm sorry to say this but you may be adding to the very huge pile of regrets you're already trying to reduce.

Please be patient with yourself, it takes time to let go but with continuous efforts made, in due time you'll see your life falling back in place and you'll have full control, just like it ought to be.😄

Dear friend allow yourself to be human...

Remember to always stay safe, love💕 like there's no tomorrow and live each day with renewed vigor and strength.

Because we never know...

Thank you for reading this article. I really appreciate your time! I am really grateful for your sweet gesture.😘