In my last post, I began with ingredients needed to foster a good family. I started with the reason and need for effective communication and we began to looked at some little issues which most people don't see need to discuss but may hinder healthy family. Today let continue on things to discuss before marriage.
Discuss the number of child you want : I know you asking do we need to discuss this also?....oh yes, discuss the number of child you want to raise together,this will give the family a sense of direction as to planning themselves ahead of time, and the spacing duration. Do you know discussing this, brings proper understanding as to when to decide birth control and use protection during mating. I remember a story of a family who fought as a result of the woman not allowing the man to mate her without protection, while the man his angry because he believe is not right for him to sleep with his wife with protection. The reason behind the woman is she is not ready to have another baby and not ready for abortion. If the number of child had been discussed earlier and agreed upon,then modality to achieving that would have been set and make it easier for the woman to remind the man of their promise. It little to be discussed, but it essential to discuss it ahead.
Discuss your sex life : he/ she is my partner,I should have him/ her anytime I want may be a wrong idea to your partner, reason you need to under and discuss your sex life with each other. A sexually active man may have challenge with a woman who doesn't want sex often and vice versa. Discuss how,when how often do you wish to have sex with each other. Many we sayz you can't determine that now!!!!!! Oh yeah I know you can't determine that, but fr.your discussion it gives you an idea of how active your partner can be and how well you can manage each other. Do you know that we have different temperament when sexually active. A man may raise down a whole building if the wife refuse to give in when he requires it, same goes to a woman,who can light up a building if the man refuse to attend to such needs. Some men may not be able to handle their partner urge and this may lead to infidelity in the family which may generate into so many family problem. It better to discuss it now than learn it the hard way.
Discuss if you want family members to live with you: In some part of the world, some feel one of the way to show kind gestures to new family is to give their child to them to help them at home and in turn,train such child. Well you need to sit with your partner to discuss,if you really want this, or is there a time duration before you want siblings to stay with you or you don't want siblings staying with you. Don't ever take your partner to be wicked or not accomodating if he or she decide not to allow siblings live with the family. It is better to discuss it and agreed on it which make it easier to give same reply when family members ask questions concerning it.
Discuss likely future jobs: Are you kidding me!!!!! Yeah u saw it correctly, there is need to discuss future job you will likely want to take and time duration,or nature of work you feel you can take. This is essential as if not properly discussed,you may not really get the idea of the man or woman you are about to marry. Been a career person is not wrong,but some perspective of career may not likely suit your kind of person. A woman may change her current job and the new one may take more of her time than the previous,which may shift some responsibility in the man,if the man is not prepared for such,it may not be easy to handle in the family same goes to the man also.
There is need for constant discussion as a partner before going to the altar as this will prepared the mind of both parties when challenge comes.
On this note, I want to say thank you for reading my post.