Communication is an essential part of human life, even God created man in His image for a sole purpose of having easy communication with him in order for him to be fully able to represent Him here on earth.
The author of marriage is God himself, no wonder the Bible say....He who find a good wife has found favour from God. In the journey of marriage, most people often rely on the general word LOVE. As much as love is an essential ingredients for marriage there are others factors that needs to be consider in the journey of marriage.
Communication is an integral part of a marriage hoping to turn into a blissful family,where children are properly raised, where both party are responsible for decision making. Many may wonder where am driving at precisely.
Lot of people prior to marriage believe they both understand each other, reason they love each other,both u will wonder just few weeks after marriage even some days after marriage,you begin to here comment like.....this is not the woman I married, this is not the kind of man I wanted to marry , I never knew you are like this, I never knew you are this lazy and so on.... All this are product of deficiency of true communication before marriage.
Without wasting much of your time, there are several things to discuss, agree on, disagree on, shift ground on before taking the bold step of going together to the altar. I will be discussing some areas people don't really want to delve into before marriage, but are key to enjoying the marriage. As the topic has rightly said....Discuss it now ,what are those things that needs to be discussed before marriage.
1. Discuss your idea of marriage: To so many,this may sound funny as the question seems childish. Do you know that cultural background determine the way we view marriage ? we have different perspectives to marriage, and making assumptions on your partner perspective could be suicidal to the family after marriage. Some sees marriage as just for child bearing, some sees it as a means of escape from adultery and so on. A man that sees marriage for child bearing is not looking forward to much in the marriage than for the woman to produce offspring,and once that tarry a little, he becomes impatient with the woman and nothing seems to interest him about the woman again. A man that sees marriage for the title of it, won't be ready for the full responsibility when it comes and this begin the beginning of argument in the family which could generate into something big enough to break the family.
2.Discussed modality for financing the family : financial part of the family is an essential part of it, discussing how the family bills and expenses will be taking care of is key to family success. Who is responsible for what in the family must be properly discussed before marriage.some family have joint account from which the family expenses are run,some don't belong to that school of thought, they believe the man should be responsible for the family expenses while some believe both the man the woman should share the bills. All this must be properly discussed and agreed upon before taking the bold step to avoid issues in the family. There was a case of a family,where the man believes once he buys raw food stuffs at home,then it the sole responsibility of the woman to buy other ingredients necessary to make an edible meal. A woman with idea which negate his idea will surely have problem coping with such a man. The same applies to a woman who believes the husband should be responsible for all the bills in the house and her primary duty is to take care of the house and ensure everything is in order may have challenge with a man with opposing view. No set standard as to how family finance should be run,so it the duty of the people involve to discuss what suit them
Discuss how to manage house chores: All this will alway sound weird to ones ear,but must not be joked with. I said earlier that cultural background could influence ones decision or idea about marriage. Some may believe that it is the sole responsibility of the woman to do the whole house chores, while a woman may also believe she is not a slave, that house chores should be shared between the two partner. Such woman may expect that once she is washing the cloth, the man should wash the plate ,but a man in the opposing view may get angry if a woman requires him to do any of the house chores,and this may generate to heated argument between the two partner. It better to discuss how house chores will be handle in the family.
I will drop my pen 🖊️ for now, we shall continue from here again. Thank you for reading my article, God bless you
