Self Concept
Refers to your awareness of yourself. It is the construct that negotiates these two selves. In other words, it connotes first the identification of the ideal self as separate from others, and second, it encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in the actual self that you engage in the reach the ideal self.
Actual self
Is built on self knowledge. Self knowledge is derived from social interactions that provide insight into how others react to you.
Ideal self
It is an idealized image that we have developed overtime, based on what we have learned and experienced.
Personal Effectiveness
Means making use of all the personal resources, talents, skills, energy and time to enable you to achieve life goals.
Determination – it allows you to focus only on achieving a specific goal without being distracted by less important things or spontaneous desires. It may be developed with the help of self-discipline exercise.
Self-Confidence – it appears in the process of personal development, as a result of getting aware of yourself, ypur actions and their consequences.
Persistence – it makes you keep moving forward regardless of emerging obstacles – problems, laziness, bad emotional state, etc.
Managing Stress – it helps combat stress that arises in daily life from the environment and other people.
Problem-solving skills – they help cope with the problems encountered with a lack of experience.
Creativity – it allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a specific action that no one has tried to use.
Generating ideas – it helps you achieve goals using new, original, unconventional ideas.
The negotiation that exists between the two selves which is complex because there are numerous exchanges between the ideal and actual self. These exchanges are exemplified in social roles that are adjusted and re-adjusted, and are derived from outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult development.
Build on your strengths and work on your weaknesses
Most failures emanate from weaknesses that are not recognized or probably recognized but not given appropriate attention or remedy. This could be a weakness in communications, personality or ability. Instead of giving up or indulging in self-pity, take action. Go for speech lesson, get skills upgrading attend personality development sessions or whatever appropriate remedies to your perceived weakness.
Instead of simply focusing on your weaknesses, recognize your own talents and abilities, build on them, utilize them to your greatest advantage. This is where you can build your name and popularity. Handicapped people like Jose Feliciano and other blind singers did not brood over their physical handicap. They recognized that they have a golden voice so they search for ways to enrich that talent and now they have won international frame in the field of music.
READING STORY: YOU NEED TO TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR FUTURE
There are three kinds of people in this world. The first is the MOVIEGOER. This person watches the movie of their lives admirers some part and criticizes others. Aside from that, they do nothing else. All she says the whole day is “I like this thing and but I don’t like that thing”. The Moviegoer feels she has absolutely no control their lives –except to comment about it. Moviegoer are the most pathetic, miserable people in the world.
The second is Actor. This person does not only watch the movie of her life. She actually realizes she’s the Actor—and can control a big part of her life. She can actually make or break the movie—by how well she delivered her lines and how she portrays her character. Actors are a happy bunch, realizing they’re the start of the show and enjoy some level of control. But many times, they wish the movie would end in another way—but realize that they have no say in such things.
The third is the Scriptwriter. This person does not only watch, and she doesn’t only act, but she actually creates the entire movie from her mind. She determines what she will say, what she will do, and how the movie will end. She realizes she has enormous control over her life, and sees to it that the movie of her life will turn out beautiful.