Love Is Everything

It's a lovely thing to be in a relationship with someone you care about.

Our "in love" is everything to us, and we are absolutely certain that it will last a lifetime.

For the rest of my life and the rest of my days. And they lived happily ever after, at least according to fairy tales.

It's hardly a fairy tale, but life isn't. Being in love is a fleeting experience.

Our ecstatic feelings of love were provided by nature.

It was nature's connection to it that gave it the unwavering sense of being here for all time.

To ensure our species does not die out in this generation, nature gave us the sensations of awe and tied them to the idea of eternality.

There's a legitimate reason for wanting something to last forever.

Stable relationships between parents can be quite beneficial to our children.

It's not just the children who benefit from a solid relationship, but also the people in it.

A family's harmony and the comfort of a real "home" are the best places to find the affection, support, and love that everyone craves.

But what does that mean to us as humans?

To be 'in love' with someone is not the same as being in love.

The one with the 'in,' on the other hand, does not spontaneously appear as an infatuation that is almost always just ephemeral. It's a lot of work. In successful marriages, this effort is sometimes made subliminally, and love is able to replace the infatuation. In most cases, though, we attempt to hold on tight to our lust. For us, the infatuation has faded, but we keep trying to recapture it. This is still an infatuation that can be brought back for a short period of time, but it tends to reappear soon after. Our marriages and relationships will suffer if we don't try to replace our infatuation with love (without the n). We have the power to make this endeavor deliberate!

To love with effort appears to go against nature.

However, that is what humans are capable of and what they are gifted with.

We can accomplish far more than if we rely just on our intuition.

A healthy diet is an option, even if our nature compels us to overindulge in sweets and sugar.

Although we are wired to rest and rejuvenate so that we can prepare for the next round of fight-or-flight, we may choose to live a healthier lifestyle by engaging in frequent physical activity.

We are wired to be lazy, but we have the choice to live a life of meaning and purpose, which brings us enormous satisfaction and helps us reach a higher level of cognition and awareness.

You can substitute the "in love" with "genuine love," which will bring you a life of peace, support and a real place to call home for your family.

We're referring to what kind of efforts here? Assisting each other's mental, emotional and spiritual growth by doing simple loving acts, saying simple loving words, developing a unique gorgeous name (darling and honey are not very unique) and being 100% trustworthy. After a period of time, romance will return with a new and exciting depth. One of the most critical aspects of being trustworthy is that you tell no one a lie.

Many of my acquaintances of a similar age are experiencing the so-called "midlife crisis" at this point in their lives. Midlife crisis is a problem with one's ego. Our children are becoming older, our careers are more secure, and our wives are becoming more experienced. A much younger girl's heart appears like a simple way to satisfy our egos and convince them that we still have "t" in us, but it's a short-term fix.

It's a sure sign that our marriage hasn't been able to cultivate a genuine love for each other. It's not a solution to go on another infatuation, which will inevitably lead to a fall from love. Consider the impact having a young girl will have on how your middle-aged wife feels. As a middle-aged man, I can attest to the fact that it's not a huge accomplishment to attract the attention of a young woman, no matter how attractive she is. The ugliest middle-aged men are frequently able to slip through the sleight of hand of young women with relative ease. So there's not much to be proud of. But there's nothing to be alarmed about at all. Put yourself in your wife's shoes first! Think about the feelings of the woman who gave birth to your children even if your religion allows for a second wife. Empathy for the plight of others. If you're considering a second wife, you've obviously failed to create love and put in the effort. You may have missed out on one of humanity's greatest achievements, but did you also lose your capacity for empathy in the process?

Making the effort to build a meaningful relationship with your children's mother is never too late. Marriages don't always work out, but the number of those that do may improve dramatically if we all practice complete honesty and so many other wonderful principles in our own relationships.

Religion, on the other hand? 'Mohammed had numerous wives, therefore it's fine' Since males died in wars and huntings, the number of women outnumbering men was enormous. We are now living in a new era. Taking care of a widow and other ladies in the year 400 might be considered a noble and wonderful thing, but this does not justify a lust-driven, instinctual poor and selfish answer to an ego-driven selfish midlife crisis. Make some basic attempts to find true love with your wife and not let her suffer in silence because of a misplaced male ego problem is a far better approach to midlife.