One of the most frequently asked questions among many of us is, can't a boy be a girl's best friend? In exactly the same way if I ask the question from the opposite side, the point is, can’t a girl be a boy’s best friend?
It is not possible to answer the question in simple language. It must be acknowledged that our social system is relatively more conservative, compared to that of Europe or America or Australia. Over time, however, the mentality of the people of the country has changed a lot, but the inequality between men and women in the country, as expected, has not yet been eliminated. The friendship between two people of the opposite sex is still not accepted normally by many in this country.
But if we think about it in terms of social systems in Europe or Western countries, then the friendly relationship between two people of the opposite sex is not an unusual thing. For this, there is no obligation on each other to be bound in any kind of relationship.
I met a young woman named Irena Proschich on Facebook. Irena is currently a Macedonian resident and a mechanical engineer by profession. Asked if a boy can be a girl's best friend, he said, "Of course, a boy can be a girl's best friend." There is no obligation on them to have any kind of relationship. They can come to each other at any time in life and thus form friendships with each other.
"It is true that the rights of men and women have not yet been established in the Balkan countries of southeastern Europe, such as Macedonia, Greece, Serbia, Bulgaria or Albania," she said. There are still a lot of things in our society that you will never find in Western European countries. For example: in our country, if a boy proposes to a girl for dating and invites her to any restaurant, then according to the society here, you have to take the responsibility of that girl. You will even have to pay his bill at the end of the meal at the restaurant. We still rely on different family customs. Because the direct influence of the Orthodox Churches on our lives is still strong today. So before the marriage of the girls, the parents check the ability of the boy.
According to Irena, we should all try to treat everyone in society equally, regardless of gender, and treat everyone as people of the same blood and flesh. In this context, he added, man should be judged by his human qualities, by his actions. Who is a woman or who is a man should not be considered in any way. If someone agrees with you, then of course you can come closer to each other. You can share your joys and sorrows and joys and sorrows, you can discuss anything that is not in your mind. You can hang out together, hang out and stand by each other out of a sense of responsibility for any need. '
Robin Kaliao, a resident of the Netherlands, agrees with Irena. "The most important factor in any friendly relationship is how much you respect each other's opinions," he said. Who is a woman or who is a man should never be considered in friendship. As a human being, try to mix with everyone naturally, hug each other. They try to strengthen the bond between themselves.
According to Robin, one thing is needed to see anything, and that is vision. Robin said, ‘I think each of us should work to change attitudes from our own position. If we can work collectively in this way, then one day we will be able to create the world of our dreams, where there will be no discrimination, inequality or crime.
Victoria Schweiler is a Brazilian citizen with a bachelor's and master's degree in sociology. He is currently pursuing a PhD in Gender Inequality in Latin American Countries at the University of Sao Paulo. In an interview, she said, 'Even in this era of the 21st century, there is inequality between men and women in different countries of the world. If we can change our thinking, it is possible to reduce this inequality to a great extent.
Like Robin and Irina, he thinks that everyone needs to be considered human, not woman and man. At the same time, he advised people of the third sex to be respectful. He said, 'I have seen that in many countries of the world there are separate educational institutions for boys and girls, especially at the primary and secondary levels, the issue of co-education has not yet been adopted in many conservative societies. I think developing countries can attach importance to co-education. As a result of co-education, both boys and girls will have the opportunity to come closer to each other and become empathetic towards each other. He also emphasized the importance of co-education in the suppression of various social crimes, including rape.
Friendship is the first experience of human life. Family or social, any relationship never develops unless there is a presence of 'friendship' in the relationship. Virginia Woolf, a writer of English literature, said, 'Some go to the priest, some to the poem, I go to a friend.' Life is really hard without friends. However, the social system of Bangladesh is very conservative. For this reason, it is often seen that even after a certain age, our mentors do not like the normal interaction between children. Even after marriage, if a girl communicates with a boy friend or a co-worker in the office, the other members of the family do not see it well. Similarly, after marriage, if a boy contacts his girlfriend or an office colleague, Family members do not take it well. Apart from this, issues like co-education have not yet been fully accepted in this country. For all these reasons, perhaps a girl's friendship with a boy has not yet gained such acceptance in the society.
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