We got married pretty young. I was 19 and Umer was 21 years old. Umer was a student here in Australia and I was back in Pakistan. He wasn’t settled, I wasn’t settled. What exactly is settled? Fancy corporate job, big mansion, a great luxurious car?! We did not have any of these things, Umer and I both were students when we got married. He was completing his bachelors then. We had a very simple wedding, only a Nikkah ceremony. My dress plus jewellery all costed approximately 15k - Pakistani rupees. Umer wore a 5,000 pakistani rupees kurta. A close knit ceremony which included immediate family and close friends. Why? Because we decided to invest that money for us. We made getting married easy like it’s supposed to be. No demands were made from either side. We decided to invest time and money in and for our relationship. Spending a huge amount of money for an even - that no matter how perfect; people would still complain about made no sense to us.
We saved the money and used it for something that would benefit us in the long term. Umer was living in sharing with other students before I came here, he moved houses few months before I arrived here in Melbourne. He bought everything from scratch, he assured me that I’d find every basic item required to operate day to day function in our home. From fridge, dishes, pots and pans - right down to Muslim shower! Yaaas! (Cannot survive without it)
If I measure according to the current society standards - 4 years and 1 kid later we are still probably not “settled”. But if you count - a roof to live under, good food to eat, good enough car to get out and about, a few outings here and there, good clothes to wear, a coffee machine, good health and laughs (very important). We’re doing just alright 😊My husband is a self made man. I couldn’t be more proud of him. And I couldn’t be more proud of myself that I chose him as a life partner and we made our life together through thick and thin - being each other’s rock. Here’s to us! Happy anniversary dear husband ❤️