Today is the wedding of my 65-year-old aunt. Not a very splendid arrangement. The marriage was solved in a very simple circumcision.
Aunt has 4 children. After the death of Fupa, people have done these 4 children with great difficulty. Fupa died in a road accident 20 years ago. Aunt had a little school job. With that, she saved her family and continued her child's education. Even when Fupa died, aunt had to look very young. The thing that caught everyone's eye was aunt's hair. As tall and thick, so was his long dress. Of course, I have called aunt chill full since childhood. Aunt's daughter was the language of the elders. It is difficult to calculate how many people then expressed interest in marrying aunt. Aunt's answer, as always, was, "My life is with my children. I never think of remarrying. I will never do it again. It is in my best interest to make them human."
After many attempts, no one was able to convince. It is difficult to say how many people have broken their minds.
People have made children. Everyone is highly educated and has migrated to America, Canada and Australia. The two sons are very happy with their wives in Canada and America. Sometimes, when he has time, he talks to his grandchildren in video calls. Aunt has not had the good fortune to touch them yet. The eldest daughter is forced to stay in Australia due to her husband. This is the rule of the girls where the groom will keep his permanent residence. The little girl is still studying. However, if not with the mother. Is there a better university in the village?
Aunt lives in the village A beautiful duplex house with a tidy house. Aunt's life is cut short by reading books, watering the flower garden, talking on video calls. They don't stay here all day and go to their destination after working. Everyone has a family, right?
Last Eid, I went to aunt's house with my family and showed up. She is happy to see us! I can't explain.
Looking at my house and the surrounding environment, it seemed that a happy person like aunt is probably no longer the 2nd in the world. But as a human being he is very lonely. Very helpless. My father realized this very well. Aunt needs a partner. But, who will accompany him or her? He can't even go to anyone's house just because he doesn't have a partner. Aunt is also quite talkative. How we cried the day we left. Aunt seemed to be the most helpless man in the world. Crying at this age is not right! How the inside of the chest moved.
So my father-in-law took the responsibility and persuaded my half-brothers and sisters to marry aunt. It has taken several months to convince the relatives. Everyone is saying, "Marriage at this age! What is this all about? New crazy thing! After a few days it will go to the grave. How old is the hobby of getting married again at this age." Dad himself has faced quite a bit of harshness. No one wanted to see the matter simply.
Sister, the youngest daughter of aunt's varsity, showed the most anger.
What is he angry with the father! And how many have said.
Dad is trying to eat respect, at this age, the mother's marriage can accept such a big girl?
However, after hundreds of insults and injuries, my father did not stop. Dad was just looking at the pot. In the end, the father has succeeded in overcoming all the obstacles. Like aunt, a wife-widow prefers a man as a bride. The father facilitates the marriage.
The respect for my father had increased a lot that day. In this modern age, the father lost the people behind? What a surprise!
Dad explained it to everyone. Marriage is not wrong in a lonely life. Loneliness is a very bad thing. There is no age limit for loneliness. Whether it is a small child or young or middle-aged or old. Not everyone has a mind! What if we could ever realize his position? Then maybe I would understand how difficult loneliness is. What a pain!
Why do we people in the society understand only sexual matters when we say marriage?
Marriage means social bonds, a social recognition. Selfless companion. Every morning means having tea together and reading the newspaper. Taking decisions together on any matter. Finding someone to share the words that have been frozen all day. Or to express the dreams that have been stuck in the old days. Just a man to express how many memories, how many sorrows, pains, feelings of joy. A selfless companion. Every human being needs it very much.
Now, if he wants, aunt can come to visit his relatives' house. He has a person to trust. Because it is faith. Aunt will not fall even if he falls. Because his trusty hand may be as old as his, but it will keep him safe. She is no longer alone, she has a supportive husband. She is a man of faith, responsibility and trust. With whom she will end her lonely life and give up her last breath one day.
A happy and beautiful society can be created only if we change our thoughts and attitudes. All the traces of loneliness can go away. All the people living alone will be fine.