Decision making is important. You must be do it with honesty and consider different instances. A decision may change everything.
According to dictionary : Decision is a conclusion or resolution reached after consideration.And the following are things that can help you to come up with the right decision.
Steps to Making the Right Decision
We can also break down the process of good decision making. Just follow the steps below.
Gather knowledge. The rightness or wrongness of a decision depends on the facts. At your current age, you may not know enough about these facts; so it is important that you consult and seek the opinion of people who know and have sufficient experience about the things you are meditating on. For example, it can be very helpful to consult your trusting teacher with your trusted teacher. He already has a lot of knowledge and experience that he can use as a basis for giving advice. It will be helpful to listen to different perspectives so that you can see the problem from different angles. But it is important to remember that all of this will only make sense if you are open-minded in accepting suggestions and advice from other people.
Meditate on the action itself. In any human decision, it is important to reflect on the action itself. You can use the following guidelines:
You need to evaluate the type of action. Ask yourself, What do I plan to do? Is it in accordance with the standards of Natural Moral Law? Is this correct?
It is also important to ask yourself what your personal intentions are in your action. For example, does a child living on the street always deserve to be given money? We became aware of the belief that it is good to share, especially with the poor. But a seemingly correct behavior is not always right because it is affected by intention. Are you sharing because you just want to be popular with your acquaintances? Or did you do it because you thought you could use it to compensate a friend for money fraud? So it is important to think carefully about what you are going to do because your intentions will definitely affect the moral of your actions.
It is also important to look at action-related events. Because man lives in the world with his neighbor, your actions have an effect on your neighbor. This is why it is important to evaluate the consequences of your actions before doing so. For example, if your sibling is constantly busy with his or her chores and projects, does that help him or her? Do you not teach him to be hopeful and lazy? It will not help his learning and growth. Therefore, everything related to action needs to be considered so as not to make mistakes in the decisions and actions to be taken.
After gathering knowledge and contemplating the choice to be made you have the readiness to choose what you think is right and proper.
Seek God's guidance in making decisions. Prayer is the most effective way that can be done to fully make clear what God really plans for us. Through prayer, you will be able to clarify what God really wants you to do. It is important to do this in order to have the strength to carry out whatever must be done at the discretion of one's own conscience.
But what if after gathering knowledge, meditation and prayer your skepticism still lingers in your choice? What should you do? The next step will help you.
Evaluate the emotion of the decision to be made. It is also important to consider our feelings or will in the choices we make. Not all logical or reasonable choices are good for us. It is also important to consider our satisfaction as a result of our choices.
Review the decision. If you remain in doubt because you also have the feeling that you can repent of your decision, you need to reevaluate your decision with prayer and further evaluation. Be open to the possibility that the decision will change after the process you have gone through.
You will have many more decisions to make in the future so it is important that you have enough knowledge about it. It is important to remember that in every choice you make, the higher good is always considered. This is what you learned in Module 10, in Max Scheler's Hierarchy of Appreciation. Only man is blessed with mind and instinct so he has the ability to recognize and do what is right and proper. For example, you inherited a large sum of money from a relative. After you receive the money, you want to have a grand banquet. But you thought not to pursue it because you realized that the happiness that partying can bring is only temporary. Instead you decide to spend it on your medical studies to help the poor and the sick. It is a virtue to help others rather than the pleasure that a party can bring. This is because man has the mind and instinct to know and aim to do higher good for his fellow man and to show love for God.
As time goes on, society's challenge to each individual to stand for what is right and good grows. There are many social issues that truly measure your moral stance. So you need to have enough knowledge and skills about making moral decisions.