Heal From People
We would really reach to a point where we would be gravely discouraged. Most of the time by people whom we thought we could trust and build a lasting relationship with—like friendship. Pero, may mga pagkakataon na nasusubok ang ating realasyon sa mga taong ito dahil na rin sa mga hindi pagkaka-intindihan at hindi pagkaka-unawaan. Some people will truly bring you down in times of adversity. They would point out your weaknesses just so they would feel superior. Others would invent stories about you para mas malugmok pa ang iyong pagkatao. We may want to complain about these types of people but we cannot really do something about it if it was God who had put them in our lives. It sucks, but it’s the truth.
I had been sleepless for several nights; overthinking about how little I had known my friends and how naïve I was of trusting them. I was condemned just because I stood up for what I thought was right, and believe me when I say that I always get into trouble because I always stood up for myself and other people. I would not say that I was the only victim though. Both parties were victims of our egos, anger, disappointments, and resentment against each other. Pero hindi lahat ng tao open-minded. Hindi lahat gustong matalo. Hence, the disagreement was aggravated and the problem was never solved.
Looking back, I could not stop asking myself kung paano ba nagmula ang lahat? Who was truly at fault? And yet, the answers are never revealed. Instead, all these questions only added to my misery and anxiety. But upon rereading Joseph’s experiences with his brothers, which are found in the book of Genesis 37: 23-28, I realized the greatest lesson from this experience. I learned that people could either be BLOCK or BRIDGE in our lives. Joseph was betrayed by his brothers—his flesh and blood, therefore, his brothers were the blocks in his life. And yet, the Lord revealed that his brothers were bridges. Their betrayal was the Lord’s way of revealing the greatness that He had prepared for Joseph.
And just like Joseph, I was betrayed and hurt by some people. Most of them, I trusted greatly—a sister, a teacher, an ex-lover, some are my close friends, others are colleagues. And guess what, I never heard an apology from them because, in their eyes, I was the villain. It was easy for them to turn the tables and yes, it affected me greatly. But then again, parents, teachers, friends, lovers, colleagues, and even strangers mold us. No matter who was at fault, or kahit walang magsasabi ng “I'm sorry”, they will still help in molding our characters. The only thing that we can do is to move on, kasi sabi nga ni Mark Manson, “We are responsible for experiences that aren’t our fault all the time. This is part of life.” Minsan magiging sobrang unfair ng situation. Minsan sobrang unfair ng ibang tao.
May mga taong ayaw humingi ng tawad at ayaw magpatawad. May mga taong gagamitin ka lang at pagkatapos ay sisiraan. May mga taong ayaw tumanggap ng pagkakamali. At may mga taong gustong-gustong naninira ng kapwa nila as a defense mechanism for their whole pathetic lives. But still, we have to heal from the pain and trauma that they have caused us. Wala tayong magagawa if that is their way of leading their lives. And sana, in our healing process, let us remember Romans 8:28 that says “…we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them”. If you are hurting now, hindi ka nag-iisa. But I tell you, we will heal—not now, perhaps not tomorrow. But eventually, we will.
Heal from trauma. Heal from people.