Leaving your parents´ home

I wasn´t quite sure about writing this, but I think some of you can feel identified with the next paragraphs.

WARNING: I´m not an expert, this is just a point of view based on a previous experience and, as matter of fact, my own thoughts.

The life cycle works very linearly in the traditional way. We are born, we grow, we reproduce, and we die. That is the baseline that many follow to live their own lives; Along the way we live experiences that form us as people with characteristics of our being, and that makes us have that unique stamp that defines us as individuals.

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Forming a family is part of that process, and we do it with a lot of effort, the logical step is to meet our partner, get to know her, live with her, and of course, form a home, and yes, the children. Those little versions of ourselves that when we realize it is already thinking and independent adults who need to live their own life experiences.

One of the most difficult parts of leaving the home that saw you grow up is undoubtedly the feeling of guilt that you will have because somehow your parents may think that you are abandoning them. That you are breaking with the home that they lovingly endeavored to create for you, and a whole series of annoyances that will come out the moment this happens.

Okay, it is normal to feel like this, but we must think that everyone needs to explore the world in their own way and live their own experiences, good and bad, and when you leave your parents' home, you are not abandoning anyone, you just continue your way and forge your own destiny.

For parents it seems wrong, naturally, parents will always see their children as their little ones, those who must protect at all costs against the dangers of the world, from the bad things that are out there. But they forget that just as they did, their little ones need the courage to know how to face a world of possibilities and mistakes.

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Living as an adult

Something I often think about is, if we depend fully on our parents all our lives, what will we do when they are no longer with us? All that dependency will turn into despair because we did not learn to do anything for ourselves, and ironically, our protectors, leave us unprotected.

I like to use my father's philosophy on this issue. He likes to say that parents should be like the eagle, which throws its children out of the nest so that they learn to fly. If we stay in the nest our whole life, we will not learn to fly, and consequently, we will remain without knowing many things, it seems quite logical.

Do not be offended, having children is a wonderful experience, and they give a sensational meaning to life. But it is inevitable to limit ourselves a bit as a couple when children enter our life. And many do not know how to balance their love life, with their fatherly life, and there, the problems begin. For those who suffer this, the emancipation of their children can mean a new beginning in their love life, make up for a lost time, and spend more time with the person who accompanies them every night to sleep.

Final thoughts

In any case, it is part of the cycle of life that must be respected, and although at first, it causes annoyance, sadness, and indignation, it is a necessary step to finally be an adult. In the same way, for all those who leave their parents' home, it does not mean forgetting them, quite the contrary. Now as adults, they have the responsibility to repay all the love that their parents gave them at some point, and already at this stage, they can do it in a more responsible way. That's what life is about.

Live like the children our parents love, being the responsible adults of whom they would be proud.

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