Why Am I Too Compassionate Within The People Around Me?
I believe that each of us has a good heart. We are all created equally but with different state of mind. Different views towards people around us.
I was in the bathroom when I got the idea of writing this topic. About being sensitive on what I feel towards others life situation. Where do they live, what do they eat and what do they do for a living?
***I wrote this article because I want to tell the readers why am I too compassionate or merciful with the people around me. Definitely, we are not rich. My family eat 3 times a day and only the 2 of us are working in the family. That's it but I am bothered with people whom I do not know that I just saw along the way or especially those I know like neighbors who are working hard to survive everyday.***
I watched a video in youtube wherein a famous vlogger asked her family how well do they know her. One of the questions was "What made me cry?" Her sister answered that she cried when she saw a man inside the mall carrying "bayong". Then I just thought that maybe she get pity with the man. Then I remember myself.
I am a very observant person meaning even when I am inside a jeepney or van or at work before, I imagined how is the life of a person I am looking at. I maybe wrong on what I think about the life of the person I am looking at but my inagination is so wide. Especially when watching documentaries in tv, I want to cry whenever I saw the life of some people in the province. Some doesn't have electricity, some doesn't eat regularly, the kids grew up unhealthy and their way of living.
There is a family living in our subdivision. They were only 3 in the family. The father, mother and their only son. They were only renting and their business is selling street foods like barbeque, hotdogs etc. Their son is a tattoo artist but with no regular job. Their business is located in front of our house so I always noticed if there were many or few customers. I felt happy whenever I saw many customers buying but when they have only few, I can't help but felt sad and merciful to them. I was already thinking how much have they earned, how are they going to pay their montly rentals, their monthly bills. Meaning, I was overthinking again not just for myself but also with others which is not part of my life at all. That is how merciful I am. I'm very concern with them because that is only their way of living.
Now that it' s rainy season, they only have few customers because people cannot get out of their house because of the bed weather. I can see the look in their faces when they are waiting for customers. Sometimes I just buy to them though I am not hungry just to help then in a little way. I don't know why but I am very concerned with them. If only I could help them.
Their son should have a regular job to support his parents business. What they earn is not enough to fulfill their everyday needs.
Also, when I saw on TV wherein the parents sold honeybees in the market for them to buy new pants and shoes for rhe graduation of their son. But before selling it, they also get it straight from the trees where there were beehives. It was very dangerous because they don't wear any safety gears to protect themselves. When they sod it in the market, many customers ask for cheaper price for them to purchase it so they just agreed in order to sell all the bottles of honey bees. Their expected sales was different from what they earned because they lowered their prices. But they still bought the pants for their son but not the shoes due to lack of budget.
That type of story breaks my heart. As much as they try their best to provide for their families, they also failed to some instances even they try harder. If only I could go there and buy the shoes for their son, I will to help them in a small way and to make theie children happy.
Even when I went to market and there are vendors who have small stores only and no one is buying, I was already affected about them. I was thinking how will they survive. Will their business stil continue if they have few customers only.
There is also a documentary where children were malnourished. This was also in the province and you can see the children where they grew unhealthy because of poverty. Some died. There was this family where they limit their food for a day. You can see the baby wants to eat more but the mother keep the food so that she has still something to give the next meal.
**My Final Say**
Even If I know that my life is struggling too, I know that there are still others who are most in need. I an just lucky rhat I have a job to support my family. I just don't know why I am greatly affected with others lives. I was born to be like this.
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Why Do Most Relationships Failed?
There is no such perfect relationship. Every relationship passed into loops and holes. Some are still struggling and able to surpass it while some no longer continued the relationship which resulted into a broken family or relationship. But of course, they have different reasons why that relationship failed.
As I read some articles and have watched from movies, the below are some of the reasons of a failed relationships:
**Third Party.** The most common reason. Entering into an illegal relationship. This can happen to both husband and wives. Even to boyfriends and girlfriends. This is where one or both party met and became close to other people. Mostly to their officemates or colleagues because this is where their time is more spent. They became close that they eat together during breaktimes or lunch and they can talk more because they see each other longer. They did not noticed that both of them already fell for each other. Even at home, they cannot control missing each other, so they still text and call each other. This is where the affair all started for them and the end of the other relationship.
I worked in a BPO and I myself noticed how others entered into another relationship.
One of the scenarios are the smoking buddies. Again, these can happen to both men and women. Those people smoking have a certain smoking area. This is where some groups or.individual goes and started meeting others. They usually became close because they both smoke and talk at the same time. Until they ask for both contact numbers and this is the start. They spent most time together at work and even started to communicate at home. They can also go on a date together by making alibis to their husband/wives or girlfriends/boyfriends that they will render rest day overtime which is not actually true.
***Disclaimer***: This is just the scenario I saw for some. I am not claiming all.
**Time.** This is the most important reaaon why many relationship failed. Especially if both or one of the parties are working for the reason to support and provide to their children and families. Their minds concentrate on the financial side. They both work hard together, render overtime and even take sideline jobs that they both forget their time for each other and to their children. They maybe financially happy but emotionally sad. They no longer have time for themselves to talk about their work or about their families. They no longer eat together. Because both are busy, they no longer find time to go on a date or take their family out. They will only see at bed but will just sleep due to a tiring day. The next day, they will do the same routine again. To work, work and work. They spent more time at work. Until they noticed, that the love is gone.
**Money**. They say money is the root of all evil. When you have money, you can control everything. But it depends on how you handle it.
In a family, when there are financial issues like monthly bills and the food everyday, couples fight. Especially when this pandemic happened, the rate of umemployment increased. If the father lost their job, there is a big impact in the family. It will also impact the pride of the father since he is the head of the family. If he cannot support them, he will get mad everyday. He will just divert his attention to others like going outside with friends which causes the couple to fight. The father will then decide to leave the house. He felt worthless so he will just leave his family.
**Third Sex.** This only happens to very few couples. Mostly the husband or even the wife for some reason fall in love to their same sex. He/she falls out of love to his wife/husband. They will just decide to broke up and gave freedom to the other party.
**Miscommunication**. This usually happens if you are in a long distance relationship. There is no physical communication and you only communicate through social media. So any small fights or misunderstanding can lead to separation. We don't understand how both felt because we don't see each other face to face.
Remember that we should not decide when we are angry. Any decision you made when you are mad or very angry are mostly wrong. You are just carried away by your emotions. Let your self rest for a while and be cool. When you think you are okay compared before, that is the time to talk again for any misunderstanding and from there, you can decide if its worthy to continue or not the relationship. It's not just the both of you who will be affected but also the child or the children as well if you have your own family.
**Effort**. Not because you are married, doesn't mean you don't have to make efforts to your partner. For us ladies, we stll reminisce those times we received gifts, chocolates and flowers. For men, they also wanted gifts like they received before. It's not the price that matters. It's the thought that still counts.
For a housewife, it is hard taking care of the children and doing the household chores at the same time. That is why some mothers looks stressful. The father knew other ladies and compared the differences of his wife and the other ladies. He thought that he doesn't love his wife anymore because of her looks. That her wife can no longer be presented to others because she is not taking care of her looks anymore. The father doesn't know that the reason behind these is a hard-working wife.
Effort should come from the father. He should make effort by giving beauty products to his wife. A simple rose and a bar of chocolate would also make her wife smile. He should also not forget to give a kiss or hug to his wife everytime he leaves or return home from work.
Same goes to the wives. She should also understand that her husband is working hard so she should prepare delicious meals for her husband and a good massage before going to bed will ease the stress.
**Physical Abuse**. This is about beating your partner. Those things you did physically may heal but the pain will always be remembered. Mostly, wives are physically hurt by their husbands especially when they are drunk. They don't know what they did to their partner. Some also hurt their children who just defended their mother. So the wife will just leave with her children and move. Sometimes, they tried to stay for her family but if the physical damage is too much, it is the time that the wife leaves.
There are also husbands who were physically hurt by their wives. Whatever the reason is, it is not right to hurt someone physically. It's better to talk about any misunderstanding first before doing any decisions.
**My Final Say**
We should remember that behind a failed relationship for couples are the affected children. Their emotional and psychogical needs are affected. Every children needs complete family with complete love. If we can still make a relationship work, let us do it. Try to work it out. But if you think, that the love is gone, that is the time to decide.
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.1 BCH Finally Earned..A Great Achievement
Whenever I read others articles about their BCH goals earned in a certain month, I also wanted to have an article of mine but I haven't reached it yet that time. It was also because unlike them, I only published article once every 2-3 days.
I am happy with the tips I received from the articles I published. I did not know that I already reached .1 BCH but it actually took me 2-3 months to reached it. But that is fine. I think I have to push myself to create more. There are times I cannot write because I have responsibilities at home and the topics I have in mind is not working. I cannot think all about that topic. Maybe its because I'm too stressed or it's too noisy inside the house. I cannot concentrate on a certain topic.
But when you are in good mood to write, you cannot stop your ideas coming in and you noticed that you have written a lot. You have all the energy and your imagination is working. In exchange of that good mood and after publishing it, you received upvotes and tips from the readers and Rusty which is a happy feeling. Whenever I received tips, I will just smile and say thank you but its just me who can hear it.
**The .1 BCH**
When I noticed that I have reached .1 BCH, I told myself to invest it but due to financial crisis, I need to spend it especially with my housing loan. I used some of it to pay for it. I also used some to use in our loading business. I orovide them the load but I also earn. Some of it to buy foods as treat for my family. I can never earn it aside from my salary and as I always say, I am thankful I found read.cash.
It is not bragging when you write articles about the goals being earned. It actually motivates others to follow what others did to achieve that certain goal.
I read multiple articles about the BCH they earned by a month and it was surprising at first but maybe they are too industrious in writing.
Honestly, there are times I write not so long articles for me to earn that time. I noticed that I received very small tips maybe because I did not put too much heart and ideas in that article. Just to earn, I finished it and published.
I learned that, earning is not enough. It means you did not put your 100% heart in what you write. It feels you lack something but when you received many upvotes, your face is smiling including your heart and mind.
Like in the article I wrote "**Live Each Day As If It Were Your Last**". Always treat everyday your last day so that you can give your best everyday. Live today like there is no tomorrow so you won't have any remorse. You have given your best today so that others cannot say something bad about you. You have done what you need to accomplish. https://read.cash/@Shyness/live-each-day-as-if-it-was-your-last-dce2dd8f
I am looking forward to earn .2, .3 or more BCH to come. I am striving more and thinking of creative topics.
Maybe you were curious why I need to work hard? It is simply because I have been the head of the family eversince my sisters and brothers were married. They have their own family to work for. I have been supporting my family financially and now my brother and I are working both to support our family. I always wanted to give a better life for my family. Not the best, just better for now.
I hope that in the future, I can save from what I earned here. Save more for my son. For emergency cases and for the future. And also, used some for the present.
I cannot imagine my life before when I haven't earned BCH. I used to borrow money from a cooperative at work where you can borrow money and pay in a certain months but with interest. It became a habit to me to borrow most of the time due to lack of budget. Most of my salary went to the loans I joined. And thankfully, aside from we are mostly working from home, I am earning BCH. I save time and money from working from home. I have still a lot to thank for.
It was also good that I learned about BCH. I read some of the articles about the cryptocurrencies. Everytine I received tips, I sent it rught away to my Coins.ph account and some to my Bitcoin wallet. I also left some of the tips for me to upvote others. I read and also learn from it. Reading helps me to write more so give others the upvotes and tips because we also learn something from them. It's like paying them back.
**My Final Say**
Use our ability wisely. Do not cheat or plagiarize. We all have our own talent so use it fairly. Writing is a serious job. Earning is not easy. Just enjoy what we are doing. If we enjoy.what we do, everything good happens.
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March 5, 2021 - Marked As My First Day Here
I kept thinking on the month I started with Read.Cash. I cannot recall if I started month of March or April so when I checked my email, from there I saw the exact date. ***March 5, 2021***.
I may have not written a lot unlike others but all I can say that we all have same passion when it comes to 7 GGwriting. As long as we can imagine, we have in something to write.
***How It All Started***
Before, I used to join a lot of applications and websites online mainly to earn. This is because my salary is not enough for my family that is why I am busy looking for something to add up. My curiosity all started when my colleague invited me to join a website he joined but there is a fee and your earning depends on how much your investment was.
It was ok at first week but after that, the website disappeared. The money that I paid did not earn nor did not return at all. But then, I did not give up, I still join other websites and with fee because I believe tht for you to earn, you have to invest. At first week, I earned so I was sure that it was true that time but when it reached 2nd week, the same thing happened, the website cannot be found. I only earned half of what I invested. I still wasted money.
I cannot recall other websites I joined but the last one was the biggest investment I paid. It was a big company and my colleague who invited me already received pay outs many times. So I agreed to join. But then, when I was about to receive my pay out after three months, I did not receive a single penny. After that incident, I did not join any apps or websites to earn money. I just looked for free applications until I found read.cash.
*The Start of My Earning*
I was about to give-up after failed attempts of joining in different websites which were just scam. It was my fault so I have no one to point out. Until I read something about read.cash. I registered because the website is free though I have no idea at first what this is all about. I tried since I did not pay anything. Then I finally found what I've been looking for. I told myself.
.I never imagined a website for free and all you need is to just register and then you can easily start writing any topics of your own. All you need to do is to write original article and give your passion in writing.
So I read first all about read.cash before starting to write. When I found out the good sides of it, I already started to write my first article. I remember I was so excited when I first wrote and a lot of ideas came to my mind.
I read the do's and dont's and the pointers before starting. I also read about the topics I can write which is my guide when I started up to now
***My Very First Article***
I wrote "***I Am Shy***" as my first article. This is mainly to introduce myself to the world of Read.Cash and to meet other writers. This was the topic that came into my mind out of nowhere. Good thing, many writers, upvoted and commented. https://read.cash/@Shyness/i-am-shy-b6015740
Though I am a shy person in real life, I am still able to prove to others that I can be proud of the talent I have. I can write. I have the ability to tell the people what I want to share though its not personally talking to them. I am proud that I was able to published it. The next thing I know was that I was upvoted by Rusty or the Random Rewarder. I thought he was a writer at first then I found out that it was an AI or a robot who randomly provide tips to the writers. Aside from Rusty, other writers upvoted me and subscribed as well. This is a feeling of fulfillment in my part everytime I write and being rewarded of course. I also subscribed to other.
***What Read.Cash Has Made Me***
Read.Cash introduced me to many things.
I met BCH or BitCoin Cash. The cryptocurrency that we earned here.
I met Rusty.
I met different writers.
I became more aware of my past and everyday experiences. This is useful for me to make articles based on everyday experiences. Well, mainly to earn but also for me to share my experiences. To know me better.
After making the first article. it made me stronger and better to write more. I published my second, third, and more articles. I can say that I am very thankful of what I earned here.
***My Final Say***
I hope that I will be forever part of Read.Cash and it will stay stronger and this will be forever.
It helped me a lot financially and emotionally especially this pandemic. Let us just continue writing and proving what we have in writing.
Well, I know that Read.Cash is not for all. It depends if a person is interested in reading and writing articles. You have to read because this is where you can get the next articles you want to publish and you have to write for you to express your emotions and feelings
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Getting To Know My Weird Habits
Each of us has our own habits. It can be good or bad depending on how we do it. We also have that weird habits that we can't get rid off. I admit that those weird habits became my addiction and at the same time became usual.
I have these weird habits at home that I want to share. Some maybe same to others or it can just be me who's doing it.
**I eat ice.** I used to do it everyday but that was before. I will drink water and put the ice cubes fro the freezer. I eat the ice because I felt it refreshes me and I like its crunchiness. I saw it from my sister before who eat ice and I don't know why I did it too. Even when drinking sodas, I want to have ice cubes or crushed ice while drinking. Also, everytime I eat ice, I don't know why but I feel certain relaxation maybe because its cool.
I also watched videos in youtube where there are youtubers who eat ice and you can hear the sounds while they bite and crushed the ice using their teeth. It may sound weird to others watchng it but I did enjoyed it.
**I eat rice with chocolate powder and/or milk powder with rice.** I know that this is not new to others especially kids. I used to eat this before eversince I was a kid. I remember when we moved house in Cavite.
There were big changes at home and in our environment. The place we lived before was very crowded and noisy but you can find anything in that place especially food which is just affordable. You can see a lot of stores even late night. You will see a lot of people even it is midnight. You can buy cooked foods for breaksfast, lunch or dinner.
But when we moved to a new place, it is the opposite of the old place. The people sleep early and you won't see anyone in the road as early as 8-9 pm. Even jn he morning, you won't see a lot of people. It was boring and there were no food business unlike before.
You will learn to buy canned goods most of rhe time if you cone home late or just eat whatever was left in your stocks. This is where I kearned to eat milk or choco powder with rice. I enjoyed the taste so I ate it once in a while. But now, I no longer eat it because we always have enough meal at home but I will surely try it some other time.
**I washed the dishes first before I eat**. Everytime I woke up, instead of taking my breakfast first, what I will do is to wash the dirty dishes first before eating if there is but usually, there is. It was my habit eversince because I don't want to eat first knowing I have to wash all the dishes after. So once I'm done, I can eat and what I will wash is the plate and utensils that I use only.
It became my habit because once.you have eaten and you are full, you tend to sit and just want to lie down and do nothing. So it's safe to say that after eating, there's no need to worry about the dishes I have to wash. It was my responsibilty at home.
**I check the gas tank after used if closed multiple times.** This is too weird habit for me. I am scared of fire and this is one of the causes so I see to it that after cooking anything, I make sure that the gas tank is closed. I will close it then I will check it again if its close. Then I will turn on the gas stove if it will ignite while the gas tank is close. I am weird in terms of that.
All of us are scared of fire accidenrts. There is a saying that goes, "**It's better to be robbed than to be hit by fire**" because if your house will be robbed, they cannot take everything while fire can take away all your properties including the house itself.
I have this phobia with fire since my claasmates house which was almost near to us experienced fire. Their house including their relatives house were all burned up. But the good thing was they were all safe.
I saw the big fire which seemed very angry that late hot afternoon. Its dark big smoke was in our direction so even its not that near to us, we still prepare knowing how big the fire was.
**Drinking coffee before sleeping.** Coffee is energy boosting but for me, it doesn't feel that way. Maybe because I am immune of the taste of coffee.
My work is from night shift and I don't get to sleep 8 hours a day. I only have 4-6 hours of sleep. After our shift and I am about to sleep, I will drink coffee because for me, it will help me to sleep.
**Eating Champorado But With Powdered and Liquid Milk Together.** Most of us Filipino loves "champorado" for breakfast served hot or cold and its best with evaporated or condensed milk in on top. Champorado is a Filipino food made with cocoa or chocolate powder with sticky rice. What I did is to put both liquid and powdered milk in the champorado so that it will be more tasty.
**Smelling Laundry Soap When Purchasing**
When I was in college, whenever my mother told me to buy bar soap for laundry, I enjoyed smelling a certain scent. I do it everytime I purchase it.
**My Final Say**
My weird habits can also be the same as yours. Just want to share it with everyone.
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Happiness Is For Everyone
The best things i n life are free. Being happy is one of those. We don't need to be rich for us to be happy. We can smile, laugh and be happy at all times we want. Happiness is within us. We can find it everywhere if we want to. All we need to do is to be free and follow our hearts. Follow what makes us happy.
Todays topic of mine is the total opposite from my previous article. Let us forget about those sad moments and try to be happy for the meantime. Remember the happy and fun moments with our family and friends. Though we need to face and solve our problems, we can set it aside and still think of happy thoughts**.**
Internal Happiness
This means happiness of the heart. The internal happiness felt by a person which others did not notice. Because you are alone, introvert and unsociable at work, people might think that you are a person with problems. They don't see the happiness in your face which is just your personality. But when you got home with your family, that is the time you talk and laugh with them. That is the happiness within that people don't know. It's not just how people see it, but it also how you feel it. People doen't have to see that you are happy. They will just judge you but never mind them. Your own life matters.
**Am I Happy?**
Yes I am happy. But thay doesn't mean that I am very happy. I am happy because I needed to. I realized thst there a lot of reasons for me to be happy. Not financially but physically and emotionally.
I am just a simple person and I have reasons to be happy:
**I have my and family and son Nathan.** I considered my son my wealth. I may not be financially rich but seeing my son and my family safe is my real happiness even without my mom. We continue to live but we will never forget the happy memories with or mother. She will be in our hearts forever.
**I am healthy.** Most important of all is the good health of me and my loved ones. Being happy is being healthy.
**I have Read.Cash.** I am almost 3 months in Read.Cash and I can say that everytime Rusty and other writers tipped me, it gives me the happiness to write more. I am proud that I was able to fulfill my dream as a writer and at the same time, share to other readers and writers my stories and different topics. Everytime I write, I am happy that others will get to know me more, my personality. They will get to know my family, what I've been through and what I have in mind.
**I have work**. I am still thankful for the work I have now. I am still lucky that amongst others, I still continue to work and able to do my job work from home.
**When I see the sun.** Eversince I was a kid, I am scared of thunderstrom, lightnings and I don't like rainy seasons. For me, it feels very sad when it rains and it feels like the sky is crying. But when I see the sun, everything seems bright and light. It makes me happy when everyone can go outside and see the beautiful sun.
**I am in love.** Someone loves me. I am happy knowing there is my family, my son amd my partner.whom I share my happiness with. We just have to wait for the right person to come.
**How Can You Make Someone Happy?**
A simple smile can make someone happy. When you meet someone you know along the way, just jjjjjsmile so that the person knows you notice him/her and know its worth.
**Being a friend**. I know I am not a good adviser but I listen attentively to the person whenever there is a problem. I make the person happy by being there. It may not be personally but by talking through mobile or even a text message makes him/her feel better.
**Being happy is like a magnet.** When you are happy, the person around you will ne happy, too. Everyone is being attracted. It collects positive energies.
**When we can provide our familys needs, it gives them happiness.** It is also a contentment on your side.nbjjñ
**Thinking of happy thoughts.** Sharing happy stories to a person. You can even ñt talk to a person any happy events, dreams or just an imaginatiom you may want to share to make yourself or someon happy.
**But most important of all, giving love is the best happiness you can give to a person especially to your family.** No matter how many material things you can give, money can't buy love. Love is happiness.
Why Other People Can't Be Happy?
If its easy for some to achieve happiness, there are also some who cannot be happy. They may have their own reasons. The below applies:
**Discontentment**. Not being contented. Wanting something and in the end, wanting another. We are not satisfied with our desires which makes us not happy because we have not achieved what we want yet.
**Being pessimistic.** When we think negative things, that is what usually happens. It attracts negative vibes. So the people around you became negative, too which makes a person not happy.
**Being worried too much.** Same thing as pessimism. Since you are worried, you always think of what's bad is gonna happen. You cannot enjoy the life because your worries is the hindrance to your happiness.
**When they are broken-hearted.** Some people cannot survive easily when they are broken-hearted. I know the feeling. I've been there and it is hurting. But the only way to move on from that heartbreak is by facing it. Let it be healed and wait for someone who will makes us happy and in love again. The feeling of sadness will remain if we are stuck into that situation.
**Envy.** We always look on others success and we get jealous because we want to reach or achieve more than that person. Result is being unhappy because we do not enjoy our own success. We always observe others than focusing on our own goal.
My Final Say
The happiness of a person will start on our own. We are the one who controls our emotions. We should always be happy even though there are trials in life.
I always believe that happiness is positivity. Being happy makea us enjoy what we have rather than what we don't have. When we are happy, all things happens well.
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Depression Kills But It Have Its Prevention
I wrote this article because nowadays, this pandemic has caused a lot of anxieties and depressions to everyone. Not only because of the pandemic but also because of what is really happening in the family, relatives, friends, partners etc..We do not know what others feel or think. Everyone can be misleading.
We might think a person is very okay because of how he /she looks or how he laughs but deep inside is a depressed personality full of sadness and negstive thoughts that might burst out anytime. This is a very serious issue yet treatable as well.
***Getting To Know Depression***
**Depression** is a mood disorder that is caused by severe loss of interest or hope. It affects our mental health. It is a serious condition because it affects us memtally, physically and emotionally. It can happen to all. Even younger generations suffers depression. You can see a person smiling or laughing out loud but deep inside is a crying heart. A person trying to cover all his emotions and problems and trying to solve it by himself. Its hard to distinguished a person suffering from it. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/symptoms-causes/syc-20356007
I thought at first, this looks easy to treat. You are depressed meaning you are sad, just laugh and smile then its gone. But I'm wrong. It depends on the person suffering from depression. Feeling sad or having a depressed mood.
*****Symptoms or Common Signs of Depression*****
**No appetite or too much appetite.** You may see a person eating a lot thinking he/she is just ok and just loved the food or the other way around, no appetite at all because he/she has problems not knowing a person is depressed already.
**You cannot concentrate at certain things.** You are easily distracted with things around you because you cannot focus at a certain thing. At work, you cannot finish a task because you are distracted by what others are doing. There are things bothering you.
**The loss of interest in the usual hobbies or activities.** You may love playing basketball a lot or you enjoy playing computer games before and suddenly, you stopped all of it.
**Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much.** Since you loss your interest to your usual hobbies, all you did is to sleep a lot. For some, due to overthinking, they have difficulty in sleeping
**Suicidal Tendencies.** This is the major symptoms of depression. You have plans of ending your life. There are different ways of suicidal. We don't know when and where it can occur because we never know if a person is depressed until those people share it with us.
*****A True Story*****
The reason why I wrote this article is because of a young boy who passed away due to depression. He committed suicide. At a very young age, he ended his life without any clear reason why he did it.
The boy is the nephew of my brother-in-law. It happened last Monday when my sister received a message from his husbands relatives that the boy hung up in his room. That was the only message that they received. So my sister texted and called the boys sister and other relatives to know exactly what happened. So they just waited and after an hour, they knew that the boy passed away. It was confirmed that he was dead 3 hours upon sending to the hospital. My brother-in-law and the father of the boy are brothers and the mother of the boy is working in Malaysia as OFW so she has no idea what happened but later on she was also informed so that she can schedule to go back to the Philippines.
My sisters husband who is my brother-in-law went home from work already after finding out what happened. But due to bad weather that day, they just went the next day. My sisters family stayed there to guide my brother-in-laws family there. My sister said that the boy has a lot of friends.
He used to stay here in my sister's house when he was small so he has also friends here. There were many people who visited his wake. Friends from different places that the family never expected how may people loved the boy. Many people still can't believe that at his early age, he ended his life because of depression.
When my sister and her daughter went home the other day, my sister told us what happened. It was around 2am and the young boy was drunk and he went to his cousins house which was just near them but his auntie said that it was too late. They can just talk in the morning so he tried to his other cousins house and that was the same answer of his mothers cousin. Without them knowing, that was the last time they will see the young boy. Since he has no one to talk to, he just went home and go to his room at the 2nd floor which was partially renovated. Before, it was only 1 floor and their mother was able to save money to build a 2nd floor. Instead of buying new.property, they just renovated it.
Since he has no one to talk to, he just went inside his room and it all happened. No one inside the house knew what he was going through that night.
When his father went to his room to check him late afternoon, the door was locked. It was normal for the young boy to woke up late. Being worried, he used the camera of his phone to check if he was there since there was a hole outside the room. When he looked down, no one was in the bed but when he adjusted the camera, there he saw his son hanging. So he tried to kicked the door and carried the boy to the hospital. He was dead 3 hrs ago upon arrival to the hospital.
When I heard the whole story, I felt the pain for the whole family. The more I felt for the young boy. He shoukd be enjoying more and achieve his dreams, have his own family and explore more.
But who are we to judge? We cannot judge the person because we don't know how he feels when he was alive. His family is just around but maybe he was shy to talk to his family about his problems. No one also would expect that he will do it.
Some says that he has problems with his family. His parents are not in good terms. They said that the boy wants his parents to reconcile. While his mother is in abroad, his father is living with them but when his mother went home, his father would leave for a while. It can also be because of his problems with his lovelife. He has posted sad messages about love Facebook. At a very young age, he seemed to have those problems that he keeps to himself or to his friends which maybe not taken seriuosly by his family.
He was a talented boy. He was good in rap. He has videos with his friends where they sung maybe about their struggles in life or others lives. It was just so sad that he can no longer continue it.
Everyone has struggles in life We all faced problems. You are not normal if you live with no problems. This story proves that depression can kill even at an early age.
*****The Treatment*****
Depression can be treated. I know that its not that easy to say that we can treat it in on our own. There are different types of deprrssion. There are different levels of deprrssion. But if we think that we are carrying too much sadness in life or we feel heavily with our problems in life, we can simply talk to our parents, or to our closest sister or brother or friends. Talk to the person whom we feel very safe to open up to.
If we don't want to talk to them, seek for a professional help. Talk to a psychiatrist. They are the experts. Depression can be easily treated if we help ourself first.
Exercise is also a must. It can help our mind and body get back in good condition.
*****My Final Say*****
I read that grief is different from depression. At the time I was in grief from my mothers loss, I felt I was in depression but it was just nornal to cry because I'm missing someone. But up to now, I still cry, there are times that I am sad and I felt tired but because I've done chores at homes. I think I am not depressed. I was just tired but I still fight. Whenever I felt I am carrying heavily in my heart, I talk to a friend or a person I rely on. It releases those heavy emotions in my heart and in my mind.
It really works when talking to a friend or family member whenever you have problems in life especially when you pray and talk to God. Nothing is impossible in HIM.
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The Everyday Duties of a Mother, Daughter and Sister At Home
Our home is where the heart is. After a long day of work and stress, it always feels good to be at home seeing our whole family. This is where the good and even bad memories happens but this is also where our love for our family happens. Each member of the family plays a vital role at home. An important role in building a happy family.
I remember before, after a long night of work with stress due to the work itself and road traffic, but once I reached home early in the morning and seeing my mother, father, my siblings and my son, I felt recharged. I forgot all the bad things that happened and it was replaced with good vibes. All of a sudden, my mood change positively.
Especially, when there are special occasions, all my nieces and nephews will be in the house to celebrate. It may be tiring for my mother since she always cooks and prepare for us and also to me because I wash the dishes and clean the house after, but it feels okay because we are together even in those simple celebrations and it only happens once or very seldom.
But now that my mother passed away, a lot of changes happened at home. Our house which was very quiet but happy home before turned gloomy. But the good thing is that we are slowly coping from our mothers loss. The duties of my mom were passed into all of us. Cooking is now done either by my father or sister, cleaning the house and washing the dishes is done by me and washing clothes is now done either by me, my father or my broher.
Since I am still living with my family, I need to get along and help in the everyday chores at home.
**Being A Mother**
I can say that being a mother is a tiring day everyday. It is a forever duty with no salary. From morning till midnight, I can feel the tiredness and stress that I have never felt before. There are times I almost wanna give up. This becomes a routine and I can say that it is really tiring but on the other side fulfilling.
It all started from the day I woke up. During weekends, even though Saturday and Sundays are my restdays, I still sleep late so I woke up late. I will be fixing the bed once my son and my nephew or niece wokes up, too. We sleep in the living room area only using the sofa bed. Sofa in the morning and bed during sleeping tine. Once it is fixed as a sofa, I will be sweeping the floor and once I went to the bathroom which is beside the kitchen, a lot of dirty dishes is in the sink. I cannot stand seeing them dirty so I will wash the dishes first then wipe the sink, the cooking range and the table. I always do them before taking my '***brunch***". Brunch meaning breakfast and lunch together since I woke up late. I want to wash the dishes first before eating. I want everything clean before I eat so that I won't do much after I ate.
I have to feed my son. He is a picky eater so there are times he does not eat rice if he does not like the food. He will just drink milk and eat cookies. But when you served him with "instant noodles", he will surely like it. I admit that instant noodles are not healthy but I need to serve it to him because he eats a lot with rice. But its not everytine. I cooked it once in a while for him. Then, I will bathe him. After that, I can just sit donw for a while and watched over our small store.
At night, I have to cooked rice Sometimes its my niece. Then, I will feed my son again. I take a bath at night. Then, I will sweep the floor, wipe it before fixing the bed. I do it every night. If I won't do it, who else will do?
Cooking of food is done by my father or sometimes my sister mostly in the afternoon. Food for dinner can be the same food that will be serve for dinner. The rest is almost done by me. At night, I also make ice for selling. Especially if its summer or hot season, many people bought ice so I make 8-10 pcs everyday.
In reality, it is hard especially when I have work at night then I still have to take care of my son and there are dirty dishes in the kitchen. Sometimes I can't help but get mad or cry when I went to the comfort room asking myself If I can do it everyday. But I just said to myself that I can do it.
Aside from my daily job, I fulfill my duty as a mother. If only we could go out so that we can stroll again like we used to do before. I missed those days that during my restdays, I find time to let my son enjoy outside even with low budget only. We just eat out and buy something for him that we can afford.
**Being A Daughter**
Since I am still living in the house of my parents, I have to fulfill my duty as a daughter. My father is a moody person so there are times I get mad at him for having moods especially when he doesn't have money. I understand it because everyone gets moody when they have no budget but aside from that, he has his tempers. I still follow him but there are times I can't stand him. Also, the fact that my mother is gone so he has no one to talk to like before.
My father mostly get mad if the topic is about my partner. I have been open about it. He disagrees with our relationship but when my mom was gone, he spontaneously told me that my boyfriend can go and sleep in the house for 2 days every week. I agreed into it and thought it was very okay but when my boyfriend visited, you can see that he is in good mood to him but the next morning, his face is mad again. I thought everything is fine but I can see that he has different moods towards my boyfriend which I hate.
I have been good at home doing my responsibilities so I was expecting for a simple return even just for my partner. I just appreciate that my boyfriend understands the situation.
**Being A Sister**
Inside the house, I am a strict sister to my younger brother and even to my older siblings especially to my nieces and nephews. If I won't be strict, they can do whatever they want inside our house like not washing the dishes after they ate, using too much computer and not putting everything in place after using it. My mom used to be strict to all of us beforr so they cannot do almost all thinfs that they are doing now. They cannot stay up late in our house especially in our bed. My mom wilk got angry with that. They cannot eat all that we have in the table.
But now, they all changed. They will only move in the house if you told them to. Move meaning helping in the daily chores. It's as if they own the house. They can now do whatever they want. Being a sister, I do my resposibilities like washing the clothes of my younger brother and going out to buy what is needed at home like groceries.
**My Final Say**
Nothing is easy in n this world. We all have to work hard to get what we want. We just need to be stronger for our family. Understand each other and love one another.
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"You Loved Me Because You Needed Me" or "You Needed Me Because You Loved Me"
What is love?
Love is patient. Love is not boastful. Love is kind. Love is not selfish. We define love based on how we experienced it.
For me, love is what you give without expecting anything in return. It is the feeling of happiness seeing the person you love. You still have the feeling of "giggle" when you see him. It's like only the two of you and no one is around when you look and talk to each other.
*You Loved Me Because You Needed Me"* or "*You Needed Me Because You Loved Me*
This is from the famous line from a Filipino movie. I know some can relate. For the readers, the title itself is dramatic and its true.
**Disclaimer**: It doesn't apply to me. I just want to make an article about this.
At first, I thought there was no difference between the two lines and that the words were just jumbled but there is.
**"**You Loved Me Because You Needed me"
Loving a person because you needed or wanted something in return.
For my own opinion, you are using the person in the first place. You may have an intention for loving the person but mainly for a reason. It may be fancy or real.
Fancy because you never love the person, you just needed him/her.
If you always ask for your partner in terms of material things like money, buying new clothes or shoes or other stuffs, you only needed the person though you are showing the person that you loved him/her.
It can also be because of your sexual needs. You're longing for the person because of your physical needs. It's lust.
**What if that person can no longer give what you needed? Are you going to dump the person and find another one?**
Also, you needed the person because you only want someone to talk to when you are down or even happy but deep inside, its only a friendly affection. It's not love. You are using the person to make someone believe it's love.
Today, there are many "**May-December**" affairs. Usually, the girl is young and the guy is old. There is a big age gap difference. Some says that the old guy is rich that is why someone fall in love with the man because of his wealth. But for some, they fall in love with the old guy because of its good heart aside from its wealth. But of course, there are people who will continue to judge you.
But for some, they learn to love the person in the end. They fall in love with the kindness of heart.
**"**You Needed Me Because You Love Me"
In this case, there is no other reason why you needed a person. It's mainly because you love him/her. You are missing a person because of love.
I am in a complicated relationship but I can say that because of the people who are against us, it made our relationship stronger up to now. I loved him because I needed him. Not just because he gives me what I want but because he knows what I want wihout asking. I appreciate it. But more than anything else, we fight for love. We keep proving to everyone that no matter what happens, we will stay stronger for our son and for our relationship.
There is no material thing that you want. You just want to be with that person. You cannot live without that person you love. It seems something is missing in your life. Whenever you fight, you feel unease because your life looks incomplete. Its as if you cannot live without that person. He/she is your life.
You needed the person because you think your relationship is forever. When you think you found the right person, don't let that person go.
They say there is "the one that got away". The person that is meamt for you but leave you or you left that person. He is the one you truly love or truly loves you but your relationship did not end well. You will just realized afterwards that the person you let go is the one you should be living forever with.
My Final Say
"You needed me because you loved me" or "you loved me because you needed me". Whatever options, it still means there is still the love but in different ways It may be bad or good.
We will find that true love. Someone who needs us Someone who love us.
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Live Each Day As If It Was Your Last
What will you do if you found out that you only have 24 hours to live?
What is the first thing you will do?
Are you going to ask for forgiveness for the people you have sinned?
Are you going to visit a place you wanted to go? Let's say, visit a friend you're longing.
Or eat all day? Sleep all day? Or just sit back and wait for your time to end? Do nothing but think.
It just simply means that if we knew our last day, we will do something that we have never ever done before. We will prepare for it. We will plan for it. But what if, we never knew our last day? In reality, no one can tell our last day on earth. Only God knows.
***My Motto In Life***
I was once asked by a friend about my motto in life and suddenly, I came up with this: "*Live Each Day As If It's Your Last*"
For me, this is a very true and very powerful saying. We are not sure of our future. So spent everyday to your best as if its your last day.
Let us not overthink about the past nor the future. Let us just enjoy the present. If we keep thinking on the past or the future, we will not be enjoying the present because we are not focused for today. Our minds are already planned on what we will do in the future.
It is normal to prepare for the future especially when we got old like preparing for our life insurance, retirement plan and also if it's for our family' future.
But we should not focus on it that we no longer enjoy what we have today.
What if we just make everyday our last day? Make it fruitful and enjoyable with family and friends.
Everyday is a challenge. We don't know what's gonna happen today, tomorrow, or by the next few days or weeks.
Life is full of surprises. Today, I may be sad and depressed but I know tomorrow, I will be a happier and stronger me.
We should live each day by giving our 100% of our best. Giving the best in our work, at home and in anything we do.
**My Work**
During work, I make sure that what I am doing is correct and I exert all my efforts in anything I am doing. I make sure that I asks questuons whenever I am confused.
In our work, we started the process by receiving emails. We call it as a "requesr" from a client. That request may have "clear" or "not clear" description on what they want to update.
Because of that, we need to confirm and never assume. I treated every request as my last work. So I need to make some research before doing any update and I make sure that once I submitted it, it will be correct and on time.
What if its my last request? I am sure that the client will be happy with what I've done even for the last time.
I also try to be nice to my colleagues because I want them to remember me based on my good deeds. If in case it was my last day, atleast I will be remembered positively.
**My Mother**
If I only knew that it was the last day of my mother, we would have sent her to the hospital very early so there will be a big chance for her recovery. That I could spend more time with her, talk to her and make her feel loved. Or even better, her life might be extended.
**Me As A Mother**
At home, I always do my best in taking care of my son. Everyday, I make sure that I took care of him the best that I can. I always say to my son that I love him. I am always at his side. I always make him feel that he is not alone and he will never be.
**Me, Myself and I**
I am an overthinking and pessimistic person. I think too much. And I realized, I worried a lot for my son and my loved ones that I looked crazy because I am always thinking negatively.
But now, what I did is to pray to help God control my enotions and help myself also to overcome my fears. I just dwell on everyday happening, face it and make it worthwhile.
**My Final Say**
If I have 24 hours to live, I will spent it with my whole family and thank God for the life.
But of course, no one wants that to happen. So I will pray to God for my whole family and loved ones a longer and happy life.
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I Am The Perfectly Imperfect Mother For My Perfectly Imperfect Son
As parents, we all need to be proud of ourselves. I am a mother of one and proud of raising my son. I am a single parent but with the help of my partner and my family, I am raising my child well. FF
Nobody is perfect in this world. But that doesn't mean we are not doing good. We are doing enough. We are the super hetoes for our children.
"*Why did I say that I am perfectly imperfect?*' This is because I am trying to be perfect for my son. I gave him all the love he needed everyday but I know that I am not the best when it comes to being a mother. Everyones makes mistake and those mistakes makes us better.
***Being The Perfect Mother***
I always look for my son 24/7.
I was so grateful that even there is pandemic, it gives me the opportunity to work from home and gave the whole time with my son that I never did before.
I make sure that he can eat what he wants as long as I can aftord to buy. I also allow him if he wants to play gadgets or playstation.
I also make sure that even he plays using gadgets, he still make time to interact outside.
I allow him to play with his playmates but in a limited time and with guidance. I also make sure that he enjoys playing with them and that he won't get hurt. If he does, he has to realize that he should take care next time.
I also allow his playmates to play inside our house. For me, even I don't want them to play inside, its much better, so I can see what my son is doing.
I am very cautious when it comes to my son. know that other mothers understands me. I am always worried whenever he is outside. Maybe because he is my only child and he is very clumsy.
**Being The Imperfect Mother**
I know my imperfections as a mother and one of those is that I cannot control my son with his tantrums. It was my fault that I always give what he wants as long as I can.
I also let him grew up to be a spoiled child. I can see that he grew up spoiled since his father does not live with us. His father is strict that whenever he visited us, he always commands our son like eating with rice on time, sleeping early and taking a bath early which I cannot tell him and he was not used to.
His father has a strong loud voice so my son misinterprets it whenever his father asked him to do something. He thought that his father was mad at him so he cries. It was just his fathers normal voice.
Now, my partner is trying to be close at him so he visited us more often. I want them to be close to each other. If he grews up with his father, he will not be as spoiled as what he is doing now.
My son is addicted to gadgets. It was my fault because I did not stop him from the start. I thought he will not enjoy playing with it since he also played outside. But due to lockdown and we are mostly inside the house, he always use my mobile. He used it more often than I do.
He does not want to eat rice often. He drinks milk but does not want rice unless he told me so. But he eats bread and fruits. He is a picky eater like me.
But I admit that as a mother, we always wants the best for our children. Whatever makes them happy is what we aim for so sometimes though we know its not good for them but it makes them happy, we still give it to them.
But there are times, I cannot give him what he wants. Like the expensive toys that he wants. He has lots of clothes and toys but these came from my nephew who is already grown up. I only bought him very few clothes and toys.
***My Perfectly Inperfect Son***
My son is Nathan. I mentioned it from my previous articles. I am a proud mother though he is spoiled.
He may be addicted with gadgets but he also learned a lot from it. He knows different games in my mobile but aside from that, I was amazed by his wide memories. He learned to speak english a few and he recalls some animals or anything that he watches.
I remember him when he says "elevator" or some words that he just learned from mobile. He is a smart kid.
But he has short temper when it comes to counting numbers or learning the alphabets. He will just walk away or try to divert his attention from other things whenever we teach him.
I wish that everything goes back to normal to have the face to face class. He cannot learn easily from online class or modular class. He needs personal interaction from his teachers and classmates who will turn out to be his friends soon.
***My Final Say***
Being a mother, we have our own way of teaching our children and training them. We have our own way to discipline them
Sometimes I cannot control myself pinching him when he is acting too much. But I told him that I did hurt him because he has done something wrong.
I always tell him that we love him.
We are lucky to have our children. That we have our family. They are blessings from God
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Poverty and Wealth.. The Very Big Differences In Our Society
I admit that I grew up in poverty. We were raised by our parents by their hard work. They don't have a stable job and we only rented house from time to time. But the good thing was that my parents raised us well and gave us the right to education.
Many people in the world are experiencing poverty due to different factors and it includes overpopulation and unenployment.
I have seen our life into many struggles.
When we have long lists of debts to our neighbor who has "sari-sari store" and where to get the food everyday.
There were changes in our lives and I thank God for that.
***My Poverty***
When I started working, that was when I realized the value of money. I have to work 13 days to earn a little amount of salary before for my family. 13 days of hard work with overtime pay. I was starting then so my salary is too small.
Everytime I finished my contract from my previous jobs, I applied hurriedly to other companies because I don't want to be jobless for a long period of time.
***Education***
If you don't have enough money for the education of your children in a private or exclusive school, you can enroll them to a public school but you will see the difference in learning.
In a private school, only limited students are allowed inside the classrooms which means teachers can focused on all students.
They have great and clean facilities for the students. The school buildings are new and renovated. Their topics or lessons are advance compared to public schools.
While in a public school, crowded students can fill up the classroom. The facilities are old and the topics were not advance.
They have the same amount of education but in different ways.
***Employment***
Once we graduated, it is time for job application.
In every job application I encounteed, I saw how hard it is to be poor. Some companies discriminates the school where you graduated. They prioritize those who came from the "known" schools.
If you came from a prominent school, you will be noticed first by the interviewer because of the school you've been. So if there were multiple applicants from different schools, school matters to "some".
You also need money for the transportation and the patience to wait for the interviewer. Then you have to prepare for the requirements which also needs money to prepare.
You also needed the medical examination and wait for the result. The process were hard and expensive before you got the job. If you don't have the budget for the application, then it is hard to get the job.
***Justice***
I can say that nowadays, if you have the money, you are powerful. Powerful to control the law.
I mentioned this from my previous article the difference between rich and the poor in terms of justice.
If you are rich and powerful and you committed a crime, you have a great chance not to be convicted. Your money says it all.
But if you are poor and you committed a sin, you have a chance to be convicted. You need to have enough money to get a good lawyer for you to win the case.
***Everyday Lives***
Its hard to survive nowadays especially this pandemic. Even those people who are wealthy and owns business suffered bankruptcy due to lockdown.
If wealthy people suffered, what more to those in need?
If wealthy people can eat three or four times a day, poor people don't know where to get everydays meal. They have to work daily to meet daily needs.
What more for the monthly bills to pay?
***Shelter***
We can see the difference in terms of shelter between the wealthy and poor .
If you aee poor, you only rented or some doesn't have shelter at all. They lived along the streets.
Some owns the house but only in a limited space.
Some are crowded and living in a squatters area.
While the rich one, lived in a private village in big houses or some lived in beautiful condominiums.
**Medical Needs**
Its hard to get sick nowadays. We all need to be healthy for our family.
If we got sick, we need to pay everything including the room, the doctors fee and the medicines we needed.
It's hard to afford all those if we are poor.
Some hospitals needed admission fee before they can accept the patient..
Also, if the patient has already recovered but not yet paid with the bills, they are not allowed to be released yet. What if you are poor and you dom't have money to pay?
Your bills will get higher until you have money to pay them.
Only the rich people can afford them.
We can see the big difference between the rich and the poor. But no matter what our status in life is, we need to continue working and also save for the future. Life is like a wheel. Sometines you're up and sometimes you're down but we should not give up.
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The Best Things in Life Are Free
They say that the best things in life are free. Do you agree? Well, it depends on how a person defines the best things for them.
It can be material or non-material things that makes us the best. They are free and anyone can afford whatever your status in life is.
***These are Free***
When we want something in life materially, we pursue it by working hard to earn more and by saving money. But what are those best things in life that are free?
The below are based on my observation:
***Love***. It is considered one of the best things we experience in life. From the band song"The Beatles" "**Money Can't Buy Me Love**". That is true. We cannot pay someone to love us back.
If we admire someone deeply and we want the person to love us back, the only way we can do is to tell the person how we feel and show it. If the person cannot love us back, all we need to do is to accept the fact. Maybe there is someone meant for us.
But if that person loves us back, it is much happy feeling. No amount of money can compare.
***Happiness/Laughter***. What makes us happy? The simple things that makes us happy includes our family and friends. If we love our job. If we eat our favorite foods. If we sleep enough. If we won in the game. If we were able to talked to an old friend. If we have a date with our partner. Those are the few things that makes us happy.
They say that laughter is the best medicine. It changes ones moods into happy vibes and eveything seems positive.
***God***. We are lucky that there is God above us. We can talk to him for free. All we need is prayer to communicate. When we have wishes that we want to come true, we just need to talk to him and he will answer it by patiently waiting.
When we simply want to talk to someone when we feel there is no one listening, he is just there waiting for us to speak to him.
***Mornings***. Everyday we wake up is a blessing. It means another life to face.
We usually greeted a person "Good morning" because we are thankful for another day. We share it by greeting another person.
***Family*****.** All of us are born with a family. A mother, father and sister and brother. by They were given to us to support and love us. They are the one who will never give up on us. Best people received from God.
***Air***. Air is essential in life. Like water, we cannot live without the air that we breathe. It was given for free and everyone can have it.
***Sunlight***. Sun gives us heat and energy.
***Rain.*** *After the heat, we are given rain which gives us warmth and hydrates our environment.*
We are lucky that we don't need to buy those things for us to enjoy and live. We all need to make our living worthwhile and by not wasting our time.
***But Money Makes The World Go Round***
Indeed. They say money makes the world go round. Well, not all things are free. There are also many things that we need to pay.
We need to earn money to buy our favorite clothes. Some of us invests in their clothes. They make sure that they have the latest collection of their favorite clothes. Some are expensive, while some are affordable. But no matter what the price is, as long as they bought what they want, it made their day.
If you have money, you can change the law. If you disobey it we but you are powerful enough, you can get away from imprisonment. If you will go to jail, you have a chance for the good treatment inside.
But if you have nothing, you cannot defend yourself in the court for lifetime imprisonment or any decision from the court. These happens nowadays.
Some can afford to give an education to their children until College while some cannot. After high school, some students who cannot afford to study will just look for a job to help their family rather than pursuing their dreams..
As I always say, let us enjoy life. Some can have it all while others have nothing but let us just continue with our life and try changing it for the better.
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The Realizations of A Very Dependent Girl
They say "No man is an island." We cannot live on our own. We needed someone in our lives. Someone to depend on. It can be our family, wife, husband, our children or a friend.
Here in the Phililppines, we grew up to be an extended family. Most of us are still living in one roof with their parents even they got married and with children. This is due to financial reasons that we cannot support the shelter and food for our own family.
It has been 4 decades of my existence and I grew up with my parents. Since birth, I was never separated from my family. Even now that I have a child, I still live with my parents. I have not experienced living alone or living away with them.
***My Realizations***
When my mom passed away, I realized a lot. There are times I felt alone though my father and siblings wre there. I felt alone because no one understands my pain. It is hard when you lose someone you greatly depend on.
I cannot tell to my family how hard I am feeling even right now Maybe they thought I am tough that they don't see me cry. Before, it was always my mother whom I confide to in any problems that is why it is hard.
I grew up to be depending on my mother a lot. It may seemed bad but that is how I grew up. My mother washes our clothes. She also cooks for us. I never learned to cook. I always demanded on the foods she cooked. If I don't like it, she will cook what I wanted.
I learned washing the clothes when I have a son. I noticed that there were lots of clothes in the kitchen. It was mostly my sons clothes. So I tried washing it. My mother noticed that there were still dirt and stains on the clothes until she taught me how. Since then, I tried washing our clothes but if I have time only.
I think I adopted my mothers traits. How strict she us inside the house. She doesn't want us to be noisy when my nieces and nephews are here. At night, she want them all to be in their own houses so that it will be quiet. She does not want us to spend money whenever we order online.
Even we are too old, she still texts or calls us when we go home late. She still scolds us like we are young. She still controls us in other matters. Sometimes it's annoying when she controls us but now I am missing it.
Now, since I don't know how to cook, I need to eat whatever they served at home. My father usually cooked or my sister. There are times I don't want the food but I still eat it since I cannot cook for myself. It may sounds funny but I felt pity for myself because I cannot eat what I wanted. I can ask my sister what I want to eat but if she is in their house already, I will just eat anything.
I also noticed now that there were many clothes in the kitchen. Now, my brother is the one who washes our clothes most of the time by using washing machine. But since he is working, he only washes the clothes during his restdays. So I tried washing our clothes but by hand washing since I don't know how to use the washing machine. I realized how hard it is to wash the clothes everyday that my mother does.
I also noticed how my fathers mood changes. Before, it was mostly my mother who decides at home especially with the budget. She is the one who gets moody because if her decision was not followed, she got angry. Now that my father is the one responsible to us, he is the one who gets moody now. But I understand him.
Whenever I want to buy something, I still ask for my mothers decision before. If there are problems, I want her to know it first. It's not just depending but also trusting her.
***My Final Say***
I depend much on my family rather than being independent. I want to learn how to cook so I can also help in the family. When you are dependemt, you cannot decide for yourself. You always ask for others advise.
That's what I am now. I cannot stand on my own. Even my mom is gone, I still ask for my sisters decision or my family's decision. It was so hard but I am trying to be independent one at a time. I also need to teach my son to be independent as he grows up.
All of us have issues in life but we can all resolve it. As long as we live, we can still survive.
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How I Am Before and What I've Become Now
The only permament thing in this world is change. Other than that, all of us changes. Our looks, body figure, age, skin or even our status in life changes.
I came up with this topic while I was thinking what has change in my life. "What I am before and what I've become now."
I can say that I become more matured. Aside from my age, I should really be matured but going back to the days I've been doing before up to now was a big change. But in a positive way.
***THEN***
I remember those times when I was a teenager. I'm a home buddy person. After school, I hang out with my classmates once in a while but once I'm home, I will not get out of the house. I'm just inside watching television or listening to the radio and cleaning the house. It was my routine before. I am addicted to cleaning our house.
Some of my neighbors do not recognize me except neighbors near us. They were only familiar with all my family except me because I don't get out of the house. They were not familiar with my face. I became too shy.
Even we have "sari-sari" store, I am shy to go to our store if someone is buying. I will call my mother to assist them.
The reasons I only go out aside from school is when we visit our relatives or any special occasions that I need to attend. I am a very unsociable person.
Also, if I need to go outside, I need to take a bath first, I need to look good to everyone who will notice me.
After I graduated, it became worse. I dont have time to hang out with my friends until I found a job. I just stay at home during my restdays.
My main reason is due to my facial problems. I got acnes and it gets worse because of my nightshift job. Because of that, I lose my self confidence. I felt that people who saw me focus more on my acnes whenever they saw me. I got paranoid. I want to go out at night so no one will notice my face.
When I got a job, I can buy clothes, shoes and bags for myself. I can also buy stuffs for my mother and my family. This is because I am not in-charge of all the bills at home. I am not that serious when it comes to my family's responsibility before.
**NOW**
When I became a mother, I felt and I knew I need to become stronger no matter what. I am still the same shy person who does not get out of the house but now, I need to go out because its needed.
I need to go out to buy diapers or groceries for our store and for my son"s needs when my stock is consumed.
Now, I can go out without taking a bath. Time matters to me. If I need to buy something, I will just change clothes and go out because I should go home early because of my son. I only go to near places so that I won't get caught in traffic and be home early.
I remember when my mother told me, that I only have one child but I looked like I have four children because of how I look. I can go out without fixing my hair, without applying powder on my face. I don't care how I look at all.
Especially now that my mother is gone. I felt how it is hard to be a mother of how many children. How she managed the household chores. I felt that I need to do what she does at home but I can't do everything she can. I don't cook and wash the clothes. I can clean the house, wash the dishes and do the groceries.
I am now the one who gets out any time to buy whats missing in our store. For example, we don't have eggs to sell. So i will go out to buy 1 tray of egg to sell to customers. Our store is only small and we don't have budget for many supplies. We only buy what my budget can afford.
Now, I want to be in charge of the store. I am not shy to face the people unless having long talks. I can just assist them on what they want to buy.
I am now focused on my family's needs rather than mine. As much as I want to buy new clothes or new things for me, I will just buy what is needed in the house. During paydays, I will just buy groceries at home and for our store.
In my mind, I want to buy something for myself but I want my son's need first. My salary is also enough for the bills and groceries only.
I can say that I become the stronger person now. I learned a lot from mistakes.
I can also talk to some of my neighbors. I tried to become sociable when people are buying in our store. It's my way of saying that I am a nice person.
I worry a lot. I always want to keep my family safe and in good health. But there is God who is with me and my family everyday.
My Final Say
You may have a beautiful face and a smooth skin for now but as times passed, you will become old and your beauty will fade. But you will always be remembered for a beautiful heart.
There is a rainbow after the rain. If our past has become worse, our present may be better and vice versa. We are the one who holds our success. We can change our future if we want to.
I realized a lot of things. I should be going out, be sociable, enjoy more, but now, I know I missed a lot but there is still the present and future for me to change.
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The Power of Imagination Works
We all have goals in our chosen crafts. Mainly, it is to be successful in what we do. I always believe that we all have our perfect timing. They say "Love what you do, and do what you love and everything else follows".
Now I can say that I am an offficial writer. In order to write, I need to be more creative in the articles or the topics I will be writing. Of course, its not just being creative, it also includes passion, perseverance, patience and determination to succeed. I truly believe that we all have our own distinct characters when it comes to writing.
I am amazed on the articles I wrote eversince I started here. I am looking forward to publish articles everyday. I wish I can also write as much others do.
But have we thought that this is because of our imagination. The power of our imagination works everyday as we write and read. Whatever comes to our mind is not just because of our talents but because we have a wide imagination that helps our topics effective.
Sources of My Ideas
**I usually got ideas while watching tv or videos or even ads**. There are times that my mind will just stop and focus on what I heard and saw until I get something into it.
**When I am reading other articles from Read.Cash.** It helps when you read a lot. I read mostly from the topics which are related to the topics I usually write. Most of my topics are my personal experiences, about my family, my son, some travel and random thoughts.
**I came up with topics when I am doing nothing.** Meaning, after work, when I cannot sleep easily. I just list down sample titles, then relax and think of more topics that I want to write.
**When the environment is quiet.** Because it is peaceful, your mind is able.to relax and great ideas came in. This is where the "power of our imagination works".
****A piece of advise****: When something in your mind pops up, it would be best to write it down immediately even just a single idea so that when you want to write, you can sekect any topics from the ideas you wrote.
**The Writers Block**
*Writers block is being unable to perform or write or have experience a creative slowdown.* It is impossible to make or create ideas in mind.
I never heard of this term before until I started reading and writing articles. At first, when I read the word itself, I never thought it might happen to me because a lot of things are running in my mind always.
But there are times when I experienced it. I think this is because of the different factors affecting one's mind. I listed few of my experiences:
**Lack of Sleep**. Since I work night shift, my body clock is not normal. My shift started from 9pm to 6am. There are times I sleep after shift without eating breakfast. I woke up at 11am or 12pm and that's it. I am lucky enough to have 4-5 hours of sleep. I also have a child to take care so I need to woke up early, too.
During this time, I cannot think of better ideas. It looks my brain was stuck. I felt my ideas are running away from me that I cannot follow them. I became easily upset and cannot focus on what I want to do.
**Distractions.** It can be anything that distracts your mind like problems at home and at work. As much as you want to read and write topics, your ideas are being covered by those problems.
**Excitement.** This is based on my experience only. Whenever I published an article and got good tips from Rusty and other writers, I felt so much joy and my mind is telling me to write again. I am already thinking on what to write and that I need to finished it to earn more. But because of that excitement and eagerness, I don't know where to start. I tend to be overthinking of the topics to write.
**Stress**. I mentioned from my previous articles that most of my topics are depressing because of my mothers loss. I did write articles about it in order to fight the stress and depression but it was really hard. I was thinking of it over and over again that all of the articles I wrote are all about sadness. I cannot think of happy thoughts during these times.
**Rusty's Tips.** Here in Read.Cash, we are rewarded through random rewarding. There are times I don't receive enough tips from the articles that I felt were interesting upon writing but there are also those times which I earned enough or bigger tips than I expected from Rusty and other writers. I have been honest that when I received earnings here, I became eager to write and write more But during those times that I don't earn enough than I expected, it came to the point that I don't want to write. I became lazy in writing articles.
My Final Say
I know I have to learn more from writing. I still have to read a lot. To write a lot. I have to imagine a lot which will help me in my future articles. i should focus on writing during my free time because I noticed that I only write 2 -3 articles per week. I hope I can improve to 4-5 articles. I enjoy what I am doing I enjoy that I am earning. I also saw great writers in Read Cash. I can see how everyone grows.
I can see how their imagination works.
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