The title is derived from a song that I just heard a couple of weeks ago. The title looked positive because it is about being happy but in reality, the complete line of the song is "But why can't I be happy for you?"
When I just heard the song, I already asked my niece about the title of it. It was too emotional. You can feel that the artist gives justice and a lot of emotions to how she sang the song. It was as if she was heartbroken herself and was crying. For me it makes singing effective. You do not have to cry literally but you just look like crying while singing. By putting yourself into that situation.
I fell in love with the song right away. I am not heart-broken but it feels I can understand the person who is in that situation.
Why Can't I Be Happy For You
In every relationship, there is heart-aches or joy. Others lead to happy ending while some ended up with nothing.
Once the relationship ends, it felt like our life has to end also. This is what happened to others when they part ways or ended their relationship with their partner. It is hard to let go. But we need to move on.
But how to move on from the past?
For me, it depends on the gravity of your past relationship.
It doesn't depend on how long it was.
Even If you had a 6-10 year relationship, but all those memories were almost hatred and full of fights, it doesn't make sense. You just prolonged the relationship maybe because one of the couple is trying to save the relationship while the other totally don't care at all.
But if you had a 1-3 year or even 6-10 year relationship but those were meaningful and full of love relationship and a sudden heartbreak happen for whatever reason, it is painful.
But how can we move on?
Why is it hard to move on?
There are different reasons why a people cannot move on easily from their past.
He/she is your first love. You love the person too much. You've beem selfless in loving the person and you devoted all your time to that person. It is hard to move on because you are with that person.wherever you go. You dreamed together.
Since you parted ways, it's hard to start all over again. Yoi don't know where to start and all you think about is that person.
Your break-up is emotional. You both have a wonderful relationship.
You were physically and mentally abused. You escaped from a brutal relationship so when you parted ways, you developed a trauma that you can never.forget. You are scared to fall in love again because you think all men might hurt you again. You cannot entertain other people because your mind tells you not to fall again.
You still love him/her. This is mostly why we cannot move on. We are still expecting that the person will come back and reunite with us. We still love tthe person that instead of moving on, we are still waiting for him/her. We continue calling the person and sending text messages if he/she is still okay and when we receive replies, we thought that a person still loves us. But we did not know that we are the only one loving that person.
My Final Say
I am not an expert with moving on but I can say that it depends on how the person handles the break up and how to start again. If you have to cry, that is fine because you have to release the sadness or anger within. Meet with friends and talk about it.with your close friends. Go out and make yourself busy. You cannot forget a person easily but slowly it will happen. It is painful but it will make you stronger after
I won't lie it is never easy to move on if he/ she was the one that broke your heart. At one point or the other you will always have a glimpse of that memory